posted January 17, 2006 01:07 PM              

You will know an Aquarian wants your company when they take the initiative to make an emotional/mental connection with you. Basically, talk with them about their emotions as if they were bills to be paid.

Oh, last thing. Aquarians don't like petty emotional displays because they're childish. The emotion has to have a justifiable reason. Making an Aquarian respect you through his/her emotions requires action on your part. This is why Aquarians will ignore you if you make small talk and make false emotional displays like "awwwww, ur dog is so cute, look, I bought him a sweater.", but quite the opposite happens if you cancel your night out with your friends to help him/her out sort an important issue.

posted January 17, 2006 01:15 PM            

I will go on the experience that I have had with Aqua men. They do have emotions and they run or can run quite deep actually. True like Oddball said they surpress them until they are all gone in alot of cases.

Also they are very uncomfortable with xpressing pyhiscal xpressions of love and will run from that. With some Aqua men you can be the best and they will run from you if the feelings are too intense for them to control. I have had this happen to me twice now by Aqua men.

posted January 17, 2006 01:23 PM              

*** tend to run away and hide when you feel you are getting emotionally close to someone? Do "feelings" of love or whatever terrify you to the point to where you need to get away for awhile? ****

well .. i'm no aquarian ... but i do have Venus square to Uranus in my chart .. and what you said above .. well you hit the nail on the head .. so to speak ..

here's a link to my chart .. if you want to look for indicators of the above 'reactions' ...
http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/hd.chrt.jpg

posted January 17, 2006 01:23 PM              

As far the emotions thing is concerned, my Aqua had Cap in his chart as well. I would not say he did not have emotions. We all have feelings! I would say he was clearly not comfortable with his emotions, nor the messier ones (good and bad) of other human beings. He could get extremely angry, sort of verbally spewing. He would cry too (ie., the first time I broke up with him). I would say though that he simply could not stay happy for more than a few hours or a day at a time or really share a deep free frivolous happiness-- intimately one on one with a another human being.

posted January 17, 2006 01:44 PM              

Check this out. After we broke up (seriously) he moved to NYC where he dated a woman (a woman studying theology which is sort of ironic) who absolutely treated him like dirt. She spoke to him harshly, cheated on him, the whole nine yards and he ate it up; I mean literally lapped it up. It broke my heart. He broke my heart. For most of my life after that I thought the lesson was do not share your feelings openly and warmly. Wrong!!

posted January 17, 2006 01:57 PM              

I think that's fine as long as you are being TRUE to yourself and your nature.

Is he going to run away everytime you make a lovely and true statement about his feelings smoldering but being held inside. Pisces are often loving sensitive human beings. One reason why I strive to have even a meaningful friendship with my widowed father and Doc (both Pisces) is because they have a way of inspiring me to take my zero to 500 fire to an amazing gentle notch. The difference with an Aqua is exactly this thing right now that you are encountering. If you had made those comments to me, the Gemini in me would itch a bit to back up--to think about and analyze your comment but the fire in me would be very attracted to that. And forward we would go.

posted January 17, 2006 05:34 PM              

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You will know an Aquarian wants your company when they take the initiative to make an emotional/mental connection with you.

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I love what you said here. Since they are not too overt with their wanting to connect, what would you say are examples of a sincere attempt? I mean, where the guy is really in love, and he's trying to take the initiative..

Thanks.

hippichick -

I agree with LILYGIRL, and I'll add, that the thing you need to watch out for most is NOT whether or not you have him hooked, but whether or not you know what your true emotional needs are. Know what I mean?

posted January 17, 2006 05:55 PM              

isnt their
symbol
the water
bearer?

highly emotional
people but
contained
within their
water carrier

they probably
know more
about
emotion
than all of
the other
signs
put together

they just
choose
not to display
their wares

posted January 17, 2006 06:01 PM              

Aqua is also ruled by Saturn and it helps to remember that. Saturn is about doing what other people do, outside standards, so a mean girl would have very exacting standards not based on love, based on career and her goals.

When I have been career based and ignore an Aqua for anything other than talk and career, I am respected. I suppose they feel lonely being surrounded by all those warm bodies they don't understand and have to be nice too! I know one Aqua who says he is always lonely no matter what-his goals are there but they change so he can't share them.

It must be hard to be Saturn ruled-goals, stability-and ruled by Air at the same time. Nothing is stable-Every Aqua I know has a really stable friend to guide him or her. Sometimes a Taurus-but I am always suprised at how goal-less all air signs can be, instead preferring to manage others.

I am getting better at putting myself out there to be managed, and save my warm feelings for an individual who is already close to me, clinging. Usually a pisces, or libra type.

I just can't get it together with a Capricorn, so I assume Aquas are the same, great friends, leaders, and confidants, but more or less like a boss, not a co-worker.

posted January 17, 2006 06:44 PM              

OK ... gotcha - we know there are some Pisces' girls out there who are struggling to hold on to their identity because they merge so easily with others, and consider others so much. Good to know you're doing it out of love and friendship for the Aqua. I've always thought Pisces & Aqua energies go very well together! It's a blessing.

posted January 17, 2006 07:09 PM              

Just for the record, I am certainly not saying you are not being true to your nature! Good for you are if you are and remain so. I think what I am saying is this, His current silence may well be related to your "sensitive" comment about his hidden smoldering feelings which you have keenly sniffed out. That may or may not become a commonmplace incident for him---you keenly observing and he having to acknowledge the veracity of your conclusions and then internally panic (suddenly become unavailable when you send off "light" messages inquiring about his well being). It will probably not be something he admits to doing.

I would just be aware of it and wait and see. Meantime go for, enjoy yourself and his company. It may be a wonderful match.

Natasha you raise some interesting and provocative comments (as usual). Thanks.

"For that reason I am sure niceness is the last thing Aquas want, because they are not nice, and accomodating, it makes them feel put upon to act a certain way."

posted January 17, 2006 07:46 PM            

One thing about him, though, and I think it's because his Mercury and Venus are in Pisces, so he really has a softer side that he lets show when it was just the two of us. Even during emotional conversations he was really able to connect (My Mercury is in Scorpio so we could REALLY connect during our talks), and knows how to connect well. This I give him a lot of credit for, he is not awkward or unfamiliar in this way at all.

But, he can detach and become very cold, but feel it is his way of appearing as though he is not emotionally connected or cares at all - this would usually happen when he was faced with a situation I knew how deeply he really felt but showed very much the opposite in his attitude and body language. One thing I did notice, though, is he was very very vigilant, watching intently like a hawk if it was me, but never let on that he was jealous. I knew though by things he would say.
I know him differently and know how deeply he is able to connect, so I know this detachment at one level is a form of protection, their face they show to the world. Most Aquarians, especially men, come across as ultra-cool in an upbeat, hip kind of way that isn't at all contrived. I like this about Aquarians. My Aqua guy has also criticised people for being 'out of control' or not having respect for themselve when they show emotion. So I know that much is true about an Aquarians' need to appear in control and calm on the surface, regardless of what is boiling underneath.

Maybe the reason Aquas throw people off is because they are able to stay detached when most people would show their emotions, and as Oddball pointed out, will sort things out by themselves in private.

I understand this because I also have an Aquarius moon (Sag sun) and don't like to cry or show emotions around people I don't know well or where it isn't appropriate (at work)...people assume I am detached because I come across as logical and more cerebral.