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Topic: The whole Pisces Psychiatrist thing
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WaterNymph
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posted April 10, 2006 08:17 AM
 
Sometimes, I just don’t like it. It gets me down and depresses me.I don’t mind if it’s someone who just talks about their problems, and then tries to fix it or moves on. It’s people who sit there and talk for ages about their problems…and when you ask them what are they planning to do?, they say nothing  and then continue complaining. It’s intensely draining, and for someone who depresses easily…it’s not fun  it’s why I surround myself with happy people. Or people who actually try to fix their problems. However, I do listen to their problems…despite how annoying they are. Because maybe…I might make them feel better and they can move on. Maybe I can actually bring peace to their lives, even for a moment. I’m often told by these people I’m really nice/decent/not like other people etc because maybe no one else listens to them? So I feel guilty, and continue listening to them. One mighty vicious circle. I have this inner feeling of guilt…that somehow it’s my duty to help. But I also don’t want to. Let me quickly explain why I feel guilty, these people are often very emotionally controlled. Detached even. They don’t appear to be emotional in the least…just normal. But for some odd reason with me, they open up *perplexed* These people are often Earth and Air sign. Now I’m not saying ALL earth & air signs do this. Because trust me, plenty don’t. So there’s often this inner conflict between…being nice, being polite to wanting to shout shut up! it’s often the “nice” me that wins, and feels guilty for ever thinking such negative thoughts. I think it may have something to do with my Sun opp Moon. Sun: wants to help and be kind
Moon: wants to slap some sense into them. Right now I’m either 1. avoiding them or 2. Change the subject quickly “oh I’m so sorry you feel that way, btw I love your shoes/is it cold today/did you do something with your hair?” Don’t get me wrong, I love to lend an ear. It’s second nature and I enjoy it. I like helping people. But the reality is, I can only help someone help themselves. But if they’re not helping themselves, and just continue to waste my time and energy, it’s upsetting. And it hurts to eventually cut these people out of my life it hurts because I genuinely care for them So next time think long and hard before you depress a Piscean  IP: Logged |
Cassy
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posted April 10, 2006 08:52 AM
WN, now don't get me wrong but you are actually allowing yourself or these people to depress you. Yes, its nice for these people to have someone to talk to but you have to be firm with them by telling them not to whine about the same thing and not be prepared to do anything about them.
You're still trying to be Mr nice guy by just ignoring them.
People have always felt they can talk to me, even some that I meet for the first time and it's draining sometimes but you have to be cruel to be kind. In this way you're actually helping them although it might not feel that way.Sun Cap, Moon Taurus, Asc. Taurus IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted April 10, 2006 08:56 AM
True I’m allowing them to do this. But how do I look them in the eye and say “I don’t want to talk about this, it’s depressing me”. They will be hurt.Though I know honesty is the best policy, and my happiness should come first ( feels so unnatural to say that ). It’s going to be something I have to learn  IP: Logged |
wilsontc
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posted April 10, 2006 09:51 AM
nymph,Maybe think of it this way:
Q: Why am I listening to these people?
A: So I can help them.
Q: What do these people need?
A: To own their problems and solve their serious problems.
Q: How can I help?
A: By urging them to own their problems and solve their serious problems. Non-astrologically, Tim IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted April 10, 2006 10:04 AM
" To you, Pisces, I give the most diffucult task of them all. I ask you to collect all of man's sorrows and return them to Me. Your tears are to be ultimately My tears. The sorrow you absorb is the efffect of man's misunderstanding of My idea, but you are to give him compassion that he may try again, For this, the most difficult tasks of them all, I give you the greatest gift of the all. You will be the only one of my twelve children to understand Me, But this gift of understanding is for you, Pisces, for when you try to spread it to man, he will not listen."Unknown IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
Newflake Posts: 7
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 10, 2006 02:20 PM
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Dulce Luna
Newflake Posts: 7
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 10, 2006 02:21 PM
WN, I had this same problem before. People always coming to talk but do nothing to help themselves. I just drew won't help themselves then I can't help them. IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted April 11, 2006 07:01 AM
Tim I understand, but they don’t solve their problems. They just come to me and complain. After that they feel better…but once down, come back to me again. I’ve become their free physiatrist…they’re taking advantage of me  A: By urging them to own their problems and solve their serious problems.
I tried that with this one guy, and he just snapped at me. All he wanted me to do is listen  and every time I see him, he seems to have another problem. If I didn’t care, this wouldn’t be bothering me as much as it is.
Hippi I’ve read that, and it’s very beautiful. But I only chose to collect close people’s sorrows, not ever Tom, Dick and Harry‘s! I can’t/wont collect everyone’s tears. I draw the line with helping others once it starts affecting my own mental health…I’m no masochist. When I think about how many people rely on me, and how I can’t live my own life because of them…it’s really upsetting.
DL yes! If they can’t help themselves, how can I help them? A lot of people can’t relate, and assume it’s easy to help everyone. But no, you can only nudge them along. But if they choose to not move…why should I waste my time and energy.
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