posted December 02, 2005 08:45 AM              

Once that is worn off the relationship pretty much dies in the sex and love department and so all you have is friendship. Aquas are not wowed so much by illusions, fake humour, and overly superficial people-for that reason they dont' fall in love so much. Aquas can be materialistic but it's mainly for stability's sake so they rely on friends- friends are stable, lovers take every other word the wrong way and blow up.

Natasha

posted December 02, 2005 11:52 AM              

We can be too smart for our own good. We can find ways around love, and go for the sex, and be content with that for an entire lifetime. But being content is not enough. When you love someone you are sexually active with, you'll know if it's love if you are completely 100% satisfied after the sex. If you're not, if you feel like you can never get enough, like there is always a void you can never fill, then it's not love - or at least you may have lost sight of that love temporarily.

(I'm not including anyone who has intrinsic psychological or sexual dysfunctions - which is another matter altogether.)

posted December 02, 2005 10:46 PM            

That said, I had to think about your friend's comment, 'If you put love first, then all it is, is just sex'...the 'is just sex' threw me off, but stepping back and adding in the love factor, if that is there first and above all, I would have to agree with this. I see it that your friend also considers the practical side of a relationship, each person with their needs (sex) being met, along with the emotional needs.

All most of us are looking for in our ideal mate is someone with whom we can bond at every level and share our lives with. Aside from being lovers, don't people in our lives fall into the category of friend? Sure, we don't have sex with every one of our friends, but save that for one (usually) special person. I understand your friend's point of view, as that is what I am looking for as well, someone with whom I can share everything: experiences, good times and be a source of support and a confidant, someone who is there for us if need be. Minus the sex, isn't this what a friend is in our lives?

posted December 02, 2005 10:56 PM              

peace. I agree and disagree with that question,, and

posted December 03, 2005 12:46 AM              

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Im not sure if most peaple are ready to handle or hear the more blatent of explanations behind the strandard Aqua view on these subjects.

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Oh come off it! Nothing ticks me off more than an Aqua's pretentious "you can't handle the truth" sanctimony, especially when they're just being cowardly. Can *you* handle that kind of blatant honesty?

posted December 03, 2005 01:34 AM              

As for the whole view on sharing everything-I have come to think this is naive-honesty yes about feelings but not everything that goes on. Aqua men do not like to get too deep into love also because they may lose the friendship-but that friendship is about having someone around to depend on socially since Aquas get stuck being social so much.

All the Aquas I know have close emotional ties to long term friends-but they are platonic.

How many people actually share everything with their lovers?? Isn't this another word for depending on the lover to organize the social calendar?

I love some Aquas but I never forget I am expected to "pull my own weight"

For that reason I prefer a lover who does not involve me in every single aspect of his life, so I can take care of mine. I prefer a lover who does not criticize as I am critical enough.

I can live with Aquas though, Aquas are very livable as a sign as they are not so concerned with modesty, and dividing up the chores, that kind of thing.

posted December 03, 2005 09:42 AM              

You may already know more behind the workings of Aqua's..but many others hear dont seem too get us, espeicaly when it comes to love and such.

I had already tried abandoning the whole "ya cant handle the truth" frame of mind here, went out on a limb to explain for a few perhaps what could only be Uranian secrets,,only to find the same characters I extensivly shared with "Aqua bashing" not even a month later... Especialy the oints they where slagin Uranians for- they either didnt listen to a word I typed, or everything jsut went over their heads..

posted December 03, 2005 12:02 PM              

i want my lovers to desire me, not posess me, I want stimulating conversation and loyalty, the ability to be seperate people doing the same thing.. I dont want superficiality or clingyness...

but my lover is my best friend and it took us 3 years to get our acts together and get it on (hes an Aries), so i guess this is where we get our negative side of being a little aloof..

Remember before you bash us the water we bear in that urn on our shoulders is deep emotion.. and we keep it contained thru fear of rash or stupid actions based on emotion rather than reasoned logic.

Some of you just arent cut out to date us, I think, especially if you want a demonstrative emotionally charged relationship..