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Topic: helpless quiet gemini guy ->what to do, lol
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gemini girl
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posted September 22, 2005 04:48 PM
 
ok. last night i had a great time went out to farewell dance with mr. gemini. i'm so in love with a guy. his taste is excellent he's got class, very perculiar and he's like a cool cat. lol. so why am i telling u all this? thing is he is soooooooooooooooooooooooo quiet. whats up with that him being a gemini, both our moons are in scorpio, and his mercury in gemini my mercury cancer. i really dont understand his personality lol. he intrigues me like crazy. also i dont know how to be if he gets all quiet on me. i talk alot, he has a very strong personality, values, and high standards. if he didnt like me he wouldnt have said yes when i asked him out. im just being friendly and myself. i just had to ask any advice on getting to know him better? i dont want to flirt too much he's the type that if he wants something he gets it always. its hard 2 get close 2 him. seems impossible, that word for me does not exist. it bothers me that im in love with a gemini i dont want 2 fall. if its possible ill post a pic i just want u guys to kinda guess his rising. i think its pisces or capricorn dont know his b/time yet. its just fun telling "someones", lol that im in love. im young but sometimes u just know in ur heart if something is worth the while. this time im really confident that he has more than potential to be a great friend. just not sure how it can happen. im just scared that he is really shy with me. causing him to with draw, i dunno. last night everyone gave me compliments on my appearance except him nervous or disagreeing? he listens really well. ver intense im just trying to get a grip. i always measure things like if i like a guy with my values if he'll fit the pic. for the first time i really feel that i have the courage to trust him he makes me feel beyond secure. so any advice is welcome just comments on how stupid i am to fall in love anything is welcome. i know u all have better things to do than read about my feelings. anyways thanx guysIP: Logged |
Beth
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posted September 22, 2005 04:52 PM
Ahhhhhh.... I love falling in love (typical venus in libra) Congratulations!!!Just try not to read into it too much...Give it time and if the quiteness still persists....have a chat (sorry about the pun) with him! Good luck......
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Mama Mia
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posted September 22, 2005 05:02 PM
First of all you contradict your self so much. If this is how you feel that is ok no one is judging you on that. We all have been in love here rather it was right or wrong is another story. Fallen in love does not make you stupid,if it is meant to happen it will. also we are all here to help each other and get idea's so don't feel like none of us have time for your story, cause we have all gone through this too where we needed to be heard and some of us more then once...
Now you say that he is being quiet that may be okay he may just be observing you really good. Watch what you say,say what you mean and mean what you say..Just go with the flow and see how things turn out don't analyze it to much just see what happens. And be quiet some let him talk maybe that is the problem you are talking a lil to much you know how you Gem's are..Play your cards a lil closer to your chest I want a man to figure me out a lil bit not give way to much at first. It will be ok just go with the flow and continue to be his friend they like that.
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Touchstone
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posted September 22, 2005 10:34 PM
Hi, Gem Girl.Can you list your Gem guy's chart or planets? Maybe he has something in his chart making him more reticent than usual. I'm a Gem who finds it incredibly hard to come out of my shell and talk. You'd think with Sun, Moon and Mercury in Gem I'd be a right chatterbox but I'm not, LOL, so I can see that your fella may be similar in nature. I'm very quiet and guarded... not in a cold way. I just feel conscious of my voice and feel as though I won't express myself very well. There is the fear of thinking people won't want to listen (God forbid!) which I know is very silly of me and there's a lack of confidence going on. I'm much more chatty with my friends and close family but quiet as a mouse at work and other situations. You said he *might* have Cappy rising which is what I have. Though I personally blame Saturn in Gemini (restriction of communication). If you can list his planets, then it would be easier to tell what may be behind his shyness and reluctance to talk. It maybe that he just needs to warm up first. One thing's for sure, he's a good listener and all good conversations need a good listener! I wish the both of you a lovely relationship together  Touch  IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted September 22, 2005 10:41 PM
A quiet gemini guy?
How odd.
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http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/001670.html
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Pop Producer
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posted September 22, 2005 11:38 PM
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You said he *might* have Cappy rising which is what I have. Though I personally blame Saturn in Gemini (restriction of communication).
I have Saturn in Gemini and it's hard to make me close my mouth...  IP: Logged |
SecretGardenAgain
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posted September 23, 2005 02:56 AM
ok first of all im not tryin to be mean but gemgirl its like u always only post when u have a problem or issue...id like to see some posts from you to other peoples problems too....or when they ask qs....u just come to share ur own adventures which is fine its great, but it can also be tiring becoz it feels like all u do is present u , ur not interested in anyone else, ur not interested in what other ppl here at the forum say or have to go thru? i like to think of LL as a community...i dont come here too muchi try to post a few comments everyday, but ill try to at least send sympathy or love or respond to whoever needs it everyday, im not there always, but at least try to keep the give and take balance the same u know?? ok moving on....gem sun scorp moon gem merc, that is my placements, i am getting quieter as i grow up, i havent spoken a word to my mom for like months, and i am getting more reserved, not becoz i communicate less (I write more, talk less). this guy will keep communicating but pick it up in other ways--his eyes, his body language, does he sing or dance or paint or write or make music? geminis will also go for self expression, without realizing it, without showing. even the more reserved ones. agree with letting him talk more. ask him questions. ask him where he came from, is he close with family? geminis always have somethign to say about family and school, becoz they have either had very highly negative or highly positive experiences about them, either way there is a strong opinion. dont talk and expect him to interrupt or add in . ask him questions so that he has to answer. and he will. i recently got talking to a guy who is v reserved, but opened up surprisingly to me. i would just probe gently and let him talk it all out...he is one of my colleagues at school, persian but born and raised in france (his family was nearly killed in iran...) got to know a whole lot about both iran and france and his family, his mother, his history, his hobbies... anyways just an idea.
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Beth
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posted September 23, 2005 09:22 AM
Stick with it girl....time will tell!!!!Good luck!!!! IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted September 23, 2005 11:52 AM
My very silent gem friend speaks when he has gulped atleast half the bottle .  so, try a bottle , gem may be he 'll open up. though i dont claim to understand gems but then even i am giving my persepecptive based on this man only . he's a cap-moon . this man has always been the good one , the very studious kind , someone whom every one loved and cared for , never into fights with anyone , yeah he is quite selective about friends and has barely a few friends but all the above derscription is true of him too. the question is how ? and the answer is 'compromises' even when he didn't really want it to make .
these compromises pushed him to silences and frustation and also to passing quick judgements about people ( which are bound to affect ) and he drinks to break that silence . i always put him as one of my standard ( i always used to wonder how he could be good to everyone )and u know what , he always put me as his idol b'cos of one reason only (what he felt) that i speak what i feel is right .
even i took almost fiftenn years to break this silence. this explains his reasons for silence i.e,compromise and not having faith on people (i guess here his cap-moon is working hard too).gems are detached b'cos they want it be that way.
and yeah, there are a lot of quite gems , blabbering is just one the cliches that have got associated with gems . i dont have any answers ,how to break this silence . being a gem may be , u know better.
hope this man's mindset helps u understand the general mindset. i dont know how much right am i? and , think of what 'sg ' has said . that would help. IP: Logged |
gemini girl
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posted September 23, 2005 03:17 PM
hi guys thanx for the replies. SG Quote: (its like u always only post when u have a problem or issue...id like to see some posts from you to other peoples problems too....or when they ask qs....u just come to share ur own adventures which is fine its great, but it can also be tiring becoz it feels like all u do is present u , ur not interested in anyone else, ur not interested in what other ppl here at the forum say or have to go thru?) first of yes I know i rarely comment, but i always read other ppl's forms. I know it shouldnt be like this, but mostly I'm like this if i read a post i think about it. If i really have a need to comment i do lately im never here in anyway yesterday was the first time i got home in like forever. no excuses for in case ur thinking that i understand ur statement i agree. im too rushed i always have something to say bout posts i just never really post them so sorry if i offended anyone not my intention. as for mr gemini well for those thats wondering here's his chart i looked at it today. dunno if chiron conj merc can have anything to do with him being so reserved. today i spoke to his mom and apparently hes a lot like his dad. besides me being in love its really interesting cause ive never met anyone this closed its amazing, weird, new, intruiging and funny. but i love it. just have no idea how to handle it. i just cant get conversation running with him. not sure why, he is a pro. at hiding his feelings.
Sun Gemini 09°12'16 10
Moon Scorpio 26°05'43 03
Mercury Gemini 26°41'38 10
Venus Gemini 29°12'43 10
Mars Pisces 05°07'19 07
Jupiter Taurus 19°09'17 09
Saturn Capricorn 00°44'51 04/5
Uranus Sagittarius 29°52'37 04/5
Neptune Capricorn 09°36'00 05
Pluto Scorpio 10°25'07 02/3
True Node Pisces 19°42'51 07 again thanx to all the replies IP: Logged |
villy
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posted September 25, 2005 11:34 AM
I am new at this, however I guess Gems love talking over phone/emails (send a snail mail ) ... try long distance communication ...Not sure of this but Jupitor in Taurus might be the reason for being him slow (I might be guessing) By the way can someone explain terms like rising, cheron ... IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted September 25, 2005 06:47 PM
Welcome villyIP: Logged |
Pop Producer
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posted September 25, 2005 07:03 PM
Rising as far as I know is another word for ascendant
chiron is a minor planet (an asteroid) with an interesting meaning: pain and painful situations (it's moe complex than that)
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sthenri
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posted September 25, 2005 07:22 PM
Jupiter in Taurus is very quiet, and sensitive, best to talk in person not on the phone, over coffee or drinks..he probably likes the face to face contact more than the food and drink because he craves warmth around him. He is probably not the warmest guy though, so be prepared to compromise.I have a few male friends from time to time who are Geminis with lots of taurus, and they do like compromise, agree with their opinions even if they belive in aliens, praise all their hobbies, be prepared to listen always and accept any offer of a gift with gratitude. be secure in yourself physically don't ask for praise and be a friend, that is don't ask for much, just give time and energy. He probably likes fixing things to, ask him to help decorate your apartment or ask his advice on everything and anything, Good luck,
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gemini girl
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posted September 26, 2005 03:36 PM
hey guys thanx for all the replies. im having such a hard time cause im really so in love. cant remember when last i fell this hard -> boring i know. lol. anyways so today he just came over with his friend, he praticed with my bro. band stuff. then he closed the door ok i was still inside the room, but that upset me. im ridiculous i know. so later when he was leaving i asked if he could teach me how to drive, and he was like, (dont know how to translate it cause its like a saying) comes down to " yeah a man could teach you, lol the man being him. that is sorta like a maybe kind of answer. so i figured i wont mention it till he says something again. was that the wrong idea to ask him? being in love makes me not see or think clearly for the first time lol. villy check out www.magiastrology.com for more on chiron although they go in depth its interesting, and www.cafeastrology.com for more on risings. thanx guys oh yeah. not that u can tell in anyways, but if he hit on me how would i know lol rephrase. his mars is in pisces, i gather that has a lot to do with how he would approach anything he's interested. question to u guys do any of u have experience with pisces mars guys? thanx againNatasha IP: Logged |
villy
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posted September 27, 2005 01:53 PM
Thanks astro & Pop & Natasha for the links, need to find some time to go throug themciao IP: Logged |
Sajittarius
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posted October 10, 2005 11:21 PM
if hes quiet its because he likes your voice. I dated a gemini and when we talked it was all her because when i heard her talk it made me feel like my voice was a frog (ugly)and hers was a flute (pretty). Not sure how much that makes sense but just my two cents.
Or maybe you make him nervous...IP: Logged |
freebird
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posted October 11, 2005 01:54 AM
I agree with Sajittarius too that gemini guys like to listen their loved ones voice so they get quiet well a little.My gem guy also had the same thing and I found myself talking too much. Anyways good luck. Isn't this gem guys difficult to crack. I don't understand what they really think. IP: Logged |
Betelgeuse
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posted October 11, 2005 04:53 AM
Quiet Geminis are more common than thought, I am one myself. Maybe I could explain it a little here. I place so much emphasis and value on words, the importance of expression, that my inner being holds on to words I feel are not worthy of the moment, or are in excess to the situation. Its like a process of appraisal - articulate the thoughts, filter out the irrelevent, express the valuable. And in many a conversation, a quiet Gemini will listen attentively, trying to visualise your own motives by the words and movements you use. It is like many here have so very well said - if you want to know him well, quieten yourself slightly, and give silence an opportunity to let him shine. Oh, and try not to analyse the situation too much, seeking depth can often take you away from the beauty of the moment IP: Logged |
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posted October 11, 2005 05:25 AM
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i really dont understand his personality lol
hey  girl,
I think the fact the you both are gemini and both have scorpio moons already means that you are some kind of astro twins (gemini twins hehe) and are able to read each others' minds! It is natural that you a bit worried because you like him but you should not really, just trust your inner feelings more because you are both very similar! In a guy's chart Mars indicates how he actually approaches a girl he likes, in this case it will be picsean-like: 'taking action indirectly or obliquely, it can also indicate sabotage and self-sabotage -- and being blocked by something he can't define, describe, or "get a grip on," something nebulous, mysterious, or intangible.In other words, something sneaky or unknown may be happening behind the scenes and out of sight that hinders his action or that will cause him to act differently once all the pieces to the puzzle reveal themselves'. I know a Gemini guy (Sun conj Venus in Gemini, ASC in Scorpio, Moon in Cancer, he also has stellium in Taurus in the 7th) he is very sweet and quiet, not talkative at all, always prefers to listen, secretive to some extent and quite sensitive. Very smart, he is into radiophysics. We have great synastry aspects , lots of nodal and angular interaspects but we are nothing but good friends, hmmmm. Good luck
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posted October 11, 2005 05:36 AM
Jump on him....bwahahahaha!  (Sorry.... I'm in a very ODD mood today...) Which is not unusual. IP: Logged |
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posted October 11, 2005 07:31 AM
To Gemini Girl:
Try playing mind games with him. That way you will know the weak link in his emotional chain to attack and make him fall in love with you. Maybe you can email him that you want to boost your reading habit and ask his favorite authors or something, then use that to gradually interrogate all likes and dislikes. At the right time, a right quote from his favorite author or philosopher, backed up with a genuine reason for you liking the work, should do the trick and get him to open up. IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted October 11, 2005 06:25 PM
Come on work that gemini charm you know you have somewhere in there.
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gemini girl
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posted October 14, 2005 04:10 PM
thanx guys appreciate all the replies really wish could have u all like a fairy or a magic wand around me when i needed advice. he didnt come visit once this week ok he was away, but he is distant with my brother, they are friends. lately he changed his attitude, and has bad friends. he was with bad ppl before, then he kinda got better values. he always used to tell me that he hates drinking, but my bro. says that lately he keeps on saying that he wants to get drunk. i was a bit crushed. extremely disappointed in him. i had a dream about him i think it means something cause thats kinda what my bro. told me the day after i had the dream. its just weird sorry i dont mean to come here to tell ya all my problems. like so many has said i do that too often. thanx anywaysIP: Logged |
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posted January 19, 2021 06:57 AM
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Originally posted by Touchstone:
Hi, Gem Girl.Can you list your Gem guy's chart or planets? Maybe he has something in his chart making him more reticent than usual. I'm a Gem who finds it incredibly hard to come out of my shell and talk. You'd think with Sun, Moon and Mercury in Gem I'd be a right chatterbox but I'm not, LOL, so I can see that your fella may be similar in nature. I'm very quiet and guarded... not in a cold way. I just feel conscious of my voice and feel as though I won't express myself very well. There is the fear of thinking people won't want to listen (God forbid!) which I know is very silly of me and there's a lack of confidence going on. I'm much more chatty with my friends and close family but quiet as a mouse at work and other situations. You said he *might* have Cappy rising which is what I have. Though I personally blame Saturn in Gemini (restriction of communication). If you can list his planets, then it would be easier to tell what may be behind his shyness and reluctance to talk. It maybe that he just needs to warm up first. One thing's for sure, he's a good listener and all good conversations need a good listener! I wish the both of you a lovely relationship together Touch
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