posted November 03, 2005 02:32 PM              

I avoid fighting with an intimate partner all together. But if I do, it's ugly. I tend to be an intellectual bully and hyper-rationalize everything. I have a very hard time backing down once I'm in "battle modee" and I do not like to say I was wrong.

posted November 03, 2005 08:18 PM            

I either ignore them, or they get my full attention.

posted November 04, 2005 08:51 AM            

i'm a Scorpio with Mars in Aqua. I can be a huge ***** one minute and the sweetest girl you've ever met the next.

When I fight with a loved one, I tend to go into over-explaining and tearing the wrongdoing apart and throwing it back at them another way over and OVER again. I dont lose my temper because there's no way I could control myself if I let my temper go. I always detach myself emotionally/physically when i feel my patience start to wear when i'm in an argument. because i dont like to explode. it even scares ME.

im very head-trippy,guilt tripping, mind-gamey though.

posted November 04, 2005 11:44 AM              

mars in aqua in 10th house here.

posted November 28, 2005 05:43 AM              

When it comes to fighting with loved ones, I would say it's coming more from the Leo Moon (loud voices, dramatics, hysterics etc).

posted November 28, 2005 09:30 AM              

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i think mars in aquarius may like to express anger in a very unemotional (non-verbal) way??...like maybe forget to come home.....??? maybe an emotional confrontation just seems too.....emotional.....after all, we are apes with BIG brains, ain't we?? ring any bells....??

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Remember that Aqua is a fixed sign and thus is very much in keeping things a certain way. Aqua Mars isn't really passive-aggressive, per se, but it is rather controlling. It's also an air sign, so it's overly cerebral for a Mars placement. ANd being ruled by Uranus doesn't make things simple either.

Thus, if an Aqua-martian gets mad they tend to (one, two or all of the following):

1) Take the air route: intellectualize or rationalize. Because Aqua Mars is a peregrine (wandering - lacks essential dignity) placement, when an Aqua-Martian's emotions get heated and they start intellectuallizing them, they tend to "wander" with it. That means overkill, or repeating themselves ad nauseum, or keep missing/going off the point. Sometimes this is pretty funny (just don't say that to a Aqua-Martain when they're really mad!). This doesn't mean they aren't feeling real anger - they do, definitely. It's actually a *very* testy Mars placement, because it's a fixed sign. It's just Aqua hates being controlled by emotions, and so this is a defense mechanism an Aqua-Martian resorts to to keep his or her anger from controlling them (and it usually backfires, which is also pretty funny too).

2) Take the Uranian route: cease all cooperation and assert one's independence. This is when they don't come home. Or don't call. Or go out with their friends instead of keeping a date. Or just ignore you. Again, it's not passive-agressive. In the mind of the Aqua-Martian, the message is loud and clear: I'm my own person and you don't control me. They believe that if they don't want do something (like talk to you), that social conventions (like common decency, politeness, etc) can't dictate to them that they should. However, these very Uranian antics are often mistaken for passive-aggression by other (more sane) people, and unless the other person understands that you just can't push a Aqua-Martian around, then a load of misunderstanding is sure to follow.

3) take the fixed route: be stubborn and/or controlling. This is Aqua Mars at it's nastiest, and it's not that far from a Scorpio Mars in this regard. Aqua mars hates, hates, HATES backing down once it's gotten into a fight. The thought of defeat is inconceivable. This is often when that notorious "authoritarism" of an Aqua Martian comes out to play - they act like they know everything, are always right and absolutely won't stop until they've browbeaten their opponent to near death. (The amusing paradox of Aquarius is that it's very openminded - until someone disagrees with it. Then it becomes, well, very *fixed.*) Because it's an air sign, Aqua attacks mostly on a cerebral level in someway, but it is resourceful and will resort to other tactics if it gets the results. Aqua-Martians can also be manipulative and play some serious mind games. You'd think Aqua's strong sense of ethics would prevent this Mars from sinking to a Scorio Mars' level, but no: Aqua Mars just rationalizes such trreachery as "reasonable".

posted November 28, 2005 10:21 AM            

My mars in aqua in the 4th is a singleton as well as my moon in leo.

imaging living with me for a month!!! I drive my Aqua Moon bf nuts sometimes. With his Aqua Moon/Scorpio Mars vs. my Leo Moon/Aqua Mars

posted November 28, 2005 05:10 PM            

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2) Take the Uranian route: cease all cooperation and assert one's independence. This is when they don't come home. Or don't call. Or go out with their friends instead of keeping a date. Or just ignore you. Again, it's not passive-agressive. In the mind of the Aqua-Martian, the message is loud and clear: I'm my own person and you don't control me. They believe that if they don't want do something (like talk to you), that social conventions (like common decency, politeness, etc) can't dictate to them that they should. However, these very Uranian antics are often mistaken for passive-aggression by other (more sane) people, and unless the other person understands that you just can't push a Aqua-Martian around, then a load of misunderstanding is sure to follow.

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Yup. That's me.

posted November 29, 2005 01:13 AM              

I do feel really pissy in an intellectual way. And much more proud than usual. I am trying to fight it or channel it into work.

I also get this intense need to get into conversations that resemble arguments.

posted April 29, 2007 09:52 AM              

At 13 yrs of age I owned a hat that said that.
Fight? No. Argumentative? Damn straight!

I like what Gemini Nymph had to say:

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I avoid fighting with an intimate partner all together. I have a very hard time backing down once I'm in "battle modee" and I do not like to say I was wrong.

I can be very passionate, but I can turn it off in a split second and become very detached. Overall, I'm not very romantic or physically affectionate. I prefer demonstrating loyalty, understanding, honesty and mutual respect over romantic gestures.

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Now, mind you, when I drank things got extremely physical. Think slow cooker full of spaghetti sauce learning the art of flying.
The Sag/Aqua drunk I was with for 8 yrs learned that one good punch does not stop me when I have a fifth of whiskey in me. I laid a left-handed round house on his face that left him shaking his head, seeing stars.