posted August 26, 2005 03:01 AM              

well , about feeling lonely , as far as understand gems ,i feel its craeted by themselves only .
so if u want to have friends , dont want to feel lonely , come out . and when i say come out that doesn't mean go on compromising to win friends , that would push to dpression and lonliness but stand for what u believe in .
open up , thats the mantra . that will solve everything .
and be positive .

posted August 26, 2005 05:55 AM              

I know its not as easy as it sounds for i'm going through a similar phase! my girl( a gemini) left me after a 4 years - so you are not alone!!

posted August 26, 2005 06:17 AM            

I dont know what to say. It's always hard to know how seriously to take these things. Its true that, sometimes, the storm passes overnight, and so we dont want to give it added attention, and blow it out of all proportion. On the other hand, we dont want to be indifferent to what may be a genuine cry for help. I hope you will have faith, hang in there, continue to reach out to anyone you can trust, and know that, if the sun doesnt come out tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow, its bound to come out someday soon.

Do you have any parents or grown ups you can talk to, people nearby? Its good that you still have that friend. I'm sure, whatever happened between you two, it is nothing that cannot be forgiven. Talk to her, and if you havent already, maybe tell her you are sorry, if you think that will help (either for your sake or for hers, or for both your sakes). It sounds like you really need a friend right now, and whatever little things are in the way, I'm sure you can deal with them later, assuming they havent resolved themselves by then.

I'm sorry to hear about your loud neighbor, and the girls at school. People can be like that, but, maybe if they knew how much they were hurting you they wouldn't treat you so unkindly. If you can keep from fighting back, and simply let them know in some more peaceful way that what they are doing is hurtful to you, perhaps they would stop. They might be taken off-guard at first by such an announcement, and even make further cruel comments in the heat of the moment, but chances are they will take it to heart a little later, so long as you keep your cool and dont retaliate.

I'm happy to hear that you have a boyfriend and he is a real friend to you. You are certainly lucky, at least, in that respect. You can always look forward to when you will talk to him again. And "absence makes the heart grow fonder".

In the meantime, you have the best friend you could ever want, if you are ready to try to open up to yourself. Do you have a journal? Please, be gentle with yourself, treat yourself with kidgloves, tell yourself the things you know a great lover would say. And remember that there are options. There are always a variety of ways to handle any situation, so do not be led into thinking that there is ever only one way out.

I hope some of that helped a little. If not, just know that my intention was to offer some support, and that, if its not always the thought, its the fact that we had the thought that counts.

peace, love, empathy,
Stephen

posted August 26, 2005 08:19 AM              

Sometimes you just have to make your self smile, by smiling it tricks our mind into thinking better things.

We have to tell ourselves how wonderful we are, concentrate on those good things.
The negative are for learning experiences, to be able to appreciate the good stuff.

Just here lately things were kinda sad for me, and a friend handed me a book by Sylvia Browne, titled 'The other side and back'.
It helped me to feel better.
If you can get ahold of one, read it.
Check the library.

Just keep counting your blessing, telling yourself about the great things that you are and you have, and it will help you feel better.

posted August 26, 2005 10:11 AM              

You already got some great replies and I don't have much to add except to say highschool can be very silly sometimes.. and you should do your best not to let it get to you. Trust me we've all been there. The little groups, the bit*chyness, it always happens.. I guess, this is what comes with restraining hundreds of hormone crazed teens to a certain area for a certain amount of hours every day. So what are they going to talk about? Who's going out with whom? Who's taking what drugs? Who drank more alcohol at X's party? Who's cool? Who isn't? bla bla bla

Most of the conversations are at least half BS.

I know that it can be hard when you're in that situation and girls can get VERY bt*chy, sometimes for no reason at all..They might not even KNOW you..and just because someone's EX bf happened to say you looked good once..and she happened to still be head over heels with him, she obviously *has to* hate you, by default lol.

What I'm trying to say is that IT really doesn't have a TRUE base..and it isn't your fault at all. You shouldn't let that in. Don't let other people's ill willed words define you as a person and make you feel bad about yourself. I'm sure you're a great girl and have lots of nice qualities.. like that gemini WIT and your fun, spunky attitude. If those girls can't appreciate you for who you are, they're not worth the time of day.

It sounds like this is getting to a point where it's really making your life difficult. If they don't stop I suggest speaking to a counselor or a teacher.. Once they're told of (I know his is cliche but) they wont do it again. They might act all "hardcore" BUT TRUST ME, They don't want to get in trouble with their parents. They don't want to end up suspended, or worse kicked out of school.. The fear of that will stop them from carrying on. I knew a bit*chy girl once.. She stole my mobile a few times over. When the teachers found her out..she came to me bawling her eyes out asking me to tell them it was all a misunderstanding..because she was scared of what her parents would say

It also helps when you talk to someone, like a counselor just to get it all out..It can be a real weight lifted of your shoulders.

And last but not least, keep in mind that time changes things. This is a phase.. There's a lot of highs and lows in life.. Try your best to get through the lows so you can enjoy the highs when they come along.. It isn't always easy, but it's worth it.

Lots of Love,

Lauren

posted August 26, 2005 11:25 AM              

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

"You must live in the infinite blackness that exists when I close my eyes. I see you when I fall asleep, I see you when I dream."

posted August 29, 2005 08:52 PM              

You have just have to believe that there is a big plan, and you are part of it. If you don't believe, the balloon won't float. Just believe. Have faith. Sometimes, faith is the only cylinder I run on...