posted March 20, 2006 06:46 PM            

1) Cancer
2) Aries
3) Virgo
4) Sagittarius
5) Libra

The reason I bring this up is because of an interesting discusion I had with a Pisces today. Pisces are known for their laid-back, go-with-the-flow attitude. Cancer is known for our innate fear of change [or anything unknown for the matter] yet we're practically the mood ring of the zodiac. So, I'm in need of some perspective: how do you tell the difference between someone who is unsatisfiable and someone who simply won't settle for less than the best?

For example, as most of you know, I am the perfect archetype of Gemini Venus. I'm fun-loving, "Can't pin me down!", and yes (I'll admit it), FICKLE, Gemini Venus. I mean- go to the Soul Unions forum and I've listed at least five guys, and I aint proud of it either!

But I'm not fickle because I can't find any satisfaction, I'm fickle because I want the PERFECT guy. I won't settle for an hyperactive Aries who can't make up his mind, but I won't fall for a stubborn Scorpio who won't take a chance in love.

In a way, by dating around and not settling down for too long, I'm taking romance and love seriously. If I stay in a relationship that makes me unhappy and bored after 11 days, then there MUST be something wrong. The big question is, what is it that's wrong??

Is it me? Is it the person? Is it the relationship? The timing? Is it everything?

And if something is wrong, and you can't pinpoint it, what do you do? Do you end it or just stick with it, and hope that it all works out? Does one have enough faith in their relationship and the Powers that Be to do that?

I'm asking a lot of questions, lol, sorry..

Perhaps I am simply unsatisfiable. Perhaps I and millions of other people who can't settle down are simply stubborn and can't accept what they get. Life isn't fair, and nothing is perfect. So why look for that perfect person that you dream about living the rest of your life with? Are we settle our goals for life too high?? Are we suffering from Sagittari-itis???

I'm in need of perspective on this issue. And its not just me. It's thousands of people who can't figure out why. Why am I still dating around? Why can't I find the one??? Why why why??

posted March 20, 2006 07:31 PM            

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I'm with you on cutting off relationships early if they don't look like they'll pan out. As I've gotten older there have been situations where it's been mutually agreed that it would never permanently work out, but we could still agree to have a good time with one another for awhile. I guess that's the compromise that some of these "people who never settle down" make.

I think the reason you haven't found the one is probably because either:

1. He doesn't exist, because apparently no one can live to your standards, or

posted March 20, 2006 08:25 PM              

I have two childhood friends who married young (before 25 years old). One married the first man she dated. Although she loves her husband very much, she feels that she missed out on what it could have been like just dating other men. There are things about her husband that makes my friend go "Hmm . . ." and unhappy. It just intensifies her wanting to see others to get an idea of what's out there, I think.

The other dated a bit (6 months?) and just wanted to hurry up and settle down. She married at 20 and had her first baby last November. She says now she wishes she had waited and been pickier with whom she commits to. Now it's too late. So she says . . .

posted March 21, 2006 05:48 AM              

If the Gemini boredom or restlessness gets to you and you're lonely, I suggest taking up a bunch of creative stuff. I have a similar problem of Virgo Venus and Libra/Gemini in chart, so have instruments all over the house and piddle away dancing various forms of dance.

I manifest a great guy and he's emotionally immature, or treats women as maniquins, not real people! or I'm too intelligent for him, or he's passive agressive and won't own it, or he's secretly subtly a "punisher" or a "boundary jumper" (and unteachable!) etc....and friends say, you're too fussy, he's so cute, you're not that young anymore....blablabla. But I feel great so why feel worse just because someone's cute or good in bed?

The creativity: It helps a lot to get this outlet while you cook up your readiness for a change, which is what a relationship is, ....a big change. You might just be happier "alone" than you think!

Gemini likes working with their hands, so maybe your Venus could get some energy out that way. Oddly, feed a planet and it gets healthier, esp. relationship planets which can lay tooooo much emphasis on the other person. When you feed it and take the pressure off, the person is safe to enter, heehee....

As for manifesting a partner, INTEND to see examples of things you want and put together a composite. Like you may see a love scene on TV or a cute photo of a guy, etc., or get an idea of a quality of gentleman that is rare in this culture...or a good listener, or a humble openminded innocent playful spirit with deep wisdom, or someone you can talk to for hours and laugh and not have ego barriers, someone with something to offer (what would that be?)....you put together an overall feel of what you want. And then forget about it.

That's the magic. But you can't put EFFORT into it, got to take it lightly.

Well, that's all my input for now.

posted March 21, 2006 06:14 AM              

Lack of hobbies, goals and global awareness.
That is what is wrong. You are not even 18 and you are quickly erasing your karmic credit account by dating too many guys and complaining about the lack of Mr. Perfect!

Usually, it takes many years of penance/hardwork/sacrifice over many lifetimes to get enough points to be born born healthy and pretty in a technologically developed country around late 20th century.

You can evolve to amazing heights by doing great things. For instance, if you outline a good project to do something for an African province in trouble, you will get lots of support from your school authorities. You dont need a visa to go anywhere and hence you can do research on any topic in any country. Such chances come very rarely in a 25,000 year precessioanry cycle.

So if all you want to do with this opportunity is date tons of guys and get bored because no one is perfect, it would be an utter waste of this golden chance.

I strongly suggest a dramatic change of priorities. A new language? Maybe studying in a different country? China, Malaysia, Japan, Spain or Italy would be a good idea.
Planning what you want to achieve by the time you are 30,40,50,60 and so on, that would be cool too.
You can scan 100s of potential hobbies, find 4-5 which are astrologically compatible and master them like a wizard.

There are about 500-1000 non Harry Potter books which are worth reading and these can add 30,000 years worth of evolution.

Understanding something very complex, that can be very thrilling. Public/Private Key Encryption for example. Or the architecture of the DNA molecule indepth. Maybe some adventure sport? Global Currencies? Origin of Languages? Yoga?

There is so much more to life than erasing your karmic credits so soon. Mr. Perfect will definitely come when he is supposed to come. He will never come when you search desperately. Infact, not even thinking of boys for a year or so will dramatically pull the destined guy to you. Promiscuity clogs the Aura with karmas of the boys [and their other girls] which mingle with your aura and the true love signal gets jammed. Try to clean it up for the true love miracle to manifest. This is not a joke but the real reason for chastity being prescribed by religions.

posted March 21, 2006 06:18 AM              

As for manifesting a partner, INTEND to see examples of things you want and put together a composite. Like you may see a love scene on TV or a cute photo of a guy, etc., or get an idea of a quality of gentleman that is rare in this culture...or a good listener, or a humble openminded innocent playful spirit with deep wisdom, or someone you can talk to for hours and laugh and not have ego barriers, someone with something to offer (what would that be?)....you put together an overall feel of what you want. And then forget about it. >>

Very interesting!

posted March 21, 2006 06:52 AM              

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Which signs are constantly satisfied?? If I were to rank the top five sun signs, i'd say:
1) Cancer
2) Aries
3) Virgo
4) Sagittarius
5) Libra

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posted March 21, 2006 08:33 AM              

I really loved your post.

posted March 21, 2006 09:14 AM              

What would be the fun in that? No goals to reach, no learning, no new experiences to desire.

I heard this song and it really made me laugh. It's true for a lot of people.

love like the movies live vol 2

So you want to be in love like the movies, but in the movies they're not in love at all
And with a twinkle in their eyes, they're just saying their lines
So we can't be in love like the movies

Now in the movies, they make it look so perfect
And in the background they're always playing the right song
And in the ending there's always a resolution
But real life is more than just two hours long

So you want to be in love like the movies, but in the movies they're not in love at all
With a twinkle in their eyes, they're just saying their lines
So we can't be in love like the movies

Well you can freeze frame any moment from a movie
Or run the whole damn thing backwards from reel to reel
But I don't see one single solitary lie technician
Or one single camera in this moonlit field

I don't want to be in love like the movies

Cuz in the movies they're not in love at all
With a twinkle in their eyes,
They're just saying their lines,
So we can't be in love like the movies.

And with a twinkle in their eyes,
They're just saying their lines
And so we can’t be in love like the movies.
No
We can’t be in love like movies.

I think sometimes we can get this perfect image of love in our heads and tend to overlook what's standing right in front of us. If we focus on the negative, the positive will eventually disappear.

No one is going to 100% complete or compliment us.

I'm not saying to stick around with someone who makes you unhappy... but decide for yourself what's really important.

Also, sex alone isn't going to produce anything truly substantial.

I think that some of the boredom issues may be the fact that you're still 17??

It passes.

Also something that I've noticed. Exhibit the traits you find positive. (Note: Not saying you don't) Like attracts like.
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Scorpio sun, venus, mars, mercury, and uranus
Libra moon, pluto, and asc.

posted March 22, 2006 08:47 AM            

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Your post confuses me a bit. You start by saying that Cancer is the most constantly satisfied, and then you say you're a Cancer and you're never satisfied. Do you think your Cancerian brothers and sisters are more satisfied than you?

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Precisely. Most of my fellow Cancer friends are happy with the way their relationships are- romance-wise. I, on the other hand, can't stay still because I never get this feeling of...security. That this person is the one. I trust my intuition 100%, and if I don't get that feeling, I don't stay for long.

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Lack of hobbies, goals and global awareness. That is what is wrong. You are not even 18 and you are quickly erasing your karmic credit account by dating too many guys and complaining about the lack of Mr. Perfect!

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I love you Iqhunk! I had a strange dream about this... I was with my friends and all of them were in relationships and I was thinking.. I should do that too! But then some guy comes up to me and he's dressed like the god Mercury and he's saying, "Hey now... don't dissapoint me! Slow down, dude.. slow it down."

For a very long time I've been wanting to do something humanitarian. I was planning on majoring in the Humanities with a double major in International Studies. I really would love to work for UNICEF, but that requires me to learn at least two languages (I already know Spanish, but it's very basic. I also know Tagalog (Filipino), but that's not on their list.) which I don't have the current time for. I'll probably try to take a few classes in college, then after I graduate I'll do some voluntary work. It's interesting that you mentioned Africa, because I've been wanting to go there for so long!!

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I strongly suggest a dramatic change of priorities. A new language? Maybe studying in a different country? China, Malaysia, Japan, Spain or Italy would be a good idea.
Planning what you want to achieve by the time you are 30,40,50,60 and so on, that would be cool too.
You can scan 100s of potential hobbies, find 4-5 which are astrologically compatible and master them like a wizard.

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I'm planning on becoming a Journalist and I really want to write a book about the AIDS epidemic. A lot of people don't know about how terrible of an epidemic this is. By the time I'm 30, I really want to be travelling around and writing about different cultures from a sociological and political point of view. There are other countries out there than Iraq, you know?

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There are about 500-1000 non Harry Potter books which are worth reading and these can add 30,000 years worth of evolution.

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Every year, at least two of teachers call my parents and ask them to come into the school not because I'm a troubled kid or getting bad grades.. but because I'm reading in class. I have three shelves of books in my house, lol. Yes.. all mine.

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This is not a joke but the real reason for chastity being prescribed by religions.

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I'm agnostic.. but I understand what you mean. When I was younger, I remember not giving a **** about boys.. and I was a lot happier. Naive, but happier.

WaterNymph- I surveyed three of my different group of friends. WHOOPS! That should've been UNsatisfied. I suppose that makes more sense...

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Also, sex alone isn't going to produce anything truly substantial.

I think that some of the boredom issues may be the fact that you're still 17??

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Yeah.. me too, lol. Actually, I'm very prude when it comes to sex. I've only kissed three guys in my entire lifetime. Three compared to I think I've dated around...9 guys.. is very little.

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Exhibit the traits you find positive.

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I know.. I'm a very negative thinker, which feeds into my manifestation of the perfect guy. I tend to weed out the bad traits first when meeting someone, before I get to know the good. I know- VERY VERY bad habit. I'm too Scorpionic in that way- I like to uncover the unseen before actually looking at them!

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Thanks AEN. I just write from all the brusies of my own experiences so that others dont have to reinvent the wheel!

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If you want to see my birthchart:

June 24, 1988
Oak Lawn, IL
1:52 pm.

posted March 22, 2006 09:51 AM              

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Thanks AEN. I just write from all the brusies of my own experiences so that others dont have to reinvent the wheel!

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Capricorns are supposed to be good at learning from others mistake. Sometimes I feel my birth date must be wrong. I have Chiron in 7th so I can get whiney about relationships (or the lack of) and then the change of perspective is always good.

posted March 22, 2006 12:45 PM              

You said:

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For a very long time I've been wanting to do something humanitarian...I'm planning on becoming a Journalist and I really want to write a book about the AIDS epidemic...By the time I'm 30, I really want to be travelling around and writing about different cultures from a sociological and political point of view.

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As has been mentioned, you are young, but you have reached the age where you are getting ready to step out into the world and you want to do MORE somehow. This is normal and occurs around the same time for everyone (around 18 years of age). If you are interested in the astrology, this is the time of your second Jupiter (expansion, also wisdom) opposition (the first occurs around age 6), the time when transiting (planets in the sky) Jupiter opposes (energy is over-excited by) itself, which can cause us to feel "expansive" about life. It can ALSO be a time of great possibilities in learning.

Your transiting Jupiter is now focused in your 2nd house (physical, also values), so you may want to know more about your values at this time. To help with this value education, perhaps consider this:
You have South node (the past) focused in the 11th house (friends, also other people's self-expression), indicating it is easy to focus on helping others develop themselves. However, your North node (future goals) is focused in the 5th house (self-expression), indicating that your goal in life is to get some sort of recognition for your self-expression. Perhaps what is concerning you is that you are putting all this energy out for others...but not getting the recognition for it you want and deserve.

The possibility that you are becoming aware of this North node need is increased because currently Jupiter is trining (energy goes easily with) your North node. In addition, you have a T-square (strong energy) focused between the nodes on Gemini (thinking, also writing) modifying Mercury (thinking, also writing) conjunct (energy is combined with) Venus (physical, also values/relationships) focused in the 9th house (expansion, also wisdom). This indicates you are using your thinking/writing about relationships as a way to learn about relationships and how they work. This knowledge can move you from your South node focus to developing your North node self-expression. Increasing this "learning" connection to the nodes is an Easy Opposition focused on Jupiter between the nodes.

So the challenge is to learn enough about your values and relationships that you learn how to express yourself (perhaps in writing) to get the recognition you deserve. I suggest you begin to work on your writing "...about different cultures from a sociological and political point of view..." right NOW. This will help you take all your knowledge about other people's self-expression and combine it in with your learned writing talents in order to express yourself to say the things which need to be said.

Notice that all this talk has been about "writing relationships". Since you have no energy focused in the 7th house you do not tend to have relationships for the sake of relationships. You may get into relationships or you may not, but it is your relationship with WRITING that will most likely be the most fulfilling for you.

Expansively rapping,

Tim