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Topic: people who are afraid to love or
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shop22much
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posted June 28, 2005 07:43 AM
  
This might seem like a stupid question, but does anyone here have the fear of love? I mean, has anyone ever been in love but didnt go for it even if it seemed to be you molded together beautifully?
I assume most here arent afraid to love, but to the few who are, and to the few who understand these complicated creatures, please explain this to me. Though I am afraid of love at times, I know I wouldnt ever let a extraordinary person walk out my life, I wouldnt want regrets, I wouldnt want to say WHAT IF? how can someone be completely cut off to pursuing their emotions>?sun moon venus would be appreciated. IP: Logged |
thirteen
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posted June 28, 2005 10:37 AM
Sometimes a person doesn't even realize it but I'd say they don't feel worthy of being loved. Low self esteem. It is a common problem for many. That is why many will sabotage a good relationship if they happen to fall into one. IP: Logged |
maya-v
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posted June 28, 2005 10:43 AM
Im no expert but seems like someone with an aqua moon or strong Uranian aspects would perhaps nto realize just how much they are in love with someone till maybe its too late ... an afflicted natal venus or sometimes cancerian tendencies can also make a person scared.I have a mars conjunct venus in aries, in the eigth, opposite pluto in the second. So no, I have no problem knowing when someone is making my heart beat faster. In fact, I have to learn how to keep from telling them! IP: Logged |
scorpbaby
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posted June 28, 2005 10:55 AM
I have feared love many times and I feel it has become a significant problem. I think that the fear mainly comes from seeing my family members in unhealthy relationships growing up and currently (ie. parents, grandparents) Also my relationship with men in my family hasn't been exactly up to par, so there is a lack of confidence on my part in regard to men. I'm almost 20 and have had many opportunities to be in romantic relationships but I've restricted myself from becoming too involved and just cut them off. I still have the desire to be in love but when the opportunity presents itself, my worries tend to overcome the desire.
I think in a lot of ways my fears of being hurt has caused me to hurt others unintentionally by being so aloof. Sun Scorp, Moon Taur, Venus Libra 1st hs IP: Logged |
Tranquil Poet
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posted June 28, 2005 11:11 AM
I am afraid of love.
Anyone hurts me and they are out of my life for good.
I have always told people that I have dated that if they hurt me or lie to me then they are gone. And when it happens and I leave they wonder like idiots what happened.
The cancer in me and taurus might make me clingy but I'll tell you one thing.
If you f*$# with me then f$#@ off.
It always surprises them. They seem to take the clinginess as a weakness.
Oh well.
Mars in libra and venus in taurus. 8th house in aquarius  7th house in capricorn  ------------------
Gemini sun, Cancer rising, Taurus moon IP: Logged |
Lemingtyne
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posted June 28, 2005 11:50 AM
I fell in love with a young man I met my first year at college. I hope he'll be the only person I ever fall in love with. He had a gf when I met him, and we started out as really good friends. Later, he pursued me, everything was going perfectly, and I wanted nothing more than to be with him, but I was afraid of losing the friendship, afraid that we would end up hating each other.
A couple of years went by, we both dated other people and stayed just friends. I loved him, though, and eventually we hooked up. I guess that was a mistake, but I wouldn't undo it for anything. Things got weird, we stopped talking. My soul was broken and still sort of is. A couple more years have gone by now. I would love to have him back in my life again as a friend, the way it was in the beginning, but I don't ever again want to be in love with him or anyone else!
He and I were born on the same day and in the same city, so we have very similar charts. Our moons are a few degrees apart, but in the same sign, and our ascendants are about 3 signs apart.Sun in Libra
Moon in Taurus
Venus (unaspected) in Sagittarius IP: Logged |
nove731
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posted June 28, 2005 02:52 PM
Heh, I'm not afraid of that, specifically. I just don't like close relationships too much. Oddly enough, they're what I want. I blame my Moon square Venus on that.Sun - Aries
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kiwigirl
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posted June 28, 2005 04:44 PM
I am totally afraid of it. I want to desperately fall in love but because of past hurts i find it really hard to do so. I am a lot better than i used to be, now i let guys in but only so far......there is someone i feel a real strong connection with at the moment which doesnt ever happen to me and we could be in a full blown relationship by now but because of my fear of rejection and fear of loving and being loved it isnt happening.Sun in Scorpio, Moon in Gemini, Ascen in Pisces. Kiwi x IP: Logged |
dynamite
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posted June 28, 2005 05:23 PM
I'm always longing to be in a satisfying, commited relationship that lasts because I've never been in a real one. I've never been in a real one because i'm the type who needs "space" and I guess i'm scared of intimacy. I pursue guys who are scared of commitment because I know it won't last with them, and I ignore the ones who I know want a relationship because I know it'll last and that scares me. I think this is the curse of having Aquarius in the 7th house.There's this guy that I'm crazy about, we went out last summer and we still care about each other. Right now he's too busy trying to balance college and work so he doesn't have time for a relationship. Even though we're perfect for each other and there's a strong possibility we'll be together again, I'm gonna let him walk out of my life. I'm gonna let my "Leo pride" get the best of me. Those are my reasons for being afraid to love.. Sun in Leo
Moon in Taurus
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moonshine
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posted June 28, 2005 07:08 PM
This is so totally me. I also have sabotaged relationships and opportunities in the past - mostly becuase i am afraid to trust people with my real self. I always think that if someone gets to know me, like how I really want them to know me, they will go off me, or criticise me, or be generally disappointed with me. So i tend to stay detached and aloof, and I hate it. I have a strong cancer inflence in my chart (rising) and Moon opposition Venus, which I think has something to do with it. Basically I'm doomed.  IP: Logged |
suzyque
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posted June 28, 2005 07:22 PM
Moonshine i feel your pain, i have moon oppossed venus too and i too feel eternally doomed.And to address the topic i don't fear love but i do fear letting people get too close or being suffocated by love, if that makes any sense.
Sun Virgo
Moon taurus
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moonshine
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posted June 28, 2005 08:39 PM
Hi suzyque, its crap isnt it! I am also a virgo sun by the way.I also have a thing about freedom too. I most defintely resent feeling "trapped"in relationships, yet strangely that is what I want the most (in a way) this is what I've found about moon opp venus. Pretty depressing stuff...
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/astrological-aspects/moon-opposition-venus.php ...but in my case I relate to about 90% of it. woohoo IP: Logged |
amisha121877
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posted June 29, 2005 05:35 PM
 i use to cringe but I don't fear it anymore - talking about it helps a lot. go over and over and over with it to see what exactly about it you fear - no matter how redundant it is. IP: Logged |
Kat
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posted July 01, 2005 03:43 PM
Afraid to Love? Absolutely, it's a huge problem for me.
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taurean_scorpion
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posted July 02, 2005 03:30 PM
o yes...very afraid. lol i keep avoiding close relationships, ...with anybody.. :ekk:
must be those 12th housesSun Taurus
Moon Scorpio
Venus Gemini
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