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Topic: WOW....I made the Scorp ANGRY!!!
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LuLu
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posted December 10, 2005 03:55 PM
 
I really made the Scorp mad at me!!!! I don't want to get into the details of what's been going on because it was all in my previous post Men Drive Me Insane. Anyway...our company xmas party was last night and I chose not to go because it would have been upsetting for me to see him with the girl he is now dating. I made plans with friends, even had a date, and went to celebrate someone's 30th bday while listening to a friend's band play. I only told a few people at work that I wasn't going to the party and didn't really get into why. My boss called around 10 and left me a funny message about being in the doghouse because i wasn't at the party. He then called back again around 11 with a friend of mine, Brandy, and joked with me on the phone about the doghouse. I told them I was out on a date and I would talk to them later. 20 minutes later, my phone rang and it was the Scorp. My eyes about bugged out of my head. I answered, but I couldn't hear him because of the music. I moved to the back of the bar so that I could hear him and he said "Nice job not ******* coming to the party." I said,"Look, I just wasn't ready to see it yet. I wasn't trying to be hurtful. This opportunity to do something else came up and I took it." He said, "I have been looking around for you all night and then I have to find out from Brandy what the real story is." I said, "What's the real story?" because I didn't know what he knew. "The real story, the real story..." is all he kept saying. Then he said "I'll talk to you later" and hung up. I called Brandy about 20 minutes later and she couldn't stop laughing. She said he had walked up to her, with his new girlfriend in tow mind you, and demanded to know where I was. She said I wasn't coming. He said where is she. She said I had plans. He said what kind of plans. She said she just had other plans. He then demanded to know who I had plans with. She said it doesn't matter, she just had other plans. She told me she couldn't believe that this girl just stood there while he was freaking out and demanding to know where I was. I couldn't believe he was so mad he called to yell. Another friend told me today that he and the girl were strange last night. He would barely talk when she was around and they weren't affectionate with each other at all. Apparently they have been dating for a couple of months and she said you would never even guess that they were a couple. Even his friends that apparently know this girl very well, didn't even talk with her at all during the night. My friend told me that the whole group went out to this bar down the street after the party, but he didn't go. Now the Scorp LUVS a party and is always up for going out. The xmas party was at a hotel and he had to drive an hour to get there. They had a room to stay the night. It is soooo not like him to pass up going out to another bar. My lord... I REALLY ticked him off. I do find it funny though that it is biting him in the ass. He didn't tell me for months about this girl he was dating and now he is mad because I chose a date over the xmas party. Never seen the Scorp jealous when it comes to me before. It was interesting.IP: Logged |
MoonDuchess88
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posted December 10, 2005 04:33 PM
sorry but this guy sounds really selfish, draining, and toxic. I'd cut him out if he doesn't even consider your feelings  IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted December 10, 2005 05:02 PM
WOW  that’s very impractical. Why would he get mad?  IP: Logged |
LuLu
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posted December 10, 2005 05:08 PM
I don't know why he got mad. And p.s. WN, I'm a little bit thick today and can't tell if you were being sarcastic or not  We've talked about our feelings for each other a lot, but the reality is we live in two different cities. He chose to start dating someone and not tell me about it because he was chicken. I thought maybe someone could help me figure out why a Scorp would get mad like that.IP: Logged |
Swerve
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posted December 10, 2005 05:14 PM
I think he had a script in mind with you staring at the loving couple all night with a longing look in your eyes, as he would have if the situation would have been reversed, though you would NEVER be allowed to see that.You obviously didn't get your copy in the post. Want to hurt a Scorpio, be indifferent and mean it. They will know. But I find the best way to get to this particular type of Scorpio is to be nice..and indifferent. Watch him boil to death inside as you smile a polite but cold smile. You'll get the stare, but just let him scan you and know that you are OK without him. The memory of that alone will give him enough rope to torture himself. Or take the high road and show genuine compassion for the fact that he clearly hasn't learnt to master his own inner magnificence. Patronise without patronising. You will cut his stinger clean off. (I could be showing the darker side of a Pisces here, excuse me) Swerve IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted December 10, 2005 05:33 PM
Lulu no no…I’m not being sarcastic.
I was just smiling at how over the top the guy is being. When I’m confused, I just laugh. I hope you don’t think I was being mean spirited.
I can easily slip from emotion to emotion - which leads to misunderstanding.
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LuLu
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posted December 10, 2005 05:37 PM
NO!!! I didn't think you were being mean spirited at all. Just a little confused, and full of laughter, today after last night's events. I thought I was doing myself a favor by taking care of me and extracting myself from a potentially hurtful situation last evening. Apparently damned if I do and damned if I don't.IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted December 10, 2005 05:47 PM
 “Apparently damned if I do and damned if I don't.” lets hope not, I’m sure some Scorps here will shed some light.
What swerve said is very interesting and true. Indifference can tear down a big ego.
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LuLu
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posted December 10, 2005 06:16 PM
Thank you Water Nymph. My "friendship" with the Scorp is such a difficult one. We share so many facets of our lives and our feelings which each other that I actually had a friend ask me what he could possibly have left for his girlfriend. It seems that she is a matter of convenience, being in the same city as him. But that was his choice and not one he included me in at all. I just feel like friendships, relationships...etc. shouldn't be this hard. I want simple dammit!!! I want someone that I have this emotional and physical connection with who is actually here. Not someone who can't handle an hour's distance so he decides to date other people and keeps it from me.IP: Logged |
Swerve
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posted December 10, 2005 06:26 PM
Don't we all Lulu darling.Don't we all..... You have to poke people in the eye with experience of pain it seems before they start using their conscience as a working faculty of their choices in romantic decisions. If you are enlightened, just embrace this and wish them the best in their decisions. The rest is up to them. No-one else is responsible for your heart's fulfilment. Just wait and be true to yourself. The universe doesn't leave unfulfilled hearts in the shadows forever, even if it feels like it. Swerve IP: Logged |
LuLu
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posted December 10, 2005 06:43 PM
Thank you Swerve. I just want to scream "What do you want from me????" We fight and argue about this situation and then forgive each other, only to end up closer emotionally and sharing more than we ever did before. The Scorp is so used to being indifferent when it suits him and "freezing" people out of his life, but he literally fights, crawls and begs to keep me in his life no matter what. And the intensity with which he does it rocks me to my core everytime. I just don't understand the intensity if he isn't willing to take a chance on us.IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted December 10, 2005 10:20 PM
I remember once. I was at a party. my ex scorpio found out. I don't know how the hell he even knew the address. He appeared there. Everyone went outside and he started a big fight with all my male friends. I had to shut him up. One guy against all of them. He didn't care. I had to leave with him to calm him down before he got his a$$ kicked.
It seems to me like the girl he is with is an idiot.
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lioneye68
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posted December 10, 2005 10:25 PM
Swerve, I think you're very insightful. I couldn't agree more with your assessment of the situation. Bang on. You didn't just fall off the turnip truck last night, did you. IP: Logged |
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posted December 10, 2005 11:45 PM
hey lulu....i think its quite an achievement to get a scorp mad..........n im really proud of u fr doin that....i also think that moon duchess is right.........how disgusting.....he just does not seem to think of anyone but himself....swerve
i agree wid lioneye completely...........i think ur analysis was bang on.......becoz ive seen it happen wid me n my ex who is scorp IP: Logged |
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posted December 10, 2005 11:46 PM
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LuLu
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posted December 11, 2005 08:59 AM
I'm sure he did have a script, but he should know by now that I follow my own script. He is always saying he doesn't know what to do with me sometimes. I just respond with I wouldn't want someone who always knows what to do with me. I think he thought he had it all in the bag this past week because he kept calling all hours of the night and day because he was having trouble sleeping. Asking me what to do...telling me how stressed he is...asking me for help...wanting suggestions on medications he could take for stress and not sleeping. I kept thinking "don't you have a girlfriend?", but I didn't say it. How can you date someone if you share everything about you life with someone else? No wonder he is having trouble sleeping.IP: Logged |
steelrose
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posted December 11, 2005 10:30 AM
 What you described is such a Scorpio pattern...WOW, Swerve, I couldn’t have explained it better…  IT’S SO TRUE!!! Well, he deserves all he got. He wanted to rub her in your face. My first Scorpio used to do that with me. And yes, plain indiference worked wonders.
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MoonDuchess88
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posted December 11, 2005 10:44 AM
amen Swerve and Steelrose! He deserves everything he gets....I think he honestly did want to rub her in your face. Sorry  IP: Logged |
LuLu
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posted December 11, 2005 11:28 AM
No offense taken MoonDuchess. It makes me smile to think I screwed up his plan. From what everyone has been calling to tell me, they barely spoke all night. Hee hee. If they don't even touch or speak to each other at a romantic xmas party with free alcohol after only a couple months of dating and are already having short separations because he pulls away from her...it ain't going to last anyway. They should still be in that can't keep your hands off each other faze. Lord knows he and I can't be in the same room with each other without touching. Add alcohol to the mix and its on. I laid the line down though when I found out about her. No touching for the Scorp. Sorry about his luck, he screwed up. And me oh my...I had a wonderful date on Friday. I could do a little dance IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted December 11, 2005 11:48 AM
I used to ask men what they wanted from me, but then they would lie and tell me they wanted what I want. Now I ask what do you want from yourself? What is your perfect world?Then I know why it's not working-it's not you Lulu, he wants a certain kind of woman but he won't give you a clue on what she is like. his romantic fantasies spill out everywhere, with no control. Sort of childlike, always wanting to be noticed for being out of control. And it's fascinating but there is always another person to send your romantic thoughts to. Glad you had a nice date:> Natasha
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nannyfish
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posted December 11, 2005 11:57 AM
I am laughing...ha ha. The Scorp brought another girl and then got upset when his ex didn't show???!? That is too funny for words. )What gets me is that a true Scorp is definitely not the type to actually let a person know when the revenge thing is. This was too obvious...I think this Scorp must have been ill or something. A true Scorp thing to do would be to show up alone, flirt with ex and THEN leave with someone else...poor Scorp in need of much training... j/k :P
SCORP SUN here
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LuLu
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posted December 11, 2005 12:32 PM
Thank you Natasha for the encouraging words. And I did have a wonderful date Nannyfish...you crack me up!!! He and I have always been able to see right through each other. Very unnerving at times, but served me well in this instance. I took myself out of the equation before it even happened. I had an inkling beforehand that he was going to be upset, but it was just good old girlie fantasy to envision himself making a fool out of himself. I jumped around all over the dance floor at the bar after he called. My fantasy had become reality and he did it to himself. I couldn't have asked for a more perfect ending to the night!!!! IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
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posted December 11, 2005 02:30 PM
LuLu, I think you were smart to take yourself out of the equation and have your own plans, take care of/protect yourself...it was obvious he was hoping to build up his own ego at your expense and you didn't give him that chance.IP: Logged |
funkyaquarianpixie
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posted December 11, 2005 02:40 PM
nice one...he just mad cos you preempted him.. and hes a silly little boy playing games.. best rid of him luv lol! happy yer date went well. IP: Logged |
LuLu
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posted December 11, 2005 02:55 PM
My friend called to tell me that my name has been flying back and forth in e-mails that the sales reps. have been sending out while they work this weekend. Where was Megan? Did anyone see Megan? She said she finally e-mailed them all back and said she had talked to me, but not to worry. She told them I had a date Friday night and that it sounded like I had just as much fun as they all did (wink wink). The Scorp is part of the e-mail group. I can hear him growling from here IP: Logged |
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