posted March 07, 2006 10:44 PM              

I find myself in a pickle with a lioness that appears to have lost the plot. She is the ex of my current partner. They have been seperated for 10years, but she hasn't let anything go. She goes out of her way to make my life a living hell.
I and my partner have been stalked, abused phone calls against me and my family, blah blah blah.

Biggest issue is that current partner and ex have a child. He cops a lot from her, but is still fiercly defensive of her idiotic behaviour. As a result I am limited to what I can do, unless I want to ruin my partnership and 'step mum' relationship with the child (well teenager so young adult).

Would love to know some strategies to kick the lioness off her stupid tangents so she can get out of my life and get on with hers.

I am an Aries, my partner a Leo, ex nutcase is Leo. The issues is that my partner and me have a lot of Saturn influence, so is this just karma from last life?

posted March 08, 2006 04:39 AM              

I'm going to try to give you some contrast here.

I'm a Libra, Opposite your Sign of Aries... The thing that hits me right away is the question "...strategies to kick the lioness off her stupid tangents so she can get out of my life and get on with hers..."

I don't know if I can attribute this to just my Libra Sun, but I'll start there. That question you ask is not a question which would have crossed MY mind. I'm simply saying that my intial approach would be WAY different, and if you find yourself forever frustrated by this (as I have a feeling you will ... ) try changing the way you're approaching it.

For example, I might be frustrated beyond imagination, but I'm not privy to ways to control others that much. My main concern would be the integrity of the relationship with the guy. Is he being honest with me? Is he providing a respectful cushion between she and I?

You know?

Because no matter how well you and her are finally able to get along in the future, if the common denominator (the guy) is not being a stand-up guy, it's doomed ...

The other common denominator is even more important than the guy, and that's the kid. But the kid is looking up to the adults.