posted May 09, 2006 12:49 PM            

As we know after a break up its all about talking to your friends and getting a clearer picture of what happened and what I noticed was that my guy friends were more inclined to just say "he's not that into you" or he lost interest blah blah, but my female friends, who I assume know more about the situation are more inclined to believe that he was being insecure and pushed me away - insecure b/c he's not sure what he wants to do w/ his life (at 28) and at 22 I just got into a prestigous grad school program (the day that happened is when everything started going downhill) and know exactly what I want out of life..

So we're still roommates for the next couple of weeks or so, so I still see him on a daily basis but here's the weird thing - I hate making excuses for men and am more inclined to just say "hey he wasnt that interested" and move on. But there are times when I'm around him where I feel like I get a clearer picture that he is in fact insecure and believes that I'd just eventually leave him for someone "better." Then I feel a sense of sympathy.. And other times I don't get this feeling at all.

So I guess I'm kind of curious about other people's experience with female intuiton. I'm not still reeling from the break up on an emotional level since I still have him in my life. But I'm still wondering if my judgement may be clowded or if the feelings I get about what he feels is in fact female intuition.

Thoughts??

posted May 27, 2006 12:25 AM              

I think it's cool that you can be friends, and this lends you support.

Then what you said about not knowing who's opinion to go with vs. those times when you get a clearer picture all on your own. Be careful the opinions of others doesn't haze your final decision. In the end, it's your heart and your mate's heart, and that's it.

You are then questioning your judgement again, and pitting male vs. female intuition. Full circle ...

I don't know what your respective Venus & Mars are, but w/info provided, you have a Fixed Sun & Moon and it bothers you if you don't have a plan of some sort. He has a Mutable Sun and a Fixed Moon. I have no doubt that your hearts are connecting, but it may all come down to principle and respective values. I don't know ... what do you think?

posted May 27, 2006 01:44 AM            

Its funny b/c just last week (which was after I posted the first post) he told me how he thinks I'm amazing and gave me reasons why he thought this and said that he just isnt ready to have a girlfriend and we weren't meant to be "right now." I didnt even ask him to say any of this. He just came out and said it one day.

So I think I was sensing how he felt before when I was around him. You're right, for now its a matter of principle - He wants to be free and independent and find his path. And it has absolutely nothing to do with how he feels about me.

So I've decided to stay friends, and keep in touch when I move. I don't know if we're meant to be life partners or life friends so, yes, being fixed its hard to continue w/o a plan, but I have to realize life doesn't work that way. We can't always know everything...

posted June 02, 2006 11:24 PM              

It is now like my instincts (can't term it as intitution) have betrayed my self, as its like she didn't have an ounce of feelings (maybe she had respect, but not feelings)...thats what she potrayed to her (not sure if its just for making me go away or just plain reality).