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Topic: How do I stop this feeling?
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The Mutable Night Force
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From: England
Registered: Oct 2009
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posted August 30, 2005 02:26 PM
  
Hello again everyone in Lindaland  I'll try and make this brief... and not too sappy.
Ok, well I saw the Cancer again recently... sort of just when I was hoping I'd just stop liking him since I probably soon won't have contact with him as much due to a reason I might put on Free-for-All.
Anyway, it was a social thing and I was pretty much quiet through all of it, til I got talking to him again. And crimony, to make matters worse, he likes a band I like and I found I was singing the words to the songs at the same time as him...
I just ended up sort of liking him more than ever,
But- I have to stop, one, because of the reason I'll see him less which I might put on Free-for-All, and two, because nothing's probably ever going to happen. Any suggestions/similar experiences?
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LibraSparkle
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posted August 30, 2005 02:34 PM
You can't stop feeling, silly. There's nothing wrong with having a crush you don't act on.For instance, I'm a married woman... but that doesn't mean I can't develop a crush. Acting on it would be wrong... but I can crush on that cute cop that rides his bike downtown getting me all twitter pated. OMG... he's so hot! He's really nice too. Makes him even more crush worthy. Sorry... got distracted... You don't have to stop feeling. Feelings are great. Especially crush feelings. Enjoy them. Just my  . IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
Knowflake Posts: 122
From: England
Registered: Oct 2009
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posted August 30, 2005 02:50 PM
Hey thanks LibraSparkle!
I'd agree, crushes are nice, but he's also a friend, I guess too. And, now I think of it, the first guy I've ever liked who's not either someone I don't know (ie. an actor), fictional  , or someone where the love is totally unrequited.
But then again he doesn't reciprocate how I feel in the same way either... I think.IP: Logged |
whiterabbit
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posted August 30, 2005 06:07 PM
hey mutable,
this is one of the toughest situations you can find yourself in relationship-wise. When, for whatever reason, you feel you need to ignore/delete your feelings. Of course, as LibraSparkle wisely wrote, it's pretty much impossible to just stop feelings (sincerely feeling..humans have remarkable self-deception and denial skills).
I have definitely been there! I'm sure most of us have at some point. Sadly, I don't think there's much to do other than just breathe, and keep on keepin' on. Keep walking. Do your own thing, focus on your life. Who knows, maybe things will somehow fall into place one day, with this particular person. For now lock those feelings up, wish him well, and hop on your caravan like a wandering gypsy. Your paths may cross again..Bob Dylan says:
And if anybody asks me "Is it easy to forget?" I'll say "It's easily done,you just pick anyone an' pretend that you never have met!"
I'm going through something similar right now. Trying to pretend I'm not completely infatuated with someone that it just won't work with.. man, it sucks.
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cancerrg
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posted August 31, 2005 03:02 AM
are u sure u like him . love him? now what has the feeling to do with whether you would be meeting him or not . everything can't be seen in a materilaistic way . enjoy the feeling . and you got to understand , he's a cancer . its very difficult to understand thier emotions b'cos of the shield . you talk of being in the same situation ! the girl that i have been wanting to propose from the last six months atleast,is sitting just next to me on a differnt computer set at the cafe at the moment .
and as far as i can guess she too is confused of my feelings ,as you are of his, our eyes meet , she knows my eyes are following her in the park or everywere but i bet she is still confused . though i have agggressive body language at times , i have a very oppsite one too . and again coincidence, we might not be meeting again ( i am planning to shift ) . and she'nt the first one that i have fallen for (i havebeen with two wonderful women in the past). i can't say this is love but its a crush and a big one for sure . have u ever professed your love to him ?
my point is why can't u woman take a step , boss ?
go tell him whatever u feel, even if u are not meeting him again , u won't be disappointed . i am also planning to take the plunge today , iam just waiting for her to get free  . she's most probably a sag or libra . IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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From: England
Registered: Oct 2009
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posted August 31, 2005 08:26 AM
Hey whiterabbit, Wise words, wise words....
You and LibraSparkle are both right. I'm a believer in fate, and hey, we are sextile, we're bound to meet again!
I guess I was just hoping for a quick fix to frustration. quote:
are u sure u like him . love him?
Blimey, cancerrg. Love is a strong word. There is unrequited love, but then I suppose true love is only love when it's reciprocated, and besides like I keep telling myself, "I'm 14 (nearly 15!), don't see him very often, and have a flighty Aries Moon.. so it's not!"
Probably isn't, but I do fancy him AND adore him as a friend too, which is pretty good going.
I told him once that I liked him. He said he liked me too, but I'm not sure how. He must of thought I was being very serious relationship-wise (well, he is a Cancer) and said cause I was too young and too far away (well, an hour and a half, lol)but 'maybe in a couple years... who knows?'
So, hell, I don't know.....Hey good luck, cancerrg! Hope you get your girl! IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted September 02, 2005 02:54 PM
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but then I suppose true love is only love when it's reciprocate
This is deabtble , i am myself not sure , so wont say .
as for your "its not" thing , it could be just your own feeling not necessariily the right one , right!
see , your age is very important to him , as far as i can guess, not in the sense that he wont like to have realtion with u but ofcourse in the sense that he wont like u to have (later on in your life) feeling that you were used b'cos of immaturity infact in a way he is being caring . i have been in such a realtion , someone who is eight yrs younger to me , u told him once - she told me in typical girly way thrice but i never gave any direct hints though she later on knew of my feelings through my silence (she's a cancer too) .
the first reason that i never overtly let her be in dreams was b'cos i didn't want her to feel later that she was used b'cos of immaturity . love realtions go sore in evry age , it doesn't really have to do anything with age but when something as such happens in our teenage , the noraml feeling is, it happened b'cos of immaturity . and thats exactly the point why he is acting the way he is acting .though he might have feelings , he doesn't want to show b'cos of these ethical reasons . got the logic. to make the things more clear , take this example , you are a friend , if it was so in real life too , u would still have been a friend but i would have always considerd your age , i would have always been more caring whether i wanted it or not , if i give 100 benefits of doubt to a person , i would have given u 110 . the point is u will be treated as equals ,no doubts, but u would be cared more than others , no mattter what . thats the cancer way , whether its irritating or whateever but thats it . u'll always be treated with an extra care mainly b'cos of your age .thatsit.
ao, i'll again say , just enjoy the feeling .even if he's not in love with u , i bet he cares for u . so u still have a chance or don't u ?
who knows u people might meet up after years . heard the word "destiny" enjoy the feeling , child woman !
ahhhhh, i'll tell u about my story after your post , ok , its alraedy so long .
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cancerrg
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posted September 03, 2005 06:45 AM
u might have apprehension about the word "used" . its just that cancers dont want people to feel that they at any point have played mind games . IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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From: England
Registered: Oct 2009
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posted September 04, 2005 09:04 AM
No, I understand, cancerrg.
That's a great explanation, thank you so much.I always think maybe there's a chance, however small. I think he likes me as a friend, regardless. Which is good.
Go ahead, my cancer amigo, what's been happ'ning with yo girl?
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