How to get a crab to crawl out of his shell?

Lindaland

Astrology

profile | register | preferences | faq | search

UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone!

next newest topic | next oldest topic

Author	Topic: How to get a crab to crawl out of his shell?
WaterNymph unregistered	posted January 14, 2006 04:40 PM Me thinks my Mars Squaring his Sun isn’t helping Any advice on what to do, and what not to do? I think he sees me as just a friend My outrageous flirting is not working!!! It just left him scared lmao seriously every time I think about that I cry laughing! He is just sooooo cute. I can honestly say, no other guy has ever made me feel this way. And it’s not a strong passionate feeling that’ll die out in a while, but a slowly growing feeling that never fluctuates…and I KNOW it never will. So any advice? Before I drive to his house doing 60 and shake him violently to get it through his thick head ahem I mean his lovely thick head One good thing is his Sun closely conj my NN, which is cute. IP: Logged
pidaua Knowflake Posts: 67 From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo Registered: Apr 2009	posted January 14, 2006 05:19 PM Get a really big stick.. poke him hard.. then run like heck..LOL... Kidding.. I wish I could help, but this Sag has a hard time drawing out Cancer's from their shells. IP: Logged
double trouble gemini unregistered	posted January 14, 2006 05:23 PM hahahahaha...pidaua that was really funny.. thats what i wanted to do too...... i just wished this could be the solution.. but that shell is really tough and its water proof, bullet proof,fire proof, fool poof what more proof do u need!!!!!! IP: Logged
Swerve unregistered	posted January 14, 2006 05:34 PM Ah, but is it time-proof? I have decided with my Cancer that she can sort herself out. If she decides to get in touch good for her. If not, sod it I'm moving on. I'm a Pisces and I haven't swum away until now, looking back before I dart off on a totally new adventure with a sense that at some point my lady Crab will pop her head out and call to me. Very frustrating feeling that. I think we should all gang up on them and ***** slap some sense into their shells!!!! Swerve IP: Logged
LibraSparkle unregistered	posted January 14, 2006 07:45 PM Pid! You're funny! My dad is a Cancer Sun (with Mercury, Venus, and Uranus there too), and I'll tell ya... there are times I'd like to poke him hard with a long stick to get him to come out!!! The run like heck thing is right too. He doesn't get angry often or easily... but when he does, LOOK OUT! Swerve, Nice to see you around. Love the ***** slap idea! WN, Perhaps you are coming on too strong for this sensitive fella? Maybe subtle flirting would be more prosperous? Some eye firlting... you know? I think you may need to beat around the bush a little with this guy. Be careful not to scare him off. IP: Logged
pidaua Knowflake Posts: 67 From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo Registered: Apr 2009	posted January 14, 2006 11:05 PM LOL...well.. I guess that warped sense of humor comes from having a Cancer mom with a Cancer moon .. My dad is a Cappy with a Cancer moon and Mars. I have a 4th house Sun..with a T-square leaving my house ruled by Cancer empty. I seem to attract / repel cancers.. Luckily I have become more sensitive having a Cancer mommy LOL.... I used to tease my Leo (who would routinely go into his cave) with the promise of Scooby Snacks.. that after I had to poke him a few times with a sharp stick and then hide behind a barricade as he emerged LOL... It was easier with the Taurus.. Food... good FOOD would bring him out IP: Logged
LibraSparkle unregistered	posted January 14, 2006 11:31 PM LOL... True! So true! Food and Sex... all you need to keep any Taurus happy. IP: Logged
CancerMoon unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 12:40 AM I hide and you can't make me move! My friend who has a cancer Asc. Does the same thing... Although I don't think slapping is wise.. at least for me I will slap back! Stubborn people don't listen until their ready!! IP: Logged
taurean_scorpion unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 01:10 AM yeah...u shouldn't do the outrageous flirting...it makes us crabs feel uncomfortable and ur right,...scared. have you tried talking about your homelife or childhood? i think that could work...tell him how you felt those days...anything that requires feeling and emotions could work...my 1st-3rd houses are ruled by cancer. IP: Logged
silvermoon unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 01:10 AM Good luck with the stick - it ain't gonna work silvermoon IP: Logged
Iqhunk unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 02:43 AM Since I am a Cancer Male, I can assure you that outrageous flirting is a relationship killer. We need to know clearly that our girl is gonna be eclusively ours, even mentally and MAXIMUM emotionally. We need to feel emotionally needed and we like to smother a girl with suffocating love unless too many fire/air sign planets or afflictions ruin this. Sobbing or crying tenderly or feeling depressed at some hurt ["someone was rude to me.. boo hoo sniff sniff"] when he is around will dramatically cause the shell to disappear and the need to be chivalrous emotion will kindle your crab to put his clingy arms around you to comfort you. The keyphrase to drag a crab out is "I NEED YOU TO COMFORT ME and SMOTHER ME WITH YOUR LOVE or AFFECTION or EMOTIONAL EMPATHY". On an astrological note, the Sun conjunct NN indicates something of karmic fulfillment. Did you check for the Pluto/Venus aspects and Solar/Lunar/Asc double whammies? IP: Logged
silvermoon unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 03:21 AM What lqhunk said sounds right on to me... silvermoon IP: Logged
cancerrg unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 07:38 AM this one brings the hearty smile ! same problem ! same idiot cancers ( but ofcourse including me ) the only solution is that 'stick idea'! isn't it swerve ,huh...... IP: Logged
cancerrg unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 08:01 AM WM ,i am sure he can't resist you ! no true cancer can , i bet ! your happy go lucky nature does make us feel free . and thats your trump card ! direct eye contact is better than outrageous flirting! and smile bcos that will help him open up ! i think iq's advices are worth thinking of! take care ! IP: Logged
Bluemoon unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 08:35 AM It depends how much he trusts you and how the moon is effecting him. Quite gentle caring, that will make me peek out. IP: Logged
Swerve unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 09:08 AM Cancerg my friend I have run out of answers on this one. I think patience is needed really is all. The ability to detach and put it behind you is also useful. The one thing I cannot understand is how these certain Cancers seem to cherish a love that is total and personal and everlasting, yet expect to be able to contribute nothing at times and make no effort to create this if they are "not in the mood". From what others have said they stew over the feelings and pretend they feel nothing but then years later when it is too late they profess that they did care after all. Very strange behaviour. I am personally going to be very careful around Cancers in the future and prefer not to get involved with one again. A Piscean heart isn't sturdy enough for this kind of emotional torture. Even if I feel maybe we have the best shot of fulfilling their deepest desires. Seems such a stupid stupid waste. Swerve IP: Logged
sthenri unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 10:09 AM I don't know about that, I told my ex Cancer b/f straight out that I needed him NOW as in I needed his love and support this week when he called and that's what I had retreated. Instead he became a bit offended that I was saying he had not been there before, when I was saying right now. Cancers always have other commitments so they are not exactly spontaneous, it seems you have to make it a really BIG deal for that one to care, because he complained he never knew when it was a REAL problem or not. Cancers, and Caps are good at watching over me, but not at being WITH me. I couldn't be more needy, after all I am a Taurus/Cancer Moon, and still i would have to go to him. True support is when you need it, and maybe Cancers get used to insincere feelings, and expressions. Natasha IP: Logged
WaterNymph unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 03:39 PM Omg you guys are too funny! I laughed so hard poke him or b1tchslap him, hmmm I love both…how about I do that then run like hell? But I’ll only do it if I know it will never work out, otherwise I best be good. d t gemini bullet proof!!! Is that a dare? I’ll wait till I get really frustrated! Swerve - “Ah, but is it time-proof?” Oh…he’s had me doing this for almost 7 months. I don’t like waiting games! LS, CM, t_s, iq, crg, BM & sthenri thanks so much you guys for taking the time to answer…tomorrow evening I’m hunting him down, in a non scary type of way - and of course thanks to the others for making this lovesick fish smile. silvermoon - “Good luck with the stick - it ain't gonna work” awww can’t I even try? Swerve it is a stupid waste, that’s why I want to hit him. But Linda did say once they think their interest is leaving, they “go for the kill” so to speak - unfortunately my Cancer is immune to that sigh IP: Logged
sthenri unregistered	posted January 15, 2006 04:09 PM Double Cancer trouble, I called another Cancer I dated last year for a while and wished him Happy New Year. He seemed happy to hear from me, as I know he was dating someone, I asked if he was busy and mentioned a movie today. He said he was never "busy" said it in a nasty way and said i dropped off the planet and he didn't know where I was. I explained about work, then silence. So I said, I would like to see a movie with him if that's what he wanted, and mentioned a few. He said I don't like those, and then I said keep in touch. I am getting the feeling he hates me. Then as I am hanging up he says HAVE FUN! as if he is angry that I didn't push harder! Now I know he'll never call me unless I make it up to him, whatever it was I did! Do these guys ever warm up??? I always ask him what he wants to do and it's usually watch TV and eat. Taurus Moon. Just this once couldn't we go to a movie I pick? Taurus moons also do not care about compromise. So what the hey does this go want friends or not? He always complains he doesn't have enough friends. So contrary. Cancers always have to drive the train. Natasha IP: Logged
nove731 Knowflake Posts: 43 From: Strasbourg, France Registered: Jun 2009	posted January 15, 2006 09:29 PM I've never had issues like that with a Cancer...Water Suns seem to flock to me. IP: Logged
Swerve unregistered	posted January 16, 2006 12:15 AM I am grateful for my experiences with Cancers. I do not hate them and have come to understand them a little better, But, as I said, I will leave them to their own path now. They are not for me in romantic relationships. I will assist them as I meet them in their troubles but now know they haven't the real depth and honesty I require to fulfill my desires of love. I guess they are just too far away on the karmic wheel and must focus on what they need to learn for themselves rather than building a union of souls. I think they have a hint of the dream that Scorpios and Pisces have in a so much more solidified and understood perspective of. Maybe that is why they want it but are not sure of it, like a mirage in the desert, they cannot trust their own instincts. Well, I can trust mine, and I will be inching towards that life-enriching body of water among the lonely sands of life. Hopefully, with someone else who is willing to drink this time. Swerve IP: Logged
Azalaksh Knowflake Posts: 982 From: New Brighton, MN, USA Registered: Apr 2009	posted January 16, 2006 12:33 AM Swerve, you write so beautifully -- your feelings have really touched me..... I've followed your adventures with Ms Cancer, and I could see how she could sour you on all Cancer ladies, but I hope you can resist lumping the behavior of all Cancers into the same category as she..... It would be a shame to deny a more evolved Cancer (maybe with some Scorpio or Pisces placements?) the privilege of your company. 'Zala (Pisces Mooner) IP: Logged
CancerianMoon unregistered	posted January 16, 2006 12:34 AM Double post...triggger happy fingers IP: Logged
CancerianMoon unregistered	posted January 16, 2006 12:35 AM Persistance...and definately try the "eyes thing"...make him so home baked goodies...tell him how much he makes you smile...even when ur not with him ohh and watch a funny movie together.. IP: Logged
Swerve unregistered	posted January 16, 2006 12:50 AM There are Cancers here who made sure I will never think that way. Lovely people. I am also considering whether I expect too much as well. But on reflection I am more resentful of the fact I haven't found someone who sees things the way I do and am probably taking a slight hope and trying to expand it into a real possibility, which could in fact be motivated by some form of selfishness. I am meditating on these perspectives daily to be clear. Swerve IP: Logged

All times are Eastern Standard Time	next newest topic \| next oldest topic
Administrative Options: Close Topic \| Archive/Move \| Delete Topic
	Hop to:

Contact Us | Linda-Goodman.com