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Topic: stabbed in the back by a pisces
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felineArtist
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posted December 23, 2005 09:16 AM
 
well a friend (a wonderful pisces) confirmed for me what i felt some time ago but didnt have proof of....
another pisces "friend" slept with my virgo bf.
i am unsure of wheter to confront her and then him...
or just dont say anything at all.....IP: Logged |
sxycrzykewl221
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posted December 23, 2005 09:43 AM
i guess you mean ex-friend. the ultimate betrayal. I am sorry, I know that really hurts. I hope he had erectile dysfunction. WHat a kick in the gut. I am sorry they hurt you like that.IP: Logged |
sxycrzykewl221
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posted December 23, 2005 09:54 AM
and, it lets you know to trust your gut always. sometimes you just KNOW these things in your heart, as you said, you suspected. trust your instincts always in regards to other people. bless you this holiday.IP: Logged |
felineArtist
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posted December 23, 2005 11:16 AM
any suggestions on how to approach him and or her?or should i just not say anything at all...
u know pisces can be so "i dont care".... IP: Logged |
sxycrzykewl221
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posted December 23, 2005 11:43 AM
i think with the bf it depends on how serious you are with him. If you plan on a long term relationship, it probably does need to be addressed or you will always feel like it is between you, and have a really hard time trusting him and the things that he says. The ongoing relationship is the one that will need healed. I think karma will pay back your friend in spades, so she will know firsthand when it happens, but maybe have a talk with her and let her know, our friendship is over because you betrayed me and with all the millions of men in the world, why? however you deal with her, you can be sure, that what you give comes back to you. But to be with him, you have to figure out how to get through it,, forgive him and go on, if you love him or it will always be in your mind.IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted December 23, 2005 11:54 AM
TAKE THEM BOTH OUT OF YOUR LIFE. THEY ARE BOTH GARBAGE.
LET THEM GIVE EACHOTHER DISEASES. YOU DON'T NEED ANY OF THEM.
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Blind my eyes I cannot see
Lost my soul but found my heart
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peace
Knowflake Posts: 35
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posted December 23, 2005 12:09 PM
OUCH!IP: Logged |
Hexxie
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posted December 23, 2005 12:11 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about you betrayal! Are you still with this Virgo guy? If so, then do you really want to remain with him? I think it might be a little different if he slept with some random person he (and you) didn't know, but to do it with your friend now that's disturbing. It's a double whammy. If it were me I would tell the boyfried to get lost 1st because you really don't need that in your life (or DO you? I mean lessons can be a smack in the face sometimes...) We need more info though, what do you really wanna do with him? Stay or go? Or did you already break things off? If you stayed in this relationship, how would he gain your trust back? As for the friend. Once again, if it were me, I would let that person know that you know what happened. Tell her that her behavior was unacceptable (you'd think people would know this!) and tell her that it really hurt! I would just leave it at that. Let her stew in it. If she dosen't seem to care then, don't worry, karma can be a B*tch ! Definitely say something to both of them! Get these people out of your life! Refuse to go 'down' to people's low vibrations, make them come 'up' to meet yours! If they don't want to come 'up', or they're not ready, then you don't need em in your life! ------------------
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felineArtist
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posted December 23, 2005 12:46 PM
yes id like to stay with him. he is a bit of a manwhore which i acceptecd. but not my friends dude.i really would like to punch her is her f***in face but im a grown up now. and it wouldn't be productive. she talks to me like she is so innocent and hasnt done anything. i really think that if i say anthing she will 1. not even care and 2. will definitely tell him IP: Logged |
peace
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posted December 23, 2005 12:48 PM
Punch him first than her.IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted December 23, 2005 12:49 PM
THE THINGS THAT WOMEN DO ALOT WHEN IT COMES TO CHEATING IS FORGIVE THE MAN. AND BLAME THE OTHER WOMAN.IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO.
I DON'T TAKE CRAP LIKE THAT FROM ANYONE.
DEFINITELY NOT A TWIN SOUL.
I LEARNED HOW TO LOVE MYSELF FIRST.
EWWW WHO KNOWS HOW MANY OTHERS HE'S BEEN WITH.
PLEASE FIND A MAN WHO IS GOOD FOR YOU. THEY ARE BOTH WH*RES.
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Blind my eyes I cannot see
Lost my soul but found my heart
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Lousianagrl
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posted December 23, 2005 12:53 PM
Yeah I've been stabbed in the back by a pisces myself. She would act like she was my best friend and then go to someone else and act like she didn't even know me. I guess it was the 'cool' thing to do  I would confront the b*tch. And the virgo. Like Mystic Gemini said, just take them out of your life IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted December 23, 2005 01:44 PM
well now you know what that Pisces is made of
to discuss it is moot
just remember
what goes around, comes around 
and find someone more worthy of you!IP: Logged |
amisha121877
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posted December 23, 2005 02:54 PM
you asked if anyone had a suggestion as to how to approach them? ummm, let's see, you could say to each with a smile, of course, genuine please because in some way, what you say holds a beautiful truth (it would be nice if both were there at the same time so you could say it once):thanks for sleeping with my boyfriend thanks for sleeping with my friend
2006 is beginning to look great. don't you think? Out with the old, in with the new.
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SweetCappie
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posted December 23, 2005 03:23 PM
ahhh sooo sorry to hear about your boyfriend!I know you accepted the fact that he's a "manwhore", BUT do you really want to be with someone who is capable of sleeping with your friend?!!! You deserve better treatment than this and your relationship deserves respect and committment, not infidelity and drama. They obviously put their needs before you and it sounds like you're putting your man first and yourself last. You can't blame her without blaming him too --it takes 2 to tango. Take some time to think about the consequences of staying with someone who did this to you. I think you should tell them both to get lost or like Amisha said "out with the old, in with the new". Good Luck. Happy Holidays! IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted December 23, 2005 03:25 PM
Kill them both lol...symbolically speaking of course.And it's ok if he's a man-w#ore ? Are you a woman-w#ore ? I doubt it. Otherwise you wouldn't have cared enough to post this. You were not really betrayed by the Pisces, you were actually betrayed by the Virgo. He was the one who cheated on you. The picses was just going with the flow. You need to decide if you are going to accept these standards for yourself. If so, right on - and quit bi!ching. If not, find a new group of friends and leave it all faaaaaarrrrr behind. Sorry for your heartache
Often, women will blame the other women in sexual betrayals, and that is not fair. He was the one who committed to you, and he was likely the one who intiated sex with the other. To blame her completely is daft.
She's not very smart though, and neithor is he. Neithor are you for that matter, because you seem to think it's ok for him to f=ck around, but just not with your friends. This is not a true relationship, so why do you care? IP: Logged |
bullhead
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posted December 23, 2005 04:44 PM
sorry to hear dat......but lose them both, for sure.
speaking of pisces....many yrs ago, i was living with one of my ex, my oldtime school gf, wanted to visit all the way from HK, so i prepared a room and treated her like a queen, u know how she repay me? when i was taking a shower, she sat rite next to my ex on a 2 seated couch, there were a big sofa but she figured it would be more "cosy" for her to sit with him, in a rubbin elbow distance, lol.... when i was in the shower, nice plan huh, they were real close....luckily, my ex didnt go for it. sometimes, i dont understand y women do these to each other, its so .....hurful for anyone, u know how weak men are, i mean if a gurl ininate, then i would say 70% is her fault, then the guy still got to blame but not as bad as he seduce the gurl. it just make me sick even thinking of any of these happen to anyone, but dats life sometimes. we just have to be strong, and dont let us feel miserable just becuz someone else have no morals.
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lioneye68
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posted December 23, 2005 04:53 PM
bullhead of course he didn't go for it. You were only in the shower, not in Australia or something. And I like to think not all men are weak. Just the poorly principled ones are. IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted December 23, 2005 05:28 PM
As a woman who has been cheated on multiple times, I know if you turn your back on his behaviour in your head it's not so easy to give him up. So work on why you want him, rather than what you are going to do first.Once you figure that out, then take care of yourself by not sleeping with him for the time being. make up a lie, anything. If you continue without really figuring out whether you want him long term, it will make you feel like less of a woman later. Nothing this woman has done could hurt you as much as what he can do to you later if he knows or even suspects you still love him. He already knows you know, because it's inevitable you would find out. He's waiting for your reaction, because he likes the attention. Work on why you love him, why you need him, why you dream about him, and get as much support and love as you can. Be a fighter Natasha
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Mystic Gemini
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posted December 23, 2005 05:42 PM
quote:
You were not really betrayed by the Pisces, you were actually betrayed by the Virgo. He was the one who cheated on you.The picses was just going with the flow.
Going with the flow as in opening her legs? Ummm. I still think she is a wh*re and is to take the blame also.
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lioneye68
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posted December 23, 2005 06:05 PM
Agreed.
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neptune's mermaid
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posted December 23, 2005 06:19 PM
That stinks  is she the Pisces/Gemini/Scorpio girl you were talking about?They’re both w*ores!! You need to get rid of both of ‘em. Are they really worth all that pain? Karma’s one serious b1tch, they’ll get what they deserve…one way or the other. Don’t worry about them  I really feel you should back away…both are beneath you. Neither deserve you. Like amisha said, out with the old  ------------------
aka WaterNymph, yeah, went back to my old screen name. IP: Logged |
Azalaksh
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posted December 23, 2005 07:08 PM
felineArtist ~Your afflicted Virgo may have some issues to work out in his own life before he is ready for a monogamous relationship. Are you supposed to be having a monogamous relationship, ie is that how both of you see your attachment?? I agree with MG, sweetcappie & lioneye.....
Have a few questions: yes id like to stay with him.
Why? What wonderful character traits does he possess that could possibly outweigh infidelity?? Or do you want him just to 'have a boyfriend'??
he is a bit of a manwhore which i acceptecd.
Why would you accept this? Why would you ask so little from a significant other? ie, it's OK with you if your man screws around and cuts your heart to pieces, because that's acceptable from men? Yeuchhh.
but not my friends dude.
This is quite a double standard -- that it's OK for men to be unfaithful, but it's not OK for women to be unfaithful..... Why do you ask so little for yourself in a partner?? You have a right to better behavior than that from someone you love who *supposably* loves you..... Just my 2 cents worth.....
'Zala PS: Amisha had a GREAT solution for what to tell them -- short and SWEET!!!!!  IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
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posted December 23, 2005 10:09 PM
I support 'Zala's logic and agree with Natasha - think about what this man brings into your life, and the big question: Does he/this relationship serve you? Right now, you're consumed with emotion. Your emotions won't stay as they are now and how you feel about this man/relationship/situation WILL change.Take a break to give yourself a chance to get a little distance and gain a calmer perspective to think about YOU and what YOU want(as well as what you don't)...and do not sleep with him - doing so will only keep the confusing emotions from your seeing this situation clearly. Listen to the voice inside you - it is telling you what you need to know/hear. Laura IP: Logged |
bullhead
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posted December 23, 2005 10:54 PM
hi lioneye
its funny how u jump to assumption bout my ex when u know nothing bout him...lol
anyhooo, Happy x.mas  IP: Logged | |
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