posted July 19, 2005 11:02 AM              

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I met this girl through a friend of mine. I haven’t really looked at girl this way for a long time. She’s beautiful. She’s a Cancer, and I’m a Virgo. She’s so nice, and her friends call her teddy bear. We all went out, and she was so polite and so warm and gernerous. I really like this girl…BUT her ex has a boyfriend and the ex kinda strings this girl along, (being on and off a lot) she even flirts with guys right in front of this girl’s face!! I think she still is in love (I don’t know why, but) Anyway, we all went out and I was dancing with her and everything went well until she told my friend that I intimidated her.. (I don’t know how, b/c im only 5’2 and kinda shy), she said i was a really pretty and sweet girl, but the timing is messed up... she now acts weird around me…like standoffish, and quiet…but not around our friends. I expressed I wanted to be friends, I even e-mailed her, but no reply…what did I do wrong??

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posted July 19, 2005 11:46 AM              

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I'm An Aries Sun, Cancer Moon, Capricorn Asc, but my cancer moon totally dominates my personality and as a result i identify with cancers very strongly.
From what you wrote, i think that your cancer girls reaction to your overtures is a nice way of trying to say that for the time being she isn't interested in anything other than friendship. Cancers are caring and don't like to hurt others feelings and as a result are often indirect in their dealings.
Also cancers are very attached to the past so whether she is in love with her ex or not she will not be able to make the emotional break that easiliy, and residue feelings will linger for a long time. However it may be that she does like you but its just bad timing. Also cancers are sensitive and tend to withdraw or take two steps back before coming forward. Bear that in mind. My advice to you is give her space and be friendly and just give things some time. Try to concentate on other things so you can get a better perspective of her as well. One final word, be there if she needs you but keep your sparkle, you don't want to be just a shoulder to cry on. Good luck and let us know how things go.

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posted July 20, 2005 06:07 AM              

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interesting!

give me a days time.

btw , some queries , are u trying to propse her?
and what about her ex. can u clarify it a bit more .

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posted July 20, 2005 06:15 AM            

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I always think the Cancer's silence is them trying to act tough. It seems like there's emotion there, and since they are afraid of expressing that emotion they shut themselves up.

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posted July 20, 2005 09:22 AM              

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Well, this girl(the ex) doesn’t know what she wants, more importantly, who she wants. Male or female. The ex and her are still friends…they have the same set of friends. So, I suppose it is hard for her to let go, and it’s sure not making it easy. I know from recent experience. This girl is great, and she deserves someone who just as good or better. But she just confuses me, I just want to be her friend, and she won’t let me do that.

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