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The Mutable Night Force
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posted July 15, 2005 03:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Tell me, is this because of my Aries Moon (I read something explaining these feelings somewhere... so I have reasons)or am I just extremely wierd???

Is it an Aries Moon thing (for girls, at least) to find their crush or love interest more interesting when they are hard to get, so to speak? I know this has truth for Sun Arians.. but what about Moons?

If so, I am well and truely stuffed since this is destroying my feelings... When I like a guy best is when I think I stand no chance with him and that he hates me... and only that makes me realise how much I liked him in the first place.
BUT when a guy is nice to me, I suddenly discover how sad I am that I can never make this OTHER guy like me, hence the vicious circle starts again...
Sometimes these situations are caused out of my own paranoia... I will persuade myself that he doesn't like me until I become miserable and lust after him more... until he is nice to me again.

AM I EVER GOING TO BE SATISFIED???
WHAT'S WRONG???


By the way, I'm not counting this for all Aries Mooners I'm sure there are plenty of you sane ones out there too
Hey, it's probably just me, but has anyone else ever felt the same?

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The Mutable Night Force
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posted July 15, 2005 03:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Plus, ontop of this, I feel like I have devoted far far too much of my time to useless causes and pointless flirting. My age feels like a trap that I want to get out of and I can't stand that I can't come to terms with the fact that I'm only a kid.
Due to spending too much time with only one goal in mind, now that it may soon be out of reach I've left myslef with nothing to look forward to...
AND AND
and.......
a guy I fancy basically really loves someone and she loves him too.
I am such a schmuck to even think he liked me.

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nove731
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posted July 15, 2005 03:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for nove731     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I imagine they would find them more interesting. Aries adores the chase. Haha, being an Aries Sun, I've noticed this. I'm just completely wrapped up in someone I like, but the second I find out they like me back, I don't like them anymore. :-P

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pixelpixie
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posted July 15, 2005 03:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Relationships are complex.
Even in a relationship, people can send out like vibes to someone.
I have crushes all the time.
So you were probably sensing it.
Not to create hope or anything, just to say don't discount your instincts.

By the way.. ALL MOONS LIKE THE ONES THAT PRESENT A CHALLENGE!!!!
That is to say
All people. It is an inborn characteristic to respond primally to challenge. It proves our worth in ways.. but we set ourselves up for it.

Buut Yes, Aries especially likes a challenge!!!!
Eventually, the good guys hold our interest, once we've been burned enough by the 'bad guys'.
And sometimes the bad boys settle into good boys.
Personally, I like my men a little bad, but who treat me well and respect me.

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The Mutable Night Force
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posted July 15, 2005 03:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you nove and pixie!
I needed some replies or I would have gone crazy! *weak smile*

Glad I'm not entirely dellusional then.

It's just I sort of have only found out this one guy doesn't dislike me or find me boring and he is too great for words... I adore him.
But the other one I used to find very well... sexy. Now that he is out of bounds I'm suddenly very miserable. Sadly, as simple as that, I just can't put it into a sensible reasoning.. or know whether I was more than crushing on him.

Ironically, maybe this is showing me I actually do like the other guy better.. I just hadn't accepted or understood it yet. I just don't want to get disappointed by him, (well, myself) too.

Thank you for the comments, guys Very much appreciated.

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LILYGIRL
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posted July 15, 2005 03:51 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have to admit I didn't even realize my Moon was in Aries until this summer. Still, I empathize. I have always been extremely attracted to quiet unassuming men. Physical appearance has little to do with my antenna. These men have always been cordial, perhaps friendly but not chasers. I have never been nor am ever attracted to men who catcall for me, pursue me (initally)or exhibit extreme interest in me. When I was young girl premature overt ardour of any kind always frightened me.

Having said that, I have a Taurus Venus and a Gemini Sun and Gem Mercury. I find conversation to be the long sexy road to any kind of relationship with the opposite sex. I have never really come on to a guy physically but I find I am ALWAYS happiest being the one who initiates those first happy conversation,who engages FIRST in the mental and verbal play.

ARIES are notorious for wanting to be first out of the gate. I think they are optimistic, fun people who yearn to be first--- to control the situation. I also think (my Mars is also Aries)they like the notion of a GAME. I mean this both literally and figuratively. For some, perhaps you, that translates in to a heady sensation for chasing. You like to lead the hunt and do the chasing. This is fine if the guy loves being chased and deep down wants you badly you...but if not, you know the rest of the story.

Guys came be awfully pedestrian. Most know how to reveal that they want you. If they say mean things or behave badly it is often because they are mean and behave badly and have no interest in you (us). There are a few shy ones.....

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shop22much
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posted July 15, 2005 04:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for shop22much     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know how you feel mutuable..I am also a Aries moon, and when I was young, I always enjoyed a challenge, I always was turned off by a guy who chased me too obviously, or was overly emotional..I wanted a challenge, but also a guy who wanted me as well, I like the challenge def..the thing is for me the guy i am in love with...well hes a huge challenge, for me, and i use to be so turned off by his detachment, but i started getting use to it to a certain degree, and now i am fine with it, and i think for an aries moon, we need a guy who is challenge, but is going to eventually love us to the extent we love them, i think when you find the right person, you wont mind if they let their guards down a little, but me personally..i like to think i can control a guy, i want to control them, but its my secret desire for them to control me...its a huge turn on for a guy to put me in my place...but not too much i want him to let me have most of the control....its so hard being an aries moon, especially since it contradicts my sun sign(virgo), and at times i feel i am being pulled in different directions...frustrating for sure...

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LILYGIRL
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posted July 15, 2005 04:16 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"But its my secret desire for them to control me...its a huge turn on for a guy to put me in my place...but not too much i want him to let me have most of the control....its so hard being an aries moon."

Hilarious, that is so me. I like a man who controls infrequently, out of the blue, and quietly. I don't like being controlled the majority of the time, but when it happens unexpectedly from a kind gentle person, it is a smoldering turn on.

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shop22much
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posted July 15, 2005 04:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for shop22much     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
oh yes! a quiet unassuming man who controls me sometimes...THATS A HUGE TURN ON....

another thing mutuable...when you find the right guy, your aries moon will be subdued a lot more, its weird but since ive fallen, im more calmer...but im still my old feisty self...

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whiterabbit
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posted July 15, 2005 09:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for whiterabbit     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey MNF,
well, you've gotten great replies already, but I'm gonna throw in my two cents anyways. Of course, I totally understand the feelings you are having since I (like most of the world, it seems) have gone trough the same thing. Actually, I'm still going through it. Here's a perfect example, happened today: this amazing, kind, funny, creative guy that has liked me for ages biked to my place today and (I wasn't home) left me a package. He made me a CD, it took him a few months (he's a Virgo- perfectionist). I was just listening to it. It's amazing, of course, just brilliant. And what am I doing? Lying on my sofa listening to it, and thinking desperately and pathetically about the flighty, impossible, cold-hearted guy that I haven't talked to for three months because we're both too "detached" (and proud) to call each other. Did he ever do anything kind and beautiful for me? Does he love me? Is he even good for me? Of course- the crucial question is- Do I give a $hit what the answers to those questions are? Nope. So here I am, an allegedly rational and grown human being acting completely irrationally. But I think that's the thing- when it comes to that tricky, delightful and impossible realm of life- relationships- L-O-V-E..the notions of reason and logic are quite ridiculous. The whole concept of love is ridiculous, so how could we possibly apply anything remotely scientific to it? Attraction is inexplicable- sure they're tell you it's biology, pherimones, blah blah...come on give me a break I'm sure you don't believe that any more than I do. Sometimes it's there, sometimes it's not. That is it. I effing hope I NEVER choose to be with someone for rational reasons.
"Nothing that makes sense ever works out"- A Jimmy Eat World line taken from an old truism. Surrender yourself, MNF to the maddening world of feelings..there's NO hope in there for using your brain (too much...). You're a Virgo, I'm an Aqua, I think we both have a need to use our minds, to UNDERSTAND.
Now, to finish off this rant, I will share with you something that makes a lot of sense to me; it really captures the frustrating and circular nature of your, mine and everyone's emotional dilemma. I've been told it was originally said by Groucho Marx, but I first encountered it in "Annie Hall":
"I don't want to belong to any club that will accept me as a member."

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whiterabbit
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posted July 15, 2005 09:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for whiterabbit     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
just re-read my post and I guess it is sort of pessimistic. I want to add that I hope (for your sake as well as mine) that eventually, with a certain person, it will be possible to strike a balance between the part of you that wants to be with someone and the part of you that doesn't want anything to do with someone who wants to be with you. Shop22's story is inspiring in that sense. Maybe one day there will be someone who is a challenge, exciting, unpredictable but deep down inside cares for you and treats you well.
Here's hoping.

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shop22much
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posted July 15, 2005 09:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for shop22much     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
oh man! great post white! thats me in a nutshell, one of my handsome, intelligent friend likes me and wants to go on a date and i completely blow him or any other guy because i am attached to the detached coldhearted guy i am hoping one day someday will love me to the extent i love him, its funny hes an aqua as well! lol you have aries moon and youre aqua, now thats more crazier than my placements..almost..

I love jimmy eat world, great quote..

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whiterabbit
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posted July 15, 2005 09:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for whiterabbit     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

yeah, I figured at least a few other people out there have this problem.
I've got a Leo moon, btw, goes to show you it's not just an Aries moon thing..
(But I've got an Aries DC, maybe it is an Aries thing? lol..)

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Battle of Evermore
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posted July 16, 2005 12:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Battle of Evermore     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey there MNF, I see how distressed you are, and uncertain. I want to just say that right now, the only advice I can give you, is to know that no matter what happens, you can make it through. I seem to supress my feelings, and beat myself up about things, until I don't like myself at all.
I struggle with that alot
I DON'T want you to be like me.
All I can say is, live in the present, and most importantly, please DON'T let it absorb you.

(There is a thread for you I made a while back in free-for-all, but you might have some other things on your mind now.)

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The Mutable Night Force
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posted July 16, 2005 10:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
WOW....... well, in all probability I would have felt better this morning anyway, lol. But those replies are amazing, thank you!

LILYGIRL- you managed to verbalise quite a lot of what I feel! Thanks. It sometimes does suck to be a girl with an Aries Moon because with me it seems to have given a sort of male perspective on Love which has even shocked a Cancer guy I know, leading him to think I was talking to him just to get into his pants!

S22M- As another Aries Moon, I see what you're saying. I'm also a Virgo too! So I really get what you mean there!

TBC..............

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The Mutable Night Force
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posted July 16, 2005 10:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
........ (my browser couldn't cope)...

whiterabbit- Thank you so much for your reply! It helped as much as anything It's really interesting what you're saying about Love and science and yeah, I think I agree with you... some things you just can't explain.
Oh, and Annie Hall was where I heard that quote first too! I love that film, and I love you for quoting it!

BoE, Thanks for the thread! I put something on it... not too cheery, sorry .
"I DON'T want you to be like me"
That's really compassionate, if not a little tragic. I know what you mean, and all I can say back is your advice is very good, so I shall give it back to you
"no matter what happens, you can make it through".

I hope I do. But then as long as I stay friends with the Cancer, I think I might.

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Battle of Evermore
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posted July 16, 2005 06:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Battle of Evermore     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
LOL, hmm, yes the Cancer might help, lol. Thank you btw MNF. I'm really not that tragic though . I maybe a little emotionally unstable, but I've been blessed greatly with a family that loves me.
Hope life gives you a break with your love life though. I don't have a boyfriend at the mo. Don't really have my mind set on anybody at the moment either. I'm still pretty much a kid too though. I'm trying to focus more on myself, and the people around me equally, instead of focusing my attention on one person. All that love stuff is wayyyy to confusing to me. I think I might have loved a Libra once...I still do acctually, although no intentions of anything more than platonic now.
Just think though! With all those emotions in you, you could write an award winning album! There is a positive side to everything, you know.

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