posted June 28, 2005 03:29 AM              

Have you ever felt like someone has a very negative influence on you just by being there. Like their presence is so strong in such a negative way it completely throws you off balance and you feel kinda scared by them?

Or is that weird? Because I'm starting to think I'm being stupid thinking that or feeling that way when the person isn't doing something as such..it's just their whole aura, attitude..not what they say but the "way" they say it. I used to think this guy was nice years ago..Now he has a very cutting attitude and treats ppl like crap basically..like everyone's beneath him or something. Everyone sucks up to him..it makes me sick..somehow he sets things up in a way that makes other ppl scared of him and as a consequence they act like they worship him BUT bit*ch a lot behind his back..

All this wouldn't bother me(because it's towards other ppl) as much as the way he acts with me personally. He acts patronising, critical..acts like he's my dad basically - I know - WEIRD ..He's my age, well a yr older. I really don't think he has the right to do that. He loves putting me down to make himself feel better.. and he does that to other ppl also. He just has a very sharp, cutting attitude that completely rubs me the wrong way..

I feel restless, odd, scared around him..he seems like a bully to me. I try to stay away from him, but I'll always bump into him. It's like the more I don't wanna see him, the more I bump into him..

I also made a conscious decision to not be nice to him anymore and give him a piece of his own medicine..but that's going to be very hard because like I said he scares me.

I think the fact that I've always been very nice..in his mind that gives him a licence to act a certain way because he underestimates me..He thinks I'm not "strong" or something because I'm actually nice to people while he's a total prick..but you don't need to be abrasive and abusive to be "strong"..real strength is inner strength, it comes from the inside..and it involves being a good person..not strong in a bad/negative way (that just brings bad karma)..I really hope he learns his lesson somehow..

he is- Sun:Leo/Asc Libra..... me- Aries/Asc Gem
Moon: Scorpio....... moon - Capricorn
Mercury: Leo...... merc - pisces
Venus: Cancer...... venus - taurus (late aries but more like taurus)
Mars: Leo ...... mars - capricorn

posted June 28, 2005 03:39 AM              

Cancer Venus sees things in black and white I have found regarding themselves and everything is very personal. Just remember he is super sensitive and remembers every little thing. That is how he is powerful, he absorbs knowledge about you. Just keep your life to yourself and listen.

Being Aries that's tough and I have lots of Aries too so I know. It's necessary to be wired tight, keep it to yourself when you want to talk, and just smile and be agreeable. Do not let on what you are thinking so he can overreact.

Example I had a headache once when I was talking to this man, and instantly he thought it was about him and was very negative and sarcastic.

So now I never mention my problems except to go do something about them, in other words, I leave him alone, and help myself to some alone time which I need.

posted June 28, 2005 03:46 AM              

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Example I had a headache once when I was talking to this man, and instantly he thought it was about him and was very negative and sarcastic.

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Actually, I wouldn't be surprised if there was some misunderstanding in the past where he thought something was about him and it wasn't..and acts the way he does because of it..that's possible

Either way I just hope I wont see much of him.. because he really bothers me

posted June 28, 2005 03:51 AM              

ROFL

posted June 28, 2005 03:55 AM              

i feel my self overpowered by my mom's presence. she desires to dominate the scene. and when she doesnot get to do that directly she tries other tricks. she is very tricky in general. the first thing she does is try to break other focus and irritate them so that they quickly answer her stupid and suspious questions about situations or people.

for eg. i was talking to an aunt in my building and my mom was watching us from the balcony like a cat (leo sun) peeping out of the window out of selfish curiosity. then when i was home and thinking intensely about something she woul interupt endlessly and then ask her question. if unanswered she would ask again pretending she never ask it at th first place!

posted June 28, 2005 04:34 AM              

The reason that bothered me (what he said) is that for one I'm NOT an idiot..I know what grade I have to get at the end of the year..I have plenty of time till then..and I know what I'm doing. That particular test meant nothing and I barely even studied for it. When crunch time comes, when something's important ..even if I leave it till last min I still do my best and study all night if I have to and usually I nail it. I felt very patronised by him..and like he judges me and thinks he does it WELL..but REALLY he has no idea who I am or what I'm like..and it's sooo silly of him to understimate like that.

posted June 28, 2005 09:24 AM              

hi .. just been reading thru yer post .. there are ways to bring bullies to their knees ..
do you have his birth data .. i.e. for the full picture .. e.g saturn aspects etc etc ...
big egos are fairly easy to deflate .. also some ppl rely on other ppl being afraid of them ..
bullies are by nature cowards .. its a matter of finding the chink in the armour .. so to speak ..
and twisting a bit ..
post his d.o.b. etc if possible

posted June 28, 2005 09:46 AM              

HD his birth data is: edit

Thank you lots for having a look

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bullies are by nature cowards

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posted June 28, 2005 01:55 PM            

I am with a Taurus with Venus in Cancer (which is also conjuncted by his Saturn). He can be very critical, over-bearing and downright nit-picking. He tries to put me in my place at times and lecture me... There are times I want to snap back "Look, I am not a moron -I have a solid education, two degrees, managed a large product launch, ran two labs and now I am in public health- give me a freaking break with your conscending attitude".

Some of it boils down to the on-going Leonine lectures of all those that he regards as minions in his Kingdom (My Taurus is also a First House sun...so can be very Leo at times).

Some of it boils down to a desire to "look out for you" As though the above lectures will ever save an Aries (or Saggie like me) from leaping before we look if we have already made up our minds.

The last part... well, just male insecurity. They seem to think that by acting like a father / brother / mentor they will be doing us some kind of favor..LOL....fire girls don't respond well to that now do we?

posted June 28, 2005 05:54 PM              

Angela

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Scorpio/Leo/Leo

posted June 29, 2005 04:49 AM              

hehee lols @ Pidaua and AT..Pid, I haven't confronted him..I wanted to, on at least 2 occasions where I was at boilling point but he left before I could get a word out..which was even more annoying..says his beef, doesn't wait for me to say anything and leaves

I want to confront him..but I don't think he'll react well to that. I think whatever he does or says when confronted will leave me feeling worse than I feel now..just a hunch

He isn't really the type to be straightforward unless it suits him. If he was being (or felt he was being) attacked he's nooooot gona like that. He *acts* like he can be lighthearted and take a joke and stuff but NO he can't at all.

I remember last year, this Aqua guy (who hated him) put him in an awkward situation..so he (leo guy) pretended it was all cool, no probs and laughed it off at the time..but it was such an act, you could tell he was fuming on the inside. And suprise surprise, who ends up completely beaten up in the next few days? YES u guessed it..

He's a backstabber..that's the prob.. If I thought by confronting him, I'd get a reaction then and there..I'd do it.. But I'm pretty sure he'll pretend it doesn't bother him at the time and say something like "ya that's you opinion"..BUT then I'm sure he'll do something to me, something negative behind my back..obviously he wont bash me with 10 of his friends like the Aqua guy..but he'd do something..

So I don't wanna make it look like I'm completely *against* him either. I'll try to put it 'nicely' somehow or not tell him..just act colder and if he asked why then I could tell him..

posted June 29, 2005 07:28 PM              

For Now .. some chart data
( .. he would have to be an australian .. fairly 'macho' bunch down there )

posted June 30, 2005 12:48 AM              

his chart at astro..

for Leo (male)
born on 22 Aug 1985 local time 09:00 am
in Brisbane, AUSTL U.T. 23-00
153e02, 27s28 sid. time 07:12:57

Sun Leo 28°48'42 11 direct
Moon Scorpio 12°34'02 01 direct
Mercury Leo 13°16'42 11 direct
Venus Cancer 22°41'30 10 direct
Mars Leo 17°50'43 11 direct
Jupiter Aquarius 09°50'20 04 retrograde
Saturn Scorpio 22°03'32 01 direct
Uranus Sagittarius 13°57'46 02 stationary (D)
Neptune Capricorn 00°58'07 03 retrograde
Pluto Scorpio 02°23'13 01 direct

He has a few squares there in the transits..what would be a bully transit lol?

BoE, I know what you mean, I shouldn't be 'scared' of him..But I get bad vibes and it feels like he's unsettling I guess in a bad way..