posted February 13, 2006 02:32 AM              

You have a kite focused on Sagittarius (expansion) modifying North node (future goals) focused in the 11th house (friends, also rebellion). This indicates that, eventually, you will have a need for freedom and "space" in any relationship you get into: close but not TOO close. It also suggests it might be easier to begin relationships as "friends" and then see where they go. If they don't work out...you still have plenty of OTHER friends to hang around with!

In addition, you have transiting (planets in the sky) Saturn (duty, also restriction) conjunct (energy is combined with) Descendant (others) so right now might be VERY stressful in situations that involve other people. This stress will wear off in intensity, as this transit passes until this transit is complete, around the middle of this year.

Friendlily,

Tim

posted February 13, 2006 11:17 AM              

You have Uranus (friends, also impulse) square (energy needs to be combined with) Aquarius (friends, also impulse) modifying Venus (relationships) conjunct Ascendant (self). This indicates both that you would be a GREAT friend in a relationship...but also indicates that you tend to impulsively rush into relationships. Also, Venus is focused in the 12th house (Venus in house of its exaltation, very strong energy), indicating you have a "relationship" with everyone and everything: you interconnect on a very deep, personal level to all things...but you STILL want to be "friends" to those around you. This creates a conflict: how to merge with all and still retain your individuality?

My suggestion was that you stay friends with those around you...and allow yourself to develop that deep connection with everything. As I mentioned, since this is a "Saturn time" in relationships, relationships may be particularly stressful right now, and you may be evaluating relationships from a point of stress rather than from a point of understanding. If he "freaked out" when you mentioned love...then obviously he was not ready for love! So...his loss and your gain of an understanding of the type of person who he is.

Finally, I have always had some issues with the whole "soulmate" idea. I look at life from the Buddhist perspective: we are here because we are imperfect and have not yet perfected ourselves. There are people in our past who we have allowed to hold us back in life and it is our continued pursuit of those people who continue to hold us back in this life. Instead of looking for the people who have kept us stuck in our life progress (i.e., "soulmates") we need to reach out to those who we do NOT know yet (i.e., non-"soulmates") so we can create a new spiritual connection which will advance ourselves to the next level of consciousness.

Spiritually relating on a non-soulmate level,

Tim

posted February 13, 2006 12:35 PM              

Not sure on his sexuality being related to his rearing up by single parent. It could have psychological impact, however not sure if it should cause him to be gay. He could have other reasons like; his low confidence of settling down in a family when his past didn’t have both the parents.
Sometimes people have outer shells to protect their own self/life, their own inner thoughts/ideals; which can be perceived differently by other individuals. They may not want to break their shells and let others come in their life (sorrowful/inert). Maybe due to fear of being vulnerable or loosing their own ideals. Unless you get definite signs or true confirmation from him, it might be difficult to judge his sexuality.
Again you mentioned of some old girlfriend and you have no idea of his past or him in depth. That’s where you don’t have the complete whole picture to understand him and his behavior. It could be past love causing him hurt and confusion. Even if he might be attracted to you/have some feelings; his own heart might have not have been healed fully (if at all it was hurt through some past incidents). He might be pulled in and pulled out, by both his heart and mind, in current relationship. If one thinks of such an inner state, yes he is definitely confused & lost. And if his ideals are trying to make him go away from the relationship, he may not even call you. Then better leave him to god’s love and blessings.

I too am currently having attractions to a colleague (however it has not turned out to be serious like your case). I don’t want to have any relation (reasons – my own thoughts along with ethics and stuff); at the same time I can’t deny my attractions to her (pull of heart). There is some feeling of chemistry in me (though nothing is going on/being said), which my logical mind keeps trying to overcome.
Good thing in your current situation is, at least one of you has opened and both know what you are expecting. In my case, it is unsaid expectations. I am surely lost. I can’t say anything for her as we still talk as friends/colleague. So she may or may not be having feelings. And even if she did have something for me, she also would not want have such a relation. Still it might be a fight for both of us (atleast me as not sure of her).

However it doesn’t mean that you have to bear it all and get hurt. If you think he has shown love, caring attitude to you some time earlier; you may want to give him time (this doesn’t mean a favorable result after waiting). Else it really makes sense of whatever you have done, as it could result in greater hurt later on.

You have already shed your tears for love and it surely would bless you. Hope the Valentine’s Day brings lots of love and peace to both of you and you come out of the current situation unscathed.

posted February 13, 2006 02:07 PM              

Liz,
Just to add, sometimes I feel my current difficult situation is just God’s/nature’s medicine to heal my own wounds (Though I want to resist it stubbornly )

posted February 13, 2006 03:46 PM              

I hated the silence more than anything, and the image it produced inside me of someone I genuinely loved was ghastly.

As said on another thread, this Valentines Day seems to have some magic about it.

Go with your heart.

posted February 14, 2006 12:29 PM              

You have done what was destined to be done. Now pray and wait; accepting whatever the outcome is. As you said you are adding up years and need to settle down; so its better that both your heart and mind decide what is required to be done.
How about sending a Valentine’s card/gift? If still you see no movement, give a damn and move on (might be hard for us Pisces). Don’t just let yourself trampled and treated so badly just because you love him.

Not sure how close are you to his family; just in case, get some insight from his mom/friends where he is trying to lead his life to.

posted February 15, 2006 03:41 PM              

Some interpretations
VENUS IN THE ELEVENTH HOUSE

With Venus in the Eleventh House the areas of life where you are most likely to express your social, romantic and artistic qualities are through forming harmonious, warm social friendships - probably related to group activities within a club, society or fraternity. You may meet your marriage partner through such group activities, consequently your interests will be shared.

MERC Retrograde - Mercury retrograde happens three times a year for about three weeks each. When retrograde, messages are more likely misunderstood, so it's best to avoid new contracts or journeys to unfamiliar places; mail is usually delayed or misdirected; but indeed return to see clients and friendships cut off because of a misunderstanding. Revise that forgotten manuscript; return unused merchandise, and be especially careful choosing clothing and shoe sizes. Verify that orders and letters arrive and are understood correctly. Those born with Mercury retrograde may be shy or slow to learn in their early life, but make up for it in later life. Like the child who stuttered in early life becoming an articulate TV newscaster later in life.

Can't get much insight on his behavior, from astro standpoint, as I am not a pro out here. Hope others help out.

posted February 15, 2006 05:15 PM              

**Please anyone if you can suggest something.**
yeah .. let him go .. give it miss ...
( not looked at charts With birth time .. will make scant difference to the following .. .. nor have i read all the replies ..)

for yourself .. untill after feb 2007 .. partnership ideas may well be out the window .. or at least not a priority .. your individual freedom will be a priority (transiting Uranus conjunct natal SUN ) ..
also .. transiting Pluto is opposing your natal Saturn placement .. that will 'move on' after november 2007 ..
(actualy your Sun seems to be at a 'square to his natal Saturn .. .. he has a *Tsquare* in his chart * Saturn opposite Lillith .. both square to his natal Mercury * ) ..

for the guy .. he is in the grips of a Pluto transit (1) which is applying by square aspect to his natal Venus after which he gets (2) transiting Pluto square to his natal SUN .. those two big ones end in 2010 .. ... if you want a smooth ride in the love department from now till 2010 .. probably best to say goodbye to him now ..
transiting Uranus (untill after feb 2007 ) not only is applying to your sun placement .. but also applying to his Merc placement AND squaring his natal Saturn and Lillith ..

**Thought I will neve love again.** .. LizKin !! .. don't Ever give up on that hope ..
transiting Pluto opposing your natal Saturn may tend to give you thoughts like that ... now and again .. it is a transit that will pass .. not an easy one on the emotional level ..

posted February 15, 2006 09:51 PM              

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short explanation : ..
the planets .. as they move arround the zodiac circle, make 'aspects' to the planetary positions set at the time of birth (i.e. the birth chart ) .. .. .. 'aspects' .. are the geometric angles separating the planets around the zodiac .. so transiting aspects are just like the ones found within the chart ( conjunctions, squares, oppositions, trines, sextiles .. etc ) and as the transiting planet moves .. so does the angle change to any given natal planet or placement .. or in other words the transit aspect 'builds up' .. then 'eases off' .. over time ..
transits of mars , mercury, venus are relatively short .. a few days .. extended if the planet in question goes retrograde .. those are sometimes known as the 'Personal' planets .. or 'Inner planets'
the transits of the 'outer' planets be somewhat different .. Jupiter, Saturn, Neptune, Uranus and Pluto move relatively slow .. Jupiter has a 12 yr cycle (cycle .. as in once around the zodiac circle ) .. Saturn 28 .yrs .. Uranus 84.yrs .. Neptune 165. yrs .. and lilltle ol' Pluto .. 248.yrs .. .. .. .. it be the Outer planets .. in particular when they aspect a Personal placement/planet .. that seem to give folk the hardest or best of times ( in terms of astrological transits and ppl reactions to same )
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***Astro Help***

this is a good intro to astrology and relationships .. (the book is available in a few languages i beleive)
* http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/A.F.L.G.html *

good for 'aspect' information .. maybe *transits* as well ..
* http://www.cafeastrology.com

posted February 19, 2006 03:30 PM              

Good luck to youtoo