posted October 03, 2005 03:02 PM            

I know a couple of Libra risings. They both try to treat their friends with equal love/hatred (depends on the mood) but react in the same way to everyone, treating them with an almost irritating amount of fairness. OK, so in words this sounds like a lovely trait to have, but the downside is I can never tell who they do really like! Or whether they like me better than so and so etc... Again, maybe you're thinking "It's nice to like everyone!" But it's pretty much impossible, I'm sure they must 'really' prefer some people to others, and if this isn't the case, how are you meant to make an impression on them?
One Libra rising I know is fantastic, I really like him, but it seems he is just as polite/nice to all my other friends, even when they do something like (and this really happened) phone him at 1 in the morning randomly or talk nonsense to him! He is too darn nice!! How am I meant to know if he actually likes me? (I can't ask him, he answers awkwardly 'Er... I like you all...!') If he really is just being nice, again, how can I tell?
Surely these people are impressionable somehow? Or do they just not show it?

posted October 03, 2005 03:40 PM              

Almost everyone gets an equal: please, thank-you... and usually a smile

I try and give everyone I meet an honest chance. It takes a lot for me not to like someone Well maybe not so much... as long as you're polite, honest, and treat me with the same respect I treat you... I like you

"They both try to treat their friends with equal love/hatred (depends on the mood) but react in the same way to everyone, treating them with an almost irritating amount of fairness".

I can see how it could get annoying.

I can relate with the 1:00 a.m. phone calls. I'm "that" friend.

As long as these people aren't avoiding you, than I'd say they like you.

As far as liking you more than the others? Hmmmm... If I go out of my way to be around a person, I generally enjoy them more than average.

posted October 03, 2005 04:03 PM            

Cool, that's a three-person pattern so far now including you!

No, sadly, he doesn't go out of his way to be around me. Does this make me just yet another person to be polite to in a sea of diplomacy?

posted October 03, 2005 04:10 PM            

it thinks the whole libra influence of not wanting to have *too* much on one side and not enough on the other. cant like this person toooo much cuz then this person wont get enough. its almost liek i feel bad if i give one of my friends more attention and hang out with them more than i do with another set of friends or friend. i feel like im betraying them because i'm showing the other friends more attention. it's weird

i do find myself doing that a lot, its like i obviously KNOW the decision but for...*appearance wise* i dont wanna seem rude or anything so to make everyone happy why not just make it equal? :-)

posted October 03, 2005 04:32 PM              

I'm assuming (could be wrong, correct me if so) that you're attracted to this person?

Well, I don't really know if it has much to do with my Libra asc. or not... but I'm generally not the type that will make the first initial "move" on another. I can be a bit confusing in that area.

If someone is interested, they almost have to smack me with it... or else I'll think they're just being friendly. Unless it's completely obvious.

belle: It can be exhausting, can't it?

posted October 03, 2005 04:36 PM            

Oh, and I think he knows. I told him...
Stupid me..... oh well....

posted October 03, 2005 04:50 PM              

It will give him something to think on. Just continue to be his friend. Maybe try and give him a gentle nudge... see how he reacts.

What works on me? Charm and good conversation.

posted October 03, 2005 05:04 PM              

ex. is that my bro is in jail for something he did wrong, i did not try to save him, he deserved justly to go to jail so that hes away from society. my mom finds this inhumane in me...

i think the strength of this affect would also be affected by the aspect of the ascendant with merc and sun,

my libra asc trines gem sun and gem merc, so generally come off as positive to the ppl who i put as equals.

posted October 03, 2005 05:30 PM            

always.. i have definite favorites.. i may not show it, but theres always someone i like better than others. just because i treat everyone the same, doesnt always mean i feel that way. as i said, its just not to make myself look *bad*

posted October 03, 2005 05:52 PM            

But when it comes to "like" in the romantic sense..... hmm.. I flirt with everybody but it's likely that I WON'T flirt with the person I'm attracted to****. If I'm VERY attracted to them. I'll just be polite and he'll think I'm a frigid biatch. BUT, if he starts flirting with me I will go along with it.

lol.. it's all very confusing in the Libra rising universe. Or it's just mighty Uranus doing his/her thing in my chart.

posted October 03, 2005 06:34 PM            

Libra Sun here. May I take a poke at one of your original questions? Surely these people are impressionable somehow? Or do they just not show it?. It depends . Of course we're impressionable! If you've gotten to us, look for a bit of color to creep up the neck.....if we REALLY like you, there will be NO doubt in your mind!!
We DO have some bizarre compulsion to try and not show favouratism -- it wouldn't be FAIR!!!
Linda Goodman nailed the Libra look: After you've ruled the Venus dimples in or out, notice the entire effect of the face. It will always wear a markedly pleasant expression. Even when the Libran is angry, somehow he or she will manage to look mild, or at the very least, neutral. A Libran is the only person on Earth who can say, "I hate you and I'm going to punch you in the nose," and sound as if he's reciting Browning's 'How Do I Love Thee?'
Good luck "reading" your Libran/Libra Rising friends ~

posted October 03, 2005 10:23 PM            

Now I'm planning on getting married next summer and I'm freaking out about my bridesmaids and what to do about my maid of honor. It's driving me crazy. I simply cannot pick one over the other. So here I am putting it off, either that or I'm looking for a sign...anyway off on a tangent.

I do have preferences in friends, but no one knows that for sure, but I'm sure to be inclusive at all times. lol..If this helps at all

posted October 03, 2005 10:39 PM              

BUT I am a solar Libra, with a Libran stellium, Moon in Taurus (in the 7th no less!), and Venus as chart dispositor, so I can relate to your friend's desire to be a bit of a people-pleaser - socially, at least.

In a group, I'll go out of my way to treat everyone as equals; but, in private, my favourite people know they're favourites. I tend to attract folks of similar discretion; there hasn't been much problem with anyone feeling deprived of my attentions.

posted October 04, 2005 03:36 PM            

1scorp- Gentle nudge, eh? Haha, well, I've tried that before! I occasionally make some... er, suggestive comments on IM, and he usually replies with a shocked emoticon!

WN- Yeah, I know what you mean, my friend only really hangs out with her main friends (us) but she's equally nice (or horrible ) to us all!

SG- That does sound like something one of them would say! But I always thought it was more to do with hiding what they really thought!

alanabelle- oh good. Glad to know they're not completely unbiased then!

posted October 04, 2005 03:37 PM            

zala- Thank you for answering my questions! "I hate you and I'm going to punch you in the nose," LOL I love that bit!

jane says- Hey there, welcome! Yes, that's very helpful. Thank you. Hope your wedding goes to plan!

Tula- haha, I like your kill 'em with kindness approach! I would know if he liked me or not, except I'm far too modest to presume so...!

posted October 04, 2005 05:22 PM            

I'm like that too - even though it's obvious that I favor someone more than someone else you say, "Oh, no no EVERYONE'S MY FRIEND!"

I hate using the term "Best friend" because then that one "best friend" out shines the rest, and that's not fair at all to everyone else.

And having only "one friend" backfires a lot too, what happens if you're not best friends with that person anymore? So it's safer to just have everyone nearly on the same level (or at least, make it appear that way.) and it's just a lot easier and people don't feel bad. You don't want too much of someone but you don't want to little, either (at least, of someone you like.)

Even if someone kind of annoys me, I'll be super kind to them too... "Oh no, what if they notice I don't like them!? I better treat them the same as everyone!" That way there won't be any conflicts and people will be happy. Libra's love harmony, after all.

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But.. while I am equally nice and friendly to everyone I like, when I specifically don't like someone, I just don't talk to them. That's it. They won't hear a peep from me. Unless they do something rude and insulting to me or someone around me.

But when it comes to "like" in the romantic sense..... hmm.. I flirt with everybody but it's likely that I WON'T flirt with the person I'm attracted to****. If I'm VERY attracted to them. I'll just be polite and he'll think I'm a frigid biatch. BUT, if he starts flirting with me I will go along with it.

lol.. it's all very confusing in the Libra rising universe. Or it's just mighty Uranus doing his/her thing in my chart.

*edit: Not for the sake of mind games but when I really like a fellow (which is rare!) I tend to get all formal and serious.. it's very odd. Unless I can tell the feeling is mutual.

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The above is WAY true for me too. Especially the edit. I'm really, really formal, serious and SHY (maybe Taurus sun doing it's thing?)

posted October 12, 2005 01:33 PM              

"Jane Says" (by Jane's Addiction)

Jane says
I'm done with Sergio
He treats me like a ragdoll
She hides
The television
Says I don't owe him nothing,
But if he comes back again
Tell him to wait right here for me
Or just
Try again tomorrow
I'm gonna kick tomorrow
Gonna kick tomorrow

Jane says
Have you seen my wig around?
I feel naked without it
She knows
They all want her to go
But that's O.K. man
She dont like them anyway
Jane says
She's goin away to spain
When she gets my money saved
I'm gonna start tomorrow
I'm gonna kick tomorrow
Gonna kick tomorrow

She gets mad
Starts to cry
She takes a swing but
She cant hit
She don't mean no harm
She just don't know
What else to do about it

Jane goes
To the store at 8:00
She walk up on St. Andrews
She waits
And gets her dinner there
She pulls her dinner
From her pocket
Jane says
I've never been in love
I don't know what it is
Only knows if someone wants her
I want them if they want me
I only know they want me

She gets mad
And she starts to cry
She takes a swing man
She cant hit!
She don't mean no harm
She just dont know
What else to do about it

Jane says
Jane says

LOVE THAT SONG!! IT'S ME!!