posted June 25, 2005 08:37 PM              

so i naturally have a few qs.

although I do feel as if i have some understanding of this wonderful guy, (hes an aries/gem, im a gem/scorpio with venus in aries), i would like to know a few things, answer whatever you feel you can answer!:

1. what makes u fall in love? what makes you STAY in love?

2. are you loyal? have you ever strayed? why?

3. what are the three most important things to know about you?

4. what is your sun/moon/venus/mars combo?

Here are his and mine personal planets:

HIS:
Sun -- Aries
Moon -- Gemini
Venus -- Aquarius
Mars -- Libra

ME:
Sun -- Gemini
Moon -- Scorpio
Venus -- Aries
Mars -- Gemini

i look forward to hearing from u wonderful ppl!

posted June 25, 2005 09:01 PM            

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1. what makes u fall in love? what makes you STAY in love?

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Heh, When I fall in love, I'll tell ya'.

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2. are you loyal? have you ever strayed? why?

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Yes. I think it's pathetic that you would cheat on someone. Just break up with them, dammit.

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3. what are the three most important things to know about you?

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1.) I don't like being ignored.
2.) I'm not the most reliable person in the world, but I do try.
3.) I need space.

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4. what is your sun/moon/venus/mars combo?

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posted June 26, 2005 03:20 PM              

"husband was physically abusive"

Is this the Aqua guy you speak of and are you still with him girl, didnt he put you down in front of that woman you both worked with, am a bit worried for you, are you okay?

Love and hugs

posted June 26, 2005 05:18 PM              

its kind of surprising that there really arent that many aries around here! now that i think about it the forum seems to revolve around a handful of signs, wish we had a more diverse showing here,

in any case, ,thanks for ur replies, now i have a list about 1000 things long of things i can do or say to be careful of his feelings. lol. (like ill really be able to! but i shall try).

what had me worried most was that, the first guy id ever been with was also fire/air (leo/aqua though), and he turned out to be a sleazeball (jilted me at the altar!) plus he was lyin and cheating on several women, one who was his wife

it made me super careful of fire men, i would avoid them like the plague! of course it probably had more to do with him than with his placements, but when u go into reactionary mode all those things can make one v paranoid,

this guy is also a fire/air, but he is cardinal/mutable and aries/gem not the fixed/fixed leo/aqua guy before, also his sun/moon have positive aspects and his entire chart has a lotta trines etc., the one glaring opp. is sun/mars, the 1st guy had a sun/moon opp., i think he had multiple personality disorder or something! made me v wary of leos, him and my mom together!

well i hope to hear from more aries ppl out there , and much love to all of u

posted June 26, 2005 05:26 PM              

all of u say that u are v loving, and caring, in what way do you show ur love and care?

nove:
1. what do you mean by not being reliable?
2. what does space mean to you? (im assuming ur a guy here) would u let ur girl/sig other know about ur friends, ur friends of the opp sex, what ur doing when ur not around them, is that too invasive? what about ur hang time with ur own pals, would u like to take ur sig other with u or is that alone time for you away from your sig other?

aries chick:
its interesting that you say you hold grudges becoz this guy does too, lol. and what exactly do you mean by, scorpionic vibes? something that intrigues me is that, i have scorp moon and i was wondering if his demeanor and his intensity appeals to my scorp moon. although aries/scorp is traditionally incompatible becoz of the element differences there seems to be more similarities , expressed in different ways because of the mars energy manifesting itself in both signs (kind of like mercury connects virgo and gem, my first husb being a virgo), or taurus and libra with the venus ordeal.... ?

also, aries chick, do you feel that the intensity of your feelings fades over time? i guess what i am tryin to ask is, are you passionate by nature or by circumstance??

i know so many people who lose their passion, their intensity, after they are in long term commitments. honestly, i can never live life like that, i would cop out, and head for the next best thing, because lack of passion is my number one pet peeve in relationships

posted June 26, 2005 05:27 PM              

any examples?

thanks you guys, keep it coming!

posted June 27, 2005 08:41 AM              

I am determined in that when I set myself a task, I do everything possible to accomplish it. I can usually weave compromise into it somehow (but, er, usually my goal comes first). I tend to set myself achievable goals but nevertheless think BIG.

I don't want to put too much of a dampener on things, but Aries women are generally more steady than Aries men (I'm just thinking of my father here).

Sue g - my husband tried to throttle me several times and when I had fibrocystic breasts he used to grab them really roughly - on purpose. Or squeeze my stomach really hard when I had period pains. This is one reason why I would NEVER have a child with him, because I couldn't trust him, if he did that to me when I was pregnant, it could have serious consequences. He is also very irresponsible and childish in other ways. It's okay at the moment (worst in the winter) - but I never know when it might start up again so I am wary. With luck I might not have to deal with it for much longer. I was away by myself for a week recently and it was SO peaceful!!!

LOL

posted June 27, 2005 09:17 AM            

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1. what do you mean by not being reliable?

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If I don't want to do something, quite frankly, I'll probably blow it off, without much thought.

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2. what does space mean to you? (im assuming ur a guy here) would u let ur girl/sig other know about ur friends, ur friends of the opp sex, what ur doing when ur not around them, is that too invasive? what about ur hang time with ur own pals, would u like to take ur sig other with u or is that alone time for you away from your sig other?

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By space I mean like, being with my friends, and not having to drag her along all the time. I don't like that. I don't want to have to be called 6-7 times a day. I don't want to have to be late to class or some crap like that, because she doesn't want to go to her locker alone or something. I think that's stupid high school crap. If I'm with my friends, I wouldn't want to take her along, because most likely, she'd want me to be paying all the attention to her. Which...yeah, that's not why I'm hanging out with my friends.

posted June 27, 2005 12:45 PM              

So far, I've fallen in love once. He fit a lot of things I was looking for and because of that, he was easier for me to get along and be with.

are you loyal?

Towards a boyfriend, I am loyal as long as the trust, respect and honest companionship are reciprocated equally or more, and without unreasonable expectations. My life is too short to play martyr to anyone if someone is not treating me the way I deserve to be treated.

Now loyal does not mean I will ever stop talking and making friends with the opposite sex. A lot of relationships have that stipulation, and I personally will not stand for it. I like people a lot and love to relate with interesting personalities of both genders.

And loyal does not mean I stop having a life of my own. I make time for a lot of healthy activities (like sports and socializing) and will compromise, but will not give them up because a guy does not like them and threatens to leave.

I am loyal to the extent that if I believe in someone and have invested time and effort in getting to know them, I will be there. I am a supportive, and motivating individual and am selective in who I choose as friends. I am generous with my time, listening space, love, advice, money, and patience.

what is your sun/moon/venus/mars combo?

posted June 27, 2005 01:50 PM              

After reading your post, you would actually be a good fit for me. Plus, my closest girlfriends have always been aries.

SG -

Thought it would be interesting to note that my daughter - we talked about similarities between the (2) of you on another thread - is an aries and currently involved with a gemini sun/sag moon. She has sag moon & rising - so gemini rules her 7th house. She also has mars in libra. Interesting.

I think it is good for your to get involved with a fire sign. We're hot stuff. What about when you go to CA in the fall? Will he also be located there?

Key

posted June 27, 2005 01:52 PM            

with an Aries/Gemini combo the important thing to remember is that they'll resent any jealous/possessive behavior on your part. It goes hand in hand with the trust issue which is important to an Aries.
Because hes fire, passions run hot so you may feel the old "double edged sword" where you may see his own outburst especially if you're a babe

posted June 27, 2005 04:16 PM              

I don't have anywhere to "go" as such at the moment, but I will be arranging accommodation over the summer, these changes are positive things, they are exciting me, they need to happen. Positive, affirmative action is the solution and I don't feel nearly so bad about the whole situation now as I have done for the past couple of years. He is stuck in a rut, he doesn't want to go anywhere or do much, but I don't need to go along with that.

I would LOVE some light!! Please, send some to me!!!

posted June 28, 2005 08:10 AM              

Action! I love the buzz. The busier the better. I admire people with busy schedules as long as they are not too busy to be with me.

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2. are you loyal? have you ever strayed? why?
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Yes - to a certain point.
When I am unhappy, I waste very little time correcting it. But when I "stray" I don't go back. I consider it straying when I found someone else to be with while haven't officially broken up with the current partner.

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3. what are the three most important things to know about you?
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Don't like clingy people. You have to be as independent as I am. But not too independent that you would ignore me.

Conversation & connection is very important. I need to stay connected to my partner. I have a tendency to "wander off" mentally if I get bored with him. Common interests are very important to me.

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4. what is your sun/moon/venus/mars combo?
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Sun - Aries
Moon - Taurus
Venus - Pisces
Mars - Taurus