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elemiah
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posted July 03, 2005 12:43 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi guys! I would like some input here. I know the topic of cancer guys seems to be everywhere but I wanted to give it another try!
Our suns square by sign, I need to talk and communicate, libra sun scorpio mercury, he is the quiet man, cancer sun cancer mercury. I tend to overanalize when I dont understand something, he doesnt. It took me 2 years to understand him ( and I dont know if I do yet, lol)and his moods, that on off thing, you know, one day youre the queen and the next...? Im all for balance and he unbalanced me big time!! My moon is aqua, his is Leo. I broke up twice, and made up three times, therefore were still together, lol, and in less than a couple of months were moving in together. Its absolutely crazy and a leap of faith, but faith I have ( God knows why, lol!!). Hes told me a million times that he loves me and it took me some time to believe it since I didnt "feel" it ( my venus in scorpio vs his venus in gemini)so guys, Im going back to the states again, Im Spanish myself, after having been back home for one year, and this time its for love. Crazy, crazy thing...
Cancer guys ( or girls with cancer partners), any input?? Id love to hear you.
Thanks to all of you, and sorry for bringing up the subject of cancers again, but, arent they just fascinating??

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elemiah
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posted July 03, 2005 12:48 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Forgot to say, Im crazy about him, LOL LOL!!

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beebuddy
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posted July 03, 2005 01:19 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
if a crab says he loves you then he wont leave you (not for long anyway).

his moods are basically feral and childlike and are activated by his susceptible stomach and sensitivity.

dont over-analyze him because its useless... he is not rational.

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leoelf
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posted July 03, 2005 02:09 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
LoL OMG . . .
My Cancer did talk about feeling sick to his stomache from all this drama that happened with us.
Yes, Cancer guys are amazing. I adore him completely. I have so much Cancer in my chart anyway, that it's only natural that I would feel so much for him.

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MoonDuchess88
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posted July 03, 2005 03:10 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Im a cancer, but not a girl. Try not to let him take you on emotional rollecoster rides. What I mean is don't let his moods affect you.

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elemiah
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posted July 03, 2005 03:25 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I KNOW what youre talking about moonduchess!!!

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Cardinalgal
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posted July 03, 2005 03:42 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi elemiah

It's so lovely to see you so in love with your Cancer guy! God isn't it a challenge to try to communicate between Venus in Scorpio and an air sign Venus!!! But we're getting there girl aren't we?! And don't talk to me about over-analyzing stuff!! Us Librans are some of the biggest culprits aren't we!?

I had a brief but beautiful relationship with a Cancer guy once and he was so gentle, tender and deep. No idea what his moon or ascendant was but I feel he must have had a great deal of water in his astrology as he was so sensitive and caring. Could also be incredibly moody and secretive about his feelings and I was often the recipient of the proverbial Cancerian 'punch the world on the nose before it punches you' attitude from him if I failed to be as loyal and understanding as he needed me to be.

But it's a relationship I remember very fondly and slightly wistfully (yes elemiah, you can now wag your finger and laugh at my double standards in the light of everyhting I've posted about my present partner's thoughts about his ex etc ) so they do have an extraordinary power and mystery about them, those Cancer men!

Sounds like yours adores you (and rightly so!) and I feel certain that your move will be a successful and truly fulfilling one

Lots of love and luck to you and your moon man

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elemiah
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posted July 03, 2005 06:22 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Cardinalgal!
Yes, were getting there, buckle up though!!!Lol
Youre a sweetheart. Thanks for your support, and yes, I think Ill enjoy the rideeee!!

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cancerrg
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posted July 04, 2005 01:14 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
my feeling : u took the right decision .

overanalyziation would be done tomorrow , in a hurry now . so , wait for my blabberig .

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elemiah
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posted July 04, 2005 01:33 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My feeling: I took the right decision as well! The future, right now, is not important, I hope its good though and its in both our hands, not just mine. He is sharp and very very witty, its only sometimes I dont get him or dont know what to expect or dont know whats on his mind, and I used to think there was something wrong. Im learning to understand we approach life differently and thats ok.
Anyway, cancerrg, Ill be happy to read your blabbering!!

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cancerrg
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posted July 07, 2005 01:56 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
sorry for being so late .
a bit busy these days , i need to answer a lot more threads but with so less time ...........


i can't say about the things in astrological terms b'cos i am myself quite new to them .

what i feel ( based on my observation) that cancers and libras get along quite well though we have quite big differences in our life style but there ofcourse are similarities too .
both are quite diplomatic , fun loving and its also the atttraction of the opposites .

ok, why i feel that u took the right the decision was b'cos they like people to have faith in them and when he is asking u to join him that means he wants to commit as well as wants u to have faith in him .

u are also special to him b'cos u people broke twice then again came togetther . cancers also like people who dont make an issue out of thier short temperedness / easily getting irritated trait . they dont like people who play mind games , your walking back to his life meant u were governed more by your heart than your mind , so there ....

i didn't understand the overanalyzing part . i too have mercury in cancer and i think i analyize a bit too . i can even term it overanalyziation .
yours can be understood , libras overanalyize but its all fruitless , they go on and on.... . in cancers case its a bit different , so may be u feel that way .

he unbalanced u bigtime ?
what do u really mean ?

u are among the only few people here who find cancers to be fascinating , i would like to know , why do u feel so ?

and have faith ! thats most important !
keep faith in him , in GOD and yourself .

i think u need to more specific with your post . have i missed something ? do ask .

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elemiah
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posted July 07, 2005 02:48 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mr.Cancerrg, thanks for answering!! You see? Cancers are fascinating lol!
What I actually meant by this fascination thing probably has to do with the fact that I always felt that this guy is so much more than meets the eye under that hard shell ( I know this sound like typical, but I do believe that shell exists). My father is a cancer as well and so is my only sister. In fact Ive always clashed with dad big time, and its only now that I seem to understand him. Hes basically a very vulnerable person under that super hard exterior.Once Ive paid more attention to him, our relationship is kind of flourishing!
Anyway, the overanalizing part has to do with my hyper rational way of approaching things ( libra sun aqua moon) and also maybe too penetrating and sometimes even suspicious * blushing here * ( mercury scorp). Conclusion: Moods cannot be analized and thats what I did again and again!! Moods unbalanced my very core, due to my own insecurity, cause when he was silent, or crabby or didnt call me or simply serious after having been so happy the day before I used to think it might have to do with me, I couldnt understand what was going on, and that unbalanced me cause I had never been used to that kind of on-off thing. After some time and adjustments I just realized it was his way to approach things, so something that started being fascinating ( it was such a challenge for me to understand him)it became simply love. I dont know how the relationship will develop from now on, but Im telling you, this guy has taught me a lot about myself,and one of the most important things is that feelings are there to be felt, not just thought, and that sometimes feelings can be ugly or may not make sense but its ok, thats what life is all about. Basic, I know, but so true.

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cancerrg
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posted July 08, 2005 02:15 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks ms.elemiah or if u want mrs. cancer

quote:
( I know this sound like typical, but I do believe that shell exists

ofcourse it exists.

quote:
I dont know how the relationship will develop from now on

my suggetion , just be yourself.
ah , one more thing , i dont if it applies to u but i'll say anyway- cancers like thier gf or wife to be well maintianed physically . he wont be pushing u to do ( though he himself wont do it , they are quite lazy unless they have a objective) but he would certainly like , there is a difference between wanting and liking here . their hearts sometime tend to deviate , it has a lot to do with thier silence and artistic nature , woman too is a gr8 art work by god , so there is the logic, so the beauty deviates though momentarilly ,momentarily b'cos they are too prinicipled to do something nasty . they are the last person to ditch someone in a relation . but why give someone a chance .

though i am sure , u being a libra sun and aqua moon , certainly know how to maintian urself .
best of luck
best wishes for ur life , ms.unbalanced


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elemiah
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posted July 09, 2005 01:47 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow Cancerrg, you hit the nail on the very head there!! Yes, my cancer likes gfs to look gorgeous, but he himself doesnt really care much about his clothes etc. We were talking on the phone only yesterday and I told him I was putting on some weight ( you know moms cooking lol) and he said "No, that cannot happen, you got to keep on looking great!!" I know he was joking, but only half joking, if you know what I mean, bc yes, Im sure he likes me to look really good. I thought it had something to be with his leo moon ( you know, leo moons wanting to show off, even about their boyfriends/girlfriends) but you amazed me with your warning lol. Ive always liked to look good because of me, not because of anybody else, so no problem there, but Ive already told him that he has to worry about his looks and not mine, and that even if I put on weight, Ill keep on looking gorgeous!!

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cancerrg
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posted July 10, 2005 09:14 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

btw make him run , if u dont like the paunch .

cancers tend to gain weight very fast especially around thier waist .

BEST OF LUCK , ONCE AGAIN .

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cancerrg
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posted July 10, 2005 09:20 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
just reread your post ,

my dad is libra actually , we used to get along quite well when i was young but now we dont even want to see eachother , infact the last time that i aw him was six yrs .back .

could help me with examples (if possible) how u and your dad came to understand eachother better .

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elemiah
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posted July 10, 2005 10:14 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ok, Cancerrg, Ill try to tell you in a nutshell ( otherwise I could rumble forever and would get kicked out of LL for being a pain in the...!!) my relationship with dad. I dont think it can apply to yours, hes the libra father and you the cancer son, and anyway, life takes each us on diff paths but if something rings a bell, perfect!
Ive always had a love hate relationship with him. Marriage with mom ( a capricorn) was not made in heaven and after some years things got really rocky. My sister and I were always on my mothers side and dad ( who could be very aggresive and almost violent) felt totally misunderstood and alone, but never thought it was his own fault ( and it was, believe me). My father has always loved us deeply, but has no idea how to show it, and the gap bt us got wider and wider...
Its only been a couple of years since our relationship has been getting closer. He was never a good father, emotionally absent and I learnt how to build defense mechanisms and how to not show neediness or vulnerability. Ive finally come to understand that he had an unhappy childhood himself ( due to a mean and abusive father) and did not know how to father us. Hes always been hungry for attention and caring but we couldnt give it to him after how he behaved towards us, so it was like running in circles.
What has helped me build a bridge bt us has been try and understand him as a person, and feel compassion about his weaknesses. I can talk to him with a new respect now and I try to pay attention to what he says, even if I dont agree, and he thrives!! He needs to feel important and he needs to feel he is loved or cared for or at least appreciated and his moods are not so unbearable any more because Ive learnt to understand thats the way he behaves and doesnt hurt any more. He is becoming much more caring and flexible himself ( the give and take thing) and I suppose that the fact hes 63 years old has made him calmer as well, lol.
I dont know if what I said has helped you at all, but think about the reasons why you havent been in touch for six years. Is it worth it? Maybe it is, you have the answer. Id like to know more about it if its ok...
Take care cancerrg!!

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cancerrg
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posted July 11, 2005 07:00 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
ah , your rumbling would have been appreciated

i like people who rumbling , may be thats why i have so many libra friends .

i'll rumble, give me sometime.
in the mean time time if u have something to rumble , go on dear , i am eagerly waiting .

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Cardinalgal
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posted July 12, 2005 12:54 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi elemiah!!

Just wondered how you are and when the big move is?? Must be very soon??

Anyway, hope it's all going fantastically for you and do let us know when you get there won't you?!

Lots of love,
Sarah xx

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elemiah
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posted July 12, 2005 04:50 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi again Sarah!
Great to hear from you! My Big Move is on August 12, so today a month!! OOOOOOhhhhhh ( vertigo!!!) Both looking forward to it and sad to leave, if you know what I mean, but I cannot have the best of both worlds so Thats life. Of course Ill be in touch with you guys from the States...
Lots of love for U2 sweetheart and lots of luck as well with Youknow-Who!!!!

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Cardinalgal
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posted July 12, 2005 04:56 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Heh heh! Yep luck I can always do with in that equasion!

Replied to you on the other thread but will do so here as well - so glad it's all going well for you and it's so exciting!! A month today eh?!

I know you'll miss Spain but you'll be able to go back and see everyone from time to time and you'll be so happy with Mr Cancer that it'll all be fine

Good luck with it sweetie and keep in touch

Lots of love and luck,
Sarah xx

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sthenri
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posted July 12, 2005 06:01 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cancer men are great lovers, very emotional and good at commitment physically in my experience, but they waver emotionally from time to time. The trick is patience and understanding and no fighting or trying to be right.

My first honey was a Cancer, and now as I am older I understand them bettter. It's all about long term commitment and being trusting and honest. They do wonders for my finances and my body but I feel guilty sometimes because Cancers are givers, they don't receive well, or deal with emotional instability well either.

If you are soft and giving and if you always think of your Cancer as a sexpot he will love you. But if you think of him as a friend only he knows it.

That's been my experience, I feel good about Cancers unless they are financially unsettled, that makes Cancers very unhappy and gloomy.

I used to think Cancer men were very unsexy until I actually made love to one and I was so shocked at how well we relate

Then I have a Cancer moon so that helps. Nobody ever thinks I am a good lover either at first, I keep it hidden:>

Natasha
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Tranquil Poet
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posted July 12, 2005 06:31 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Me encanta los cancers


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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, Taurus moon
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I would fly to the moon and back...If you'll be my baby.

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elemiah
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posted July 12, 2005 06:33 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hahahaha, Ol!!

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elemiah
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posted July 12, 2005 06:40 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for your comments Natasha! Yes, you know one of the things that strikes me about cancerians, or at least the ones I know? They seem to be so unemotional sometimes that I used to wonder if they cared at all, but in fact Ive learnt that its just plain and simple vulnerability, they are too afraid to be hurt or rejected and they prefer to show the "I dont care" attitude, but mostly its all fake and they can be the most caring people on earth if they feel free but cared for at the same time.
Regarding sex, what I found out is that they are the best at cuddling and spooning ( I dont know if this is a cancer trait though, lol)

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