posted November 26, 2005 12:36 AM              

Okay. So. Where to begin...

I'm getting over my ex, when this great guy appears. He's good looking, successful, romantic, comes from an esteemed family.

Mr. Perfect is even into astrology!
I am wooed with breath-taking love letters.
And as a surprise gift, he presents me with a drawing he'd been working on in secret. It's of me, and he made me look so beautiful. He's so talented.

I know there's something wrong with all of them but: HE'S A CROSS DRESSER.

Yes. All true.

He even sends me a pic. I opened up his latest letter to find him in make up and a evening gown with elbow length gloves and his hair all teased up for that "wind blown" effect.

He had pursed lips and his head cocked to the side. A man doing a poor imitation of a female's coy expression.

I could have died, I tell you.

In this same letter he informed me he has venus in libra rising. Which seems to make sense of him.

posted November 26, 2005 01:22 AM            

Is it okay to laugh? Not at you, but your story is hilarious! I feel for ya, girl.

posted November 26, 2005 02:01 AM              

Look at this!

I was using my infamous mind-control tricks, as you might have guessed. Guaranteed to make any man wild for you.

posted November 26, 2005 02:13 AM              

My ex-finacee was a closet cross dresser, and he was a Cancer-Libra-Virgo. His moon was conjunct his Uranus, and intercepted int eh 1st house. He had tons of shame about it,but refused to get into therapy. I dumped him because I wasn't going to be with a guy who wanted to make himself miserible.

posted November 26, 2005 02:19 AM              

i wonder why air men are always so androgynous ? strange .

posted November 26, 2005 02:46 AM              

Love letters, songs, poems, messages and emails of love, especially from someone unavailable-all red flags. Now I demand love in person, as in friendly affection.

Don't believe in romance, it's a waste of time and keeps you from knowing the person.

Good Luck Honey, and cross that one off your list!

posted November 26, 2005 02:56 AM              

All the romantic letters and drawings were a direct result of using my infamous mind-control tricks. Guaranteed to make any man wild for you. I knew exactly what I was doing. I just didn't know he was a cross dresser.

posted November 26, 2005 03:09 AM              

They have a wonderful love life together and she adores him....they are both SCorpios.

Why is it weird.......go for it.....its not what is on the outside...its the type of guy he is that counts, and it could add to the excitement of the relationship.

My hubbie and I went to a 70s glam rock disco a while back and he wore full makeup, glitter, lipstick, eyeshadow etc and I tell you guys he looked so feminine and horny.....it was one of the best nights we had in a long time. He looked like Marc Bolan....yum yum yum...

Viva la difference people........

xxx

posted November 26, 2005 03:13 AM              

I feel for ya! I'm not sure I would want to either, he may have a sexier negligee then I do- ack! and if his shoes cost more then mine, we would have major issues.

posted November 26, 2005 03:15 AM              

I can't have sex with a man while he's pretending to be a woman, and I'm not going to be made to feel guilty about it.

posted November 26, 2005 04:14 AM              

And no, I wouldn't want to go out with a cross-dresser either.

posted November 26, 2005 07:22 AM              

I read some of your other wonderful posts Leyla, and you seem to me to be a person who needs a real man - and real aren't cross dressers... Not in my world anyway.

posted November 26, 2005 02:49 PM              

btw im surprised about the Aries sun thing. maybe because Aries men tend to be so manly-men, u know what I mean? Im with an Aries/Gemini right now, and its freaking me out, better check his closet LOL jk. actually he is very male-male, and sometimes even chauvinistic which i wish i could change. but imma probably do away with him anyways, he is slow in change.

and romance might be strange for other men...but i think it is just regular stuff for aries men. they have an ideal world inside their head. if they think ur their princess they will do anything for u and literally mean anything. i dont think its abnormal for an aries man to do uber romantic stuff at least in the beginning of the relationship. its completely normal.

posted November 26, 2005 05:30 PM              

He, however, is pretending to be a woman. If I wanted a woman in bed, I'd go be a lesbian.

(Which might explain the leanings of Sue G's butch friend who lives with a transvestite, yet doesn't wear makeup or fancy clothes herself.)

JupiterRulesSurely- Interesting, because I too am a scorpio moon. I posted my tips under the thread on Aquarius men.

posted November 26, 2005 05:45 PM              

It doesn't say anything about your attractiveness as a woman-he felt you are very female and he could open up to you, I too attract men who have a little of the sensitive side-and they either overreact and become very macho or try to escape.

Do you want to stay friends with him? That is the real question.

posted November 26, 2005 07:55 PM              

He wants to dress up as a woman and serve me, while I mock, degrade, and beat him. This just isn't the kind of sexual experience I'm in for.

I'm not shy to a little expiramentation. I have been known to enjoy playing tie-up and spanking games.

posted November 26, 2005 08:00 PM              

Sounds like he is stuck in the past, or conditioned by some past event and replaying it over and over again. It's not going to help him much to keep reliving this, and it would be very detrimental to your mental health. If he really insists then ask him gently if he has gone to counseling about this or is it a lifestyle? Make it clear it's something that does not support your friendship and you need someone to support your goals and lifestyle too. In fact, that's what you were hoping for. And your lifestyle does not involve non traditional relationships.

See how that goes,