posted February 20, 2006 05:19 PM              

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Do you think everyone has a soul mate? The term itself kind of ... irks me, it's so sentimental, but you know, I think everyone should have that special someone... most definetly. It depends what you want though, some people don't want that, or they view it as something different, because everyone has different ideals. Also, have you ever really loved someone, and you know they don't love you, or you just seem so incredibly far apart.. but they kind of try to save you, but you know it's not real and that they don't REALLY love you... so you ... go on with life. In a way, it's like why would they do that if they didn't love you, and on the other hand it's like how could they possibly? It's hard because one persons way of loving someone, showing love, can be taken the wrong way in someone else... it can hurt them, etc. Is the underlying objective to find someone who see's love and whatnot the same way that you do, expresses it likewise, and with whom you can feel loved (because people see/show/feel love differently), because that's where you feel comfortable and safe..

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posted February 20, 2006 10:13 PM            

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The thing about love is that it's a different experience for everyone. You cannot measure it by anyone else's standards, just your own. I think in terms of soulmates that the word has been subject to a lot of hype, over the last few years especially.

I do know of a website that discusses thorough a series of articles the idea of soulmates and twin flames, etc.
http://www.circlesoflight.com/relate/index.shtml

See if that brings you any clarity.

Peace!

Love

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posted February 20, 2006 10:57 PM            

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SS-
I'm definitely with you on the whole thing about the different ways that people love- and how they can contradict each other.
Sometimes a person says they love you but they do things that you yourself could never do if you really loved someone and it brings all this doubt into your mind- "I would never do that, how could they do this and say they love me?"
I'm learning a lot about this-
and I don't necessarily think that the best person for us, or our "soulmate" is the one whose way of loving is just like ours.
I think it's similar to sex- as seperate as the two subjects have become in today's world-
If both individuals care about one another, it only gets better as you learn each other's styles of loving, what they need, what you need, how you work together. You will learn what their silences, moods, behaviour, etc. all signify just like they will come to understand you.
Love is built, I believe-
no Cupid's bows flying around aimlessly, catching us at inopportune times.
It's more of a meandering road- with many side-streets along the way, opportunities to escape. Sometimes you decide to stay on the road, stick around to see what's coming up ahead..often you'll end up in the best place in the world-
or crash and burn.
soulmate or no soulmate-
it's a giant crazy leap of faith,
I hope yours takes you to a good place.

P.S. sorry I went on this rant, have had a couple of glasses of wine and am feeling somewhat blue and lonesome.

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