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Topic: better to be unsaid?
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virgo
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posted June 25, 2005 02:57 AM
 
ok tell me if this is right.....
cause I've been thinking about it. Is it sometimes better to leave something unsaid?
Like never tell the person how you feel about them...or actually never talk to them....and even if you take the chance to talk to them..there is a 98% chance your going to get hurt. so is it just better to not say anything at all..and then eventually it wont be on ur mind so much but ofcourse your never going to forget it.
so I'm just saying...if you really want to tell the person how you feel about them but there is a great chance your going to get hurt will you still tell them?.....or when it comes to these kinds of sitiution..is it better to be left unsaid?IP: Logged |
nove731
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From: Strasbourg, France
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 25, 2005 03:06 AM
Depends. If you're never going to see them again - I say go for it. If they're going to be a constant, I'd keep it to myself. I think that's my Virgo Rising, and Venus in Pisces talking right there, though. :-PIP: Logged |
virgo
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posted June 25, 2005 03:28 AM
Its not that easy. ok..let me explain. March...a small theatre company came from L.A to do a play..they were on tour...and I was asked by the traveling agency who was sponsering them to come to help out with the stage..since im an actor and experienced..i could help out a bit. met one of the actors...i knew there was something bout him the secound i saw him..and fell in love once he came over to me and said hi...and we got really close that night while we were setting up stage and getting ready.
and i flirted like crazy...and that never happens because i suck at flirting...we got really close and i could tell there was special there....we went to his hotel after....he was giving me a tour...gave me quick kiss....and that was it...than the whole cast went clubbing and i couldnt get in cause im still 18...so i decided to leave with him the next day and go to the states..(i live in Canada)..and be with him while hes doing the play and get back the next day..even if it was for one day...we both wanted to be with eachother really bad..and that whole night when we were together..i knew it wasnt fake..and he wasnt just playing with me.
but i couldnt leave with him the next day cause of ride problems...so i was gonna meet him in san fran next month..we e-mailed eachother back and forth for a week..than he stoped e-mailing me..and i felt ****** cause i thought it was because of me.
than i found out that one my friends..that got me the job to help out with the play in the first place..found out we had a thing...cause he had called thanked my friend for all the help and that he had alot of fun with me..and my friend found everything and made him e-mail him all the e-mails i sent him..and than he told him to stop e-mailing me...and i got really ****** off that he said that to him..but than he said that he told him not to e-mail me if hes just going to play me....than i found out he had 2 different gfs in different cities....
ok..yes i know hes like that..and u can say all you want..but it was different with us. i know he does this all the time...but with him it wasnt fake...he wanted me to come to l.a and be closer to him. i know it sounds like wow what a **** head..but hes not.
but anyways...its been 2 month..and i just cant let it go.......i was only with this guy for 8 hours...but it was just different..
it hurts that he just stoped e-mailing me..
hes a cancer too....i just found his website a few days ago..he owns a film company...than i found his profile on those friendster.com websites...and it just made me want to be with him more....
and u know what..thats fine. its the wrong time for us to be together....we met eachother at the wrong time....
but i just cant leave it like this...how can u? he was one of my first real kiss...i just cant let it go..i feel like i need some clouser...like i need to tell him how i feel bout him....i have a feeling that my friend lied to me..the one that told him to stop e-mailing me....
its just the whole thing feels wrong to leave it like this....and i dont want to add him on to that website..on to my profile..the website is kinda like msn..but u cant instant messge..kinda weird..but i dont want him to think im some kind of weirdo..and in a few years i have to move to L.A for my career..and wer both in the film biz....and the film biz is a small world..and i dont want a bad thing between us..i still want to be able to send my **** to his company and audition..i just dont know what to do...
it just feels wrong to leave it like this.....but than i could tell him how i feel and end up getting really hurt cause theres a great chance i wont get a reply back...since he never replied to my last 2 e-mails..in march when we were still talking..so yeah. i dont know what would u do?IP: Logged |
nove731
Knowflake Posts: 43
From: Strasbourg, France
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 25, 2005 03:42 AM
Ooh. Ick. Career versus personal interest. I don't know how to answer that, really, actually. Personally, I'd be focusing more on my career. I act, too, so I know the feeling. I actually major in Performance Theatre. Love, or Career? I guess it comes down to which is more important to you. I think I'd first work on the career. Then later on down the line get back into contact with him, and see where it goes from there. Heh, I know it's hard to just let something like that go, though, but you have to think long term. Where do you think that you're going to be in 20 years with both decisions? 50 years? Heh, it's almost three a.m., so I know that was **** , advice. Sorry I can't help more...:-/ IP: Logged |
SavageScorpio
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posted June 25, 2005 08:21 AM
I would think that it's better to tell the person. Sometimes it's really difficult to articulate how you feel verbally though, a lot of people I know have written me letters, and I've written people letters, etc...that way you always have it to read and you can think about it, etc. If it means that much to you, I would think you owed it to yourself to express it rather than keep it bottled up. IP: Logged |
ariestiger
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posted June 25, 2005 08:32 AM
Well, I had a crush on s/o for ages, I've got over it now and I thought they were gradually letting me go...on purpose...but they had made such a huge impression on me that I felt I needed to clear the air and tell them how I had felt, and how they had inspired me. Not with the intention of "winning them back", but just so they knew how I had felt, because I had never been affected in that way. I contacted them by missive...so as you say, Savage Scorpio, they will have a chance to read it. I tried to be objective and phlegmatic about the situation and very positive about the way I had felt about them, and attempted to keep my pride and a certain amount of dignity whilst doing so.Let me tell you that it took an awful lot of courage to do this (and that's coming from an Aries). Must be b/cos Mars is in Aries...LOL. I took the risk and put my head on the block and I think if you are strong enough to do this it can be a good thing. You will get hurt anyway if things are left unsaid for ages, because it diminishes the possibility that something constructive might actually be done abt. the situation (if you are a "doer" that is). From the other person's point of view it was maybe not fair to do what I did; they will probably be appalled, bored, or not care (they are the Scorpio with Venus-in-Scorpio from the thread of the same name) or maybe won't understand (heaven forbid). I (sadly) don't expect to hear from them again. A great shame, since despite the fact that we have huge differences, I found them amazingly inspiring - but maybe they thought I was just dumb, or shallow, or pathetic. I don't know. Who knows what people think. Anyway, I think it could have cleared the air. I couldn't bottle it up any longer (at 31, too old  ) (Sob) (pulls self together) NEXT! LOL AT IP: Logged | |
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