posted September 15, 2005 12:03 PM              

I've been feeling very unfeminine, not lovable and one to never be in an happy relationship type of person lately. I understand that it is a very unhealthy attitude that won't make me any service, but I have trouble finding ways to channel these transits to anything positive. I hope it is just a lack of perspective and there actually IS something I can do.

I'd really appreciate suggestions that helps to handle any of the above transits. Anyone had something silmilar lately? Going through it now?

Aen
(Chiron in 7th)

posted September 15, 2005 10:05 PM              

If you are in a long-term relationship already, you will go through a period of readjustment to better meet your needs, and if it isn’t flexible enough to change, it may end. Domestic boredom is unacceptable to you now.

Transiting Saturn trine natal Venus - is an excellent time to attain real stability within your relationships. Your individual needs will not be conflicting as much now with the relationship needs, and you will be able to look at the relationship in a realistic manner. You will be able to understand who you are as an individual within the relationship, and what you can bring to it. This is not a time where you will be cared away in a romantic stupor in a relationship; rather it is a time where you will view the relationship in a much more realistic manner. In the last few years you have weeded out relationships that were not productive to your growth. That process may have been painful to you, but it was necessary for your continued growth. Now however, your relationships will bring you a great deal of happiness, but more important, they will provide you with the opportunity to understand your place in any relationship. Before this aspect has passed, you will have learned a great deal about how you should function within relationships.

Transiting Pluto square natal Moon - – this aspect produces very intense experiences in your emotional and personal life, and it will test your innermost psychological resources. You have to dig deep to handle this period, but you have what it takes, if you face it head on. On the psychological level, two manifestations may occur; past unconscious patterns of behavior may arise but will prove unable to cope with your life at this time, or past memories which have laid hidden in your unconscious will suddenly become conscious again. You may find yourself driven by compulsions and irrational drives, and behaving in a way that is not consistent with your life today. It is necessary to dig out the root of these behaviors, if you can, and deal with the problems behind them. Try to keep a clear idea in your mind of who you are now, and don’t become overcome by the past. As the kids say nowadays, get over it. In your personal life, this aspect can bring about power struggles with others. Unfortunately, you won’t be fighting fair right now, you’ll be more inclined to use manipulation tactics, such as guilt, duty, ect… to achieve your ends.

This aspect can also draw a person into your life who you know is unhealthy for you, but whom you can not pull away from. You need to understand that it isn’t that person, but his or her behaviors that reflect parts of your hidden self that you are so intrigued with.
This is a time of emotional conflict with those closest to you. Use this time to clean out your closet of hidden problems that you have carried with you from your past. Realize that it is you not others that is causing this, and that they are only responding to your behavior.

Transiting Pluto square natal Pluto -this aspect signifies a time of internal regeneration in your life. If you are clinging to the past, it will root out those things from the past that no longer serve our growth, many of which may be in your unconscious mind and still affecting your lives. Any changes now that occur in your life do so for good reason. It is a waste of time to look at others to blame, when the changes are being driven internally by our own mind. Pluto doesn’t swing a gentle stick, so some of these changes may create fear in us when they occur, but if you stay loose, and flexible in your responses to your life at this time, you can ride out the storm. Keep in mind that what is going on now is necessary if you are to continue to grow spiritually and as a person.

so there you are,

posted September 16, 2005 03:13 PM              

Pixel,

Happy Dragon has nice transit site. http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/Aspecti%20Links.htm

posted September 16, 2005 03:34 PM              

It's at odds with your Saturn trine Venus one, which wants peace and quiet above all.

Hard to combine the two!

Pluto square Pluto makes you question your sexuality and your place in relationships. Sexually speaking you may turn and off like a lightbulb.

And you can make enemies out of friends, best to stay low key and work on work relationships,
as for Saturn it does tend to push you towards plain, vanila, flat experiences (IMO).

Good time to spruce things up by travelling or investing in yourself. Music is helpful to keep you sane, and stable friends.

I wouldn't date much until the pluto transit is over,
Trust is a serious issue as in suspecting others and you may cling stubbornly to people and things that are not trustworthy.

I have that transit now and I have made a few powerful enemies out of past lovers and friends, and I felt unfeminine mysefl, I invested heavily in myself physically this year including surgeries.

So I cut out more than things,
but when the transit is ending you will be much more romantic and have more self esteem and power in your relationships. Remember these transits are a good thing.

Trust yourself, and work on yourself,

Natasha
Taurus

posted September 19, 2005 03:02 PM              

That makes lots of sense what you are saying. Part of me wants something stable and nice and (much louder) part wants an earthquake and lightening. And neither part is getting anything from the outside, so I just have to find ways to work it in me. The usual route.

Funny you mention music. I've taken up dance lessons, going to concerts, etc. Lots of other kinds of classes. Change in work environment and, yes, made some adversaries in the process. Had to choose between principles and people I actually like quite a lot. Really hope these transits make me at least stronger, they sure have made me lot more lonely.

You really made it sound workable, that confidence of yours that flickers through the words is a real gift. Thank you.