posted November 12, 2005 07:38 PM              

Now remember through all of this I have been working two jobs, so my reactions are sort of slow because of my hours.

This sounds strange, but I have a Cancer friend that I have known for almost a year, he and I dated off and on as he is about 2.5 hours away with a son he has to fight custody for. He is reluctant to come visit me and as always as a Taurus I have had to really kick myself in the butt to go see him.

For a while I was with an Aquarius and that ended. The weekend it did, the Cancer asked for a big commitment from me in a long email, and called constantly. I was pretty shocked for a few days.

I had stopped the relationship because I don't want to get physical with any man for a while. Anyway he is emotionally all over the place-and he was very excited. We talked and agreed on seeing each other this weekend. Monday he sounded excited, until I told him I was working nights. He has the week off and sounded upset about it. I tried to cheer him up, but nothing worked.

Tuesday, he was a little distant. And then nothing. I know he got my message yesterday, and he said he was looking forward to this weekend, so is that it? We never talk in person? I feel he is hiding from me now because he is angry at my priorities. He thinks I should sell my house for what I can get and move in with him. I am selling my house but the last offer was $10K less than what I need, it's not greed.

I really like this man and want to continue our friendship, romantic or not. But I can't tell how I feel if he refuses to see me because he assumes I am playing games. It's as if he knows instinctively when I am weakest and wants a reaction then, right then, not later. When I don't drop everything and run to him, he's angry. I did feel the pressure and wanted to give in, but I have to make a living until the house sells.

I am SO tempted right now to take any offer and run right over to him, but it takes a long time to save $10K.

He is very involved in the sale and takes it personally that his help hasn't produced a sale, I am grateful and told him I missed him and wanted to see him more than anything, but he said I never tell him he's good looking or that I love him. To be honest I told him I'd rather say those things in person because it feels more like a non romantic relationship on the phone. I need the contact because it's normal for me.

Is this Cancer lost to me?
I can't control anything except go where I am most needed-wanted! Does he want me to force him to be with me, be more dominant so he knows we are a couple?? How do Cancers want to be shown they are a couple anyway??

He has Sun in Cancer, Mooon and Mercury Leo, Venus in Gemini, Mars in Sag, Jupiter, Uranus in Libra. I don't know his ascendant. I love my ex libra but to be honest I don't feel the same way as I do with this man, my Libra simply wants to live in a happy household, he dislikes any travel at all. The Cancer invited me to Spain this summer and I had to turn him down, and loves to travel with me.

I feel sort of heart broken after reading his beautiful letter and then getting this response. This is the second weekend he has done this to me and then he wants to see me during the week when I have to work.

posted November 13, 2005 08:59 AM              

I hope you find some answers, and I want to be able to help you when I can.

posted November 13, 2005 06:26 PM              

I have a feeling going slow with Cancers is a very good idea, I don't like water signs when they get angry or teased.

Thanks Knowflakes,