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Topic: Negative Aries Man
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sue g
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posted March 26, 2006 06:19 AM
 
It was my father's birthday on Friday. He is a very difficult man to buy a gift for as he doesnt really have any hobbies.Anyway I bought him a few things, amongs the gifts was a pack of three socks. Not particularly exciting, but practical. I had taken a long time in choosing a card and the one that I had stumbled upon took my breath away, I couldnt have written the words better myself.....beautiful, sincere and very touching. When I spoke to him he said "oh I got your parcel, but dont buy me dark socks again I only wear light ones". THAT WAS IT......!!!! No mention of anything else..... Just focusing on the negative.....I was gobsmacked!!! How in the name of God someone could even consider saying this to another he knows to be very sensitive and caring.... He is Aries....hasnt grown up yet..... He is 79..... I am going to challenge him on this, albeit gently...... I am learning to speak out and try to heal all the hurt I have received over the years..... Of course, this is nothing compared to some of the things he has done and said to me.... But one has to start small, dont you think? Mothers day here.....I got two beautiful gifts....I took my 7yr old son by the hand and with me heart wide open I said to him "what lovely lovely gifts, I couldnt have chosen better myself....what a wonderful person you are to be so kind....  .....he beamed with pride..... I then thought about what my father had said to me and fought back the tears. He hated his mother, I will try and make sure my son doesnt hate me....he wrote in my card...."i will love you forever.... May we all learn from the mistakes of our parents and have enough compassion and wisdom not to repeat them. love xxxx IP: Logged |
Bluemoon
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posted March 26, 2006 07:58 AM
I have never known an Aries who really did grow up. A bit of a "Peter Pan Syndrome". At least you have your sweet boy to ease that pain for you. IP: Logged |
Duality
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posted March 26, 2006 08:13 AM
Hugs to you, Sue. Sounds similar to my dad who is also an Aries (he's 77). Although, he is greatful for attentions he gets but can be ungreatful and critical too. Interesting that he had serious mother issues too. His mother never loved him either.I don't know if he hated her but he had lots of unacknowledged anger toaward her.IP: Logged |
ariestiger
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posted March 26, 2006 09:35 AM
Actaully, Sue, I'll give you a tip, ask Aries exactly what they want and follow it to a tee, because if you don't, their expression (and probably more) will say: what did you have to give me that for? I notice that as a sign, we are not big on gift-giving or receiving unless it's something we REALLY REALLY want, although I realise that with other signs this can cause conflict because they equate caring with gift-giving. Not that that's necessarily wrong, it's just not Aries' way of looking at things. I have an Aries father too so I do know what I am talking about. Also, don't ask me why, but Aries and Scorpio don't seem to be each other's favourite sign right now. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 26, 2006 10:11 AM
I know, I know...
You get something that you think about, put real effort into.. like the card, and the socks are just supplemental, also a way of caring....
and the only thing they notice is the socks...
I am guessing he was uncomfortable with the sentiment and was more comfortable with the tangible, and wanted you to know his preferences if you get him something like that again.
People are the roughest and most honest with their family, and that is equated with caring....
If a stranger got him something he didn't appreciate, he'd not say a thing, but because you are beyond the level of stranger and he cares for you, he is able to define his standards with ease.. so in a way, his reaction is a typical (albeit somewhat hurtful) of him saying he cares for you.
It's hard to please some people, it simply is.
Take heart... I am sure he appreciates you.
Try not to have too many expectations when you give something to someone... the act of giving is pleasure, and you know you did it out of love.
You can't always have the reaction you expect or want.
Maybe he will bring it up another time....
It's hard to love and live among people, with all the disappointments. But continue to appreciate who he is and unfortunately, that is part of him. Don't give up caring, just change your experience of it. With him, you might have to listen to the moments that are not built up, and rather focus on the ones that come naturally.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 26, 2006 10:13 AM
By the way, I meant to put a heart icon on my post, so here it is...IP: Logged |
nove731
Knowflake Posts: 43
From: Strasbourg, France
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted March 26, 2006 10:22 AM
Heh. Yeah. ariestiger has a point. Us Arians are a lot...pickier about certain things than traditional astrology would have you think.  I doubt he purposefully tried to hurt your feelings. He was probably just giving an honest reaction, even if it was hurtful. He may, as has been earlier stated been uncomfortable with the sentiment of the card, or he may have just decided to tackle what he thought was the bigger issue, first, and then forgot about the card.  I know I do stuff like that all the time. Heh.  And ariestiger, I'd have to concurr on the Aries and Scorpio bit, too. Generally, I get along better with Scorpios than any other sign, but lately tensions have been high between my Scorpio friends and I. (I rhymed. Yay.  ) IP: Logged |
sue g
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posted March 26, 2006 10:24 AM
Bless you all for coming in and supporting......truly it is very helpful!The irony of this is a few weeks ago he was "giving out" about my brother in law cos he complained about the shirt that my Ma and Da bought him. He said to my Da on the phone "oh i dont wear checked shirts only plain ones" And my Da was offended by that!!!! God almighty, he really hasnt grown up has he ? xxx IP: Logged |
wilsontc
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posted March 26, 2006 12:08 PM
sue,Astrology may help you understand this better. The Sun is our self-expression. If yours is in Scorpio, your expression is about emotional security, in being secure by being in a caring environment. Anything which affects that makes you fell "insecure" is upsetting emotionally and you take STRONG offense to these things...and people. Your dad's Sun is in Aries, which is about identity action. His way of expressing himself is to assert who he is and what he is in every situation. To him, a gift that doesn't EXACTLY fit with his identity is a sign that people aren't paying attention to what he wants. And this sense of having an "ignored identity" could be upsetting to him. Of course, if he is SO focused on his own identity, even HIS own gift choices will be identified with his identity. The irony is he may tend to be offended at people telling HIM he is wrong while he is fine with telling other people when he things THEY are wrong. Yes, it can all be very "child-like" if these tendencies are not handled in an adult way. For more about the energy combinations of signs see Step 4 in the link below. Doing sun-sign analysis, Tim ------------------
For information on basic astrological chart interpretation see: http://www.geocities.com/wilsontctc IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted March 26, 2006 12:26 PM
My chart is very Aries heavy, I’m similar...hard to please…but I’ve learnt to LIE
The reality is, lies are much better than unnecessary negative energy.Ok maybe that’s my Sun speaking, but it’s still wisdom  IP: Logged | |
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