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Topic: How do deal with Arian anger?
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oddball
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posted November 14, 2005 05:50 PM
 
Okay, I ALWAYS seem to get Aries people angry over some little thing. I know its just their nature, and that they cool down quickly, but how do you prevent this from happening in the 1st place?? The blow up unexpectedly too. IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 06:10 PM
Leave them. IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
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posted November 14, 2005 06:13 PM
I agree - tell them you're going to give them a chance to cool down and will come back when they are. Then leave and be firm about it.IP: Logged |
angel_of_hope
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posted November 14, 2005 06:19 PM
Tell them, "just cause you think you know it all, doesnt mean everyone else does" That usually gets my Aries to realise how stupid it is to get ticked over the trivial stuff. Other than that, give them time to chill, walk away. It works for me. BUT as far as your quesiton of preventing it ... lmao ... is there such a thing as preventing tickin a Aries off? they do get irritated and pissie over the smallest of matters ... I joke with mine and ask him or tell him "Are you getting pissie?" or "Dont get pissie!!" and it makes him laugh his way outta his moodyness. IP: Logged |
nove731
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posted November 14, 2005 06:20 PM
How do you keep us from blowing up?Don't piss us off. Oh, and telling an Aries that the reason they're angry is a "little" and insignificant thing, is probably only going to make them angrier. Learn to hold your tongue and move away. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted November 14, 2005 06:38 PM
Oh Leyla.. I guess it didn't work out with your Aries, huh?Time.... the only thing that works. How do you prevent anything or anyone from being angry? It's just not feasable for this world.. you can't be sunshines and puppy dogs forever.... accept it, and try not to look for anger or illicit it. Be respectful. But if anger is provoked, stay back and react with common sense.
Stop Drop Roll, or something like that. IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 06:58 PM
They get a thrill out of controlling people with their rage.The more you "walk on eggshells" around your Aries and make an effort to please them, you'll find they get "p*ssed off" more and more often. Remember that Aries is the "infant" sign, and infants get their way by howling and throwing tantrums. Don't encourage them. IP: Logged |
Lauren
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posted November 14, 2005 07:09 PM
Oddball, your dad is an Aries right?If we're talking about Aries men, I think preventing anger would basically boil down to not attacking their ego, similar to Leos. And not arguing on subjects that are personal to them. If you just drop it, they most probably won't get angry. As a Sag I strongly doubt you'd want to drop it, which is fine but then I guess you'll have to deal with the anger. Two fire signs makes more fire, for the better or for the worst. Once they're already angry, I don't think walking away would work, simply because I've seen Aries men in this position and they FOLLOW..if you walk away.. and it gets worse a LOT worse. Once he's angry try to calm him by speaking calmly yourself. If you yell back, he'll yell more. Also make a point out of saying you acknowledge his point of view, even though you disagree. This is why Librans are great at calming Aries ppl down. Try to act Libran lol PS another thing to prevent anger… specially if this is your dad we're talking about..don't act condescending or like you know better.. You can disagree all you like, but pretend you're very interested in what he has to say and acknowledge the "wisdom" in his words..something like that. All older people would appreciate that but especially an Aries man..who would not take anything less..
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LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 07:13 PM
F*ck dealing with an abusive raging Aries. Just file the restraining order.
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Lauren
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posted November 14, 2005 07:20 PM
heheh or divorce your dad lol na jk IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 07:25 PM
I've had a lot of experience with the raging Aries- so let me break this down for you: They're bullies.That's all there is to it. The first time they blow up at you it's a test. They are looking for signs of fear and weakness. "Can I make this person dance to the crack of my whip?" NEVER COWER. NEVER SHOW THEM FEAR. Do not tip-toe around an Aries. The more you try to please and sooth them, the worse they're going to get. The only thing I've have ever had work is this: STAND UP TO THEM. It's the only thing they're going to respect or understand. IP: Logged |
Lauren
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posted November 14, 2005 07:32 PM
I disagree. the more rage you throw back, the more rage you're going to get. This applies to everyone imo, not just Aries.That being said, I'm not an Aries man and Leyla sounds like she's been closer to one than I ever have..so she could be right. But I honestly think..if you get into it and yell back, the Aries person, if they're pretty much a typical Aries..will get angrier and angrier..and yell more and louder and it won't end well for either of you. I think calm solves a lot more than anger. Water puts fire out. Air fuels it. Act watery not airy ..if you want to “put him out”. If you want to fuel his fire and get more anger..then fight back..depends on what result you're looking for.
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Lousianagrl
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posted November 14, 2005 07:33 PM
WELL what I do if I p!ss one off, is just act real nice and they forgive you. It might be kinda wimpy but hey whatever works.You just have to understand, anger is the aries nature. Cherish it or stay the h*ll away  If I make one of my aries guys mad I just change the subject to something that has to do with how sucessful they are and they usually get over it, but I like it when they get mad. (unless it's over the top of course.) Me like aggressive men 
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LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 07:39 PM
Just "mirror" them the first time they try it and they'll never mess with you again. This has worked well for me. Go all out. Give 'em the "crazy-eye" and tell them you'll slit their throat in their sleep. IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 07:49 PM
...or you could just shove something under their fingernails. That also would get the point across.IP: Logged |
teaselbaby
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posted November 14, 2005 07:50 PM
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They're bullies.
This is NOT true.. I've been more scared by a few members of other signs than I ever have a fellow Aries. I don't get off on bullying people, in fact I'm quite the opposite. Of course I have my moments, the way everybody else does.
I've only ever met two Aries females (one in school, another an adult - apparently) and one Aries man, who cared more about themselves than they did other people and their feelings. As an Aries, it doesn't take me long to get over something unless someone has really crossed the line. A genuine apology goes down well, but I don't always expect one. Small rant over, my dad is teasing me, LOL. He always asks me why I let things get to me (mainly in the news), telling me not to worry about it, and to chill out.  IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 07:55 PM
Seriously. We had a bulldozer of a high priestess who was totally controlling and would "blow up" on students....Every student except me.
I had been warned of her behavior and was ready. So, the first time she tried it I "mirrored" her. She exploded on me and I exploded right back.She knew I would not be intimidated and was respectful to me from then on. The other students she continued to bully. Cower from them once and you'll have to cower the rest of your life.
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Lauren
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posted November 14, 2005 07:58 PM
hehehe omg Leyla you sound like you've been dating Osama Bin Laden or something "threaten to slit their throat" lols wha If they have anything but an Aries or Sag moon, you run the risk of spending your night in jail, with that joke. IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 08:11 PM
Lauren- I would only say that if they Aries in question was threatening violence.Teaselbaby- I spoke specifically of the "raging aries." Not every aries. And believe you me, there are plenty of raging Aries. As every "rager" knows, they enjoy the power they feel it gives them over the situation. Observe nove731's comment: We are warned not to "p*ss him/her off" and are told how we should "Learn how to hold our tongues." Hmmm. Indeed.  We are then insturcted to are never to tell the Aries how "little" and insignificant the thing is they are raving about. Even if the afformentioned Aries has flipped over the breakfast table because someone has brought home the wrong box of cereal. IP: Logged |
nove731
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posted November 14, 2005 08:13 PM
Leyla, Don't take this the wrong way, but you think you know way more about Aries men than you really do. I don't bully anyone. Screw that. I don't blow up, either. I walk away and vent about it to people who aren't involved. You're trying to make Aries men out as big manipulative ******** who don't respond to anything but being dominated. That's just not true.IP: Logged |
nove731
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posted November 14, 2005 08:16 PM
quote:
We are then insturcted to are never to tell the Aries how "little" and insignificant the thing is they are raving about.Even if the afformentioned Aries has flipped over the breakfast table because someone has brought home the wrong box of cereal.
Who the hell would explode over that? If you think any Aries is that petty, you're making a gross generalization that you can shove up your ass. Tell me I'm being petty because I get ****** off when you whipe purple paint on my new jacket. for instance, and I'm liable to punch you in the face. You might think it's petty, but it's MINE, I didn't want your damn purple paint on my jacket. I don't think it's funny. You can call it petty all you want, but I don't want your stupid purple paint on me. IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 08:16 PM
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I apologise  nove731 I should practice more on how to "hold my tongue."
please don't beat me. IP: Logged |
nove731
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posted November 14, 2005 08:19 PM
I hate it when people go out of their damn way to **** be off because they think it's "funny". Then they expect me to say "Thank you, you were so right to make me feel like **** because you don't like my hair!" for it. Screw that. No, I won't do that.IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 14, 2005 08:22 PM
I'm sorry but this is just toooo funny... quote:
nove731... you're making a gross generalization that you can shove up your ass. Tell me I'm being petty because I get ****** off when you whipe purple paint on my new jacket. for instance, and I'm liable to punch you in the face. You might think it's petty, but it's MINEI hate it when people go out of their damn way to **** me off because they think it's "funny". Then they expect me to say "Thank you, you were so right to make me feel like **** because you don't like my hair!" for it. Screw that. No, I won't do that.
No one in this forum wiped purple paint on your jacket.
Or made fun of your hair. (???) Way to show us how Aries don't blow up. IP: Logged |
nove731
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posted November 14, 2005 08:27 PM
Oh my GOD! Just STOP. I said "for instance". I was using instances from my everyday damn life to show what the hell I'm talking about. Can you not read? I don't blow up and throw frickin' chairs around the house. That's how I interpret "blowing up". I'm sorry if we have different views on what "blowing up" means. Yeah, I get angry. Who the hell doesn't? But I'm not going to go screaming at someone when I see them face to face. Funny, you talk about how Aries need to be dominated. Haha, since I'm a teenager, I bet you'd be trying to beat me into submission right now if we were face to face. Since, of course, that's the only way to control a teenager. :rollseyes: IP: Logged |
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