posted March 24, 2006 01:53 PM              

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Have any other women had any frustrating experiences/relationship with a Capricorn man??

For example, mine has been in and out of my life for 1 1/2 years, seemingly "stringing me" because he won't cut the cord yet I don't see what he's getting out of it bc. I won't be intimate with him, yet we're more than friends and there's an admitted mutual strong attraction.

Don't need advice - Just looking for others' experiences, and whether you think Cap. guys deserve any "slack" or should you apply the normal "he's just not that into me" rules and forget him?

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posted March 24, 2006 02:14 PM            

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As a Cancer, I can relate to a Cap's mentality pretty well. It's hard for both of our signs to let go of things. Our compulsion to hold on leads us to cling to things that have long since undone their expiration date.

I dated a Cap for a brief time, and our relationship was toxic from the start. He had WAY to much in the way of Leo influences and was overly domineering and aggressive. We had vicious arguments from the second date on. I saw that this was a bad thing and didn't want to continue - he did. It boggled the mind. I respected his tenacity, but no one should stay in a relationship that’s painful from day one so I ended things. After I’d completely rejected him he cut all ties with me vanished completely from my life in a very Cancer/Cap like fashion. While I felt bad for hurting him I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that ending it was the best choice for both of us.

While my Cap story illustrates my experiences with the sign you raised a question about, I’d also like to share my experiences with a Virgo. I dated one for seven years and we broke up and got back together probably 30+ times. It was always him initiating the breakups (with the exception of one time). I could have easily said he didn’t love me and was stringing me along, but I know that wasn’t the case. We both loved each other fiercely, but we were also both scared children unsure of how to love one another. In our hearts, I think we both knew something was wrong with the relationship. My Virgo was so scared of me ending things, so unsure of my love for him, that he constantly tried to “jump the gun” and end things before he could get hurt. Then he’d realize he was a fool and come back to me. Until I grew tired of being left, and finally closed the door firmly shut behind him when he walked out.

In the case of the Cap, I think he hung onto me because it was just his nature to do so. In the case of my Virgo, he hung onto me out of a hope that one day we could make things work. I’m not sure why your Cap is acting the way he is – maybe he’s just holding onto you because he’s afraid he won’t find anything better, maybe he knows the relationship is bad but hopes he can work things out with you. But whether “he’s just not that into you” or not this relationship sounds unhealthy for you. I have zero patience with the “Break up get back together” game any more. Either you want me or your don’t. I’d end things with your Cap once and for all and find someone that treats you the way you want to be treated.

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posted March 24, 2006 02:23 PM              

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CapGirl,

As a Cap I agree with what Isolaede had to say - just tell him directly what you think about the whole situation and ask him why he's playing games with you. Either you'll find out something you didn't know up until now or it'll get you talking in a way that will settle things once and for all.

A capricorn won't just go after you just because, he has to have some reason in mind, even if it's just feelings or personal, which he'll be most reluctant to talk about. Either way, telling him that you're not looking for an intimate relationship will do the job.

-jk

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posted March 24, 2006 03:02 PM              

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Hey Capgirl,

My ex boyfriend is a Capricorn Sun, Virgo Moon with Gemini Rising. I have a Capricorn Moon. We were together for a year, broke up, and stayed in touch for probably another 6 months. I'd say you don't give him any slack. The more time you spend with each other, and the less it works out, the more baggage you carry. You might meet someone really great later on and it's unattractive and unhealthy to have a slacker strapped onto you for so long.

Good Luck!

Aphrodite

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posted March 24, 2006 03:07 PM              

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YUP
i have a sun-cap grandfather
i have a sun-cap father
i'm hopelessly in love with a cap asc.
i had a sun-cap lover a few years ago
my mercury is in capricorn, the cusp of my 6th house is cap, and cap dominates my 5th house.

caps can be very critical men - what i most admire about them is their ability to accomplish sooooo much and they are GREAT leaders capable of inducing changes without a doubt and most of them promote responsibility and I'm not speaking of talking about it - their aura/presence emits BEING about it - you just know you do not want to f*ck up when you are around or involved with them. emotionally? as "focused and mature" as they are professionally - emotionally, i find they often come off as being a child (not in a bad way, at least, not for me). need lots of affection, close contact, reasssurance, stuff like that when it's possible (but there is a time and place for everything which is another thing about them that I love) because their schedules are always packed so there is a possiblity you won't see them every single day but they may call (however i call and visit my grandpop and never the other way around) I think moreso to get reassurance that they are still what they are to you, if not more. if they get you something you asked for, and you don't appreciate it the way they want you to appreciate it - you won't get nothing else. they usually attract people who have "overcome" or are in the process of "overcoming" some life-altering experience and most stay attached to someone who makes positive headway in their life or someone elses and is strong in the face of adversary. i think the motto - we fall down but we get up - means A LOT to them. i know of caps who volunteer services to organizations - not just monetarily but with their time and presence and the one's i've know have extravagant hobbies like a fascination with antiques - most especially classic cars. Mostly all of the caps i know get up early in the morning - i have NEVER known one to sleep past 7 a.m. for some reason - a lot of people who i find myself admiring because of how they handle themselves in the business world and with their families happen to be caps............men and women. Most of the caps i know - whether they own the business or not - RUN the show VERY well and don't make people who are not in a executive position feel like they are any less than them. Most times - if you happen to see them with someone a lot - that someone is like an apprentice. They are great conversationalist - whenever i have had a question about something serious like politics, religion, gender, sex, society, nationality and what have you - i've asked a cap. even though they don't necessarily volunteer their views - when asked - they ALWAYS have an in-depth, strong, view/spin on things.......A lot of them expect or would like SOOOOOOOOOO much for the people they care about - maybe even beyond that person's capability. i admire them soooooo much and have never been frustrated with one but they DO induce the power of determination.

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posted March 25, 2006 12:20 PM              

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some cap men like keeping women around as insurance in case things don't work out.

i've met a load of emotionally promiscuous cap people, male and female who have more than one love interest.

it seems like they choose safe, stable partners and then cheat on them because they're other side isn't being met. there is a real repression going on with capricorns in my opinion.

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posted March 25, 2006 12:29 PM              

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hmmm..Lovely*..you might be onto something..

Sending EveryOne Lots of Love. ...

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posted March 25, 2006 03:17 PM              

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LoL I've been told I'm repressed before

However, i've yet to meet a promiscuous capricorn. But then, everything's possible so it can't be disputed.

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posted March 25, 2006 03:52 PM            

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We can be very difficult in relationships.

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posted March 25, 2006 03:53 PM              

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LOL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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posted March 25, 2006 03:56 PM              

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Too funny.

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posted April 08, 2006 12:14 AM              

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Welcome CapGirl

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posted April 08, 2006 02:49 AM              

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I agree, Amisha - Most of the Cappies I have known have also been stand-up people, who set great examples for others. Modest, a little fussy, helpfull as a rule, and always have the most sensible advise.

I've never dated one, but I've known a few for many years. My best freind's older brother is one. He was like her dad, and mine too. I thought I loved him from when I was 10 to 14. He's 12 years older than us, and the oldest boy in a family of 8 kids, (has a sister 2 years older) he grew up supervising and guiding others. Now, he's a district manager with the municipal property tax dept., raises & races horses, is a 'Big Brother's' floor hockey coach, and is a surrogate father to many of his neices & nephews, has cosigned for half of his siblings & extended family for car loans & such(hasn't been disappointed yet), has never been married, etc...he's so typical Cappie, in such a wonderful way. He's also Native Canadian, BTW,(as is his whole family) and looks quite alot like a current Native actor, (don't know his name), who is about 50 and is in alot of things. I think he was in Dances with Wolves. Has kind of a hawk nose, but is handsome still.

Oh yeah, he also put himself through college, and owned a few of his own businesses over the years.

That's just one Cap I know. This will be a long post if I talk about all of them.

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posted April 08, 2006 03:43 AM              

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But at times, I find myself wondering WHY he's never been married. I'm pretty sure he's not gay. Perhaps Caps are mechanically & dutifully gifted, but emotionally challenged. I've never even come close to one that way so I can only theorize.

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