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miss_muffet unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 08:08 AM Hello all... What is your capacity to forgive and forget, after a broken heart - cheated by a loved one, or dumped by a lover for another? What is your Sun/Moon/Asc? Mine: - I have realized that even though I tried, I couldn't. - Aries/Taurus/Scorpio IP: Logged
shop22much Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: Dec 2010	posted May 26, 2006 08:43 AM . IP: Logged
double trouble gemini unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 09:13 AM i am too emotional when it comes to matters of the heart, cheated/ being dumped for another :- will never never ever forgive a lover who has cheated on me. liars :- depends on what they lie abt, i may forgive a small lie but never never forget, i will remain cautious in future,if they lie once they can lie God knows how many times again.. recovering from heart break:- cant recover easily. i keep hurting myself after a break up, i keep feeling miserable,ugly,rejected,lonely..i donot allow myself to recover untill i have felt the extreme pain of a heart break...it may take years,after this period is over i can relax and say 'its all over i feel much better now' sun-gem/asc-virgo/moon-sag. IP: Logged
mars446 unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 09:38 AM Put them through hell and never speak to them again... sun-virgo (6th house) moon-leo (6th house) asc-pisces I put the house placements just in case you wanted to know where to explain why I'd cut them off. However...after several months up to a year...I'll forgive, but not forget, and never be as close to that person as I was before. IP: Logged
Swerve unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 10:11 AM Well, I'd forgive them, retain the relationship and let it return to normal after a good long time. And fight with every iota not to take advantage of any lapse in concentration or whiff of misfortune on their part for a long long time....until it just didn't matter anymore. After a certain amount of time showing this dignity you always find they respect you more than anyone, and you hold a certain power over them. That is usually satisfactory enough. It slike the Scorpio in me will wait YEARS for revenge, but the Pisces always over-rides this in due time and rises above it. Though you may get some disgracefully evil vibes from me in the interim. Pisces/Scorpio/Scorpio Swerve IP: Logged
WaterNymph unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 10:13 AM I could probably find it in my heart to forgive. If I deeply love someone, it doesn�t go away over night. Forgetting is difficult, because you can�t literally forget something like that�or pretend it didn�t happen. So at the back of my mind I will have all these doubts. Will he do this again? Why did he do it in the first place? Did I do something�did I not love him enough�was I overly critical�did I not show enough compassion, understanding�is he better off with someone else�am I making him unhappy? It would be in my nature to let him go, regardless of how much pain it would cause me. I don�t want to be the cause of his unhappiness. If you love something, set it free lol Pisces/Virgo/Pisces IP: Logged
Full-fifthhouse-loulou unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 10:57 AM I hear you Swerve. We scorps are not supposed to be able to forgive but I can with time and patience and a genuine belief that the person is sorry. But it's hard. And painful. One time (it's long and complicated and more than I have time to share at present) my hubby hurt me very deeply. Only one time. It was to do with a magnificent surprise that I planned for him, a trip to New York that was a late honeymoon. Anyhoo, he hurt me beyond belief. My heart felt like it'd been smashed up. I never knew if I could forgive. But he was sorry, so sorry. And it took years. But I forgive completely. I even planned another surprise trip (to Poland in October) for him as a Christmas present....and to show I'd forgiven him. He knew when he saw the tickets that this meant I had forgiven him and he cried. We're stronger because of it. I really must add that if someone hurts my family and isn't sorry, that's a whole different story. Wrong of me, and very unenlightened of my scorpio sun, but I can't help that primal part of me. ------------------ SCORPIO SUN 5TH HOUSE ASCENDANT CANCER CANCER MOON 12TH HOUSE IP: Logged
Mystic Gemini unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 12:04 PM Sun: Gemini Moon: Taurus Acendant: Cancer I'd beat the s#t out of this person. Especially if they cheat whoahhh. dead meat. Then after the beating I'd dump them. ------------------ Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus 29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra -I took a walk around the world to ease my troubled mind. I left my body lying somewhere in the sands of time. But I watched the world float to the dark side of the moon. I feel there's nothing I can do. -Three Doors Down IP: Logged
nove731 Knowflake Posts: 43 From: Strasbourg, France Registered: Jun 2009	posted May 26, 2006 12:11 PM If someone cheated on me? I'd dump them, and not speak to them again, probably. But then again, I don't know, because it's never happened to me before. Sun: Aries Moon: Sagittarius Ascendant: Virgo IP: Logged
sue g unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 12:15 PM I take a long time to forgive if someone has lied or betrayed me...... I am very Scorpionic in that eventually I can forgive, but i never forget..... Scorp/Taurus/Aries IP: Logged
maroon_flower unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 12:56 PM I totally can relate to what swerve and FFH lou lou have said... Yes, there is much more dignity in being able to overlook the hurt the other person has caused.. the scorpio in me wants total annilation,nothing less. But, always, the piscean influence is strong and I end up somehow pardoning the transgression that was aimed at me. And believe you me..I feel a whole lot better after forgiving the person..feel so much more powerful. Not sure if that made sense.. just that keeping revenge is draining and damaging for the soul... consumes my time and energy. So, once able to forgive, I feel my soul can breathe again, and I am once again my own master. But, forget? Hmmm... I'll be a bit more cautious/wary when dealing with the said person in the future.. but, no, I wont bring it up again. As in, i'll let bygones be bygones. Scorpio sun/ Piscean moon/ Asc taurus ** But, if someone were to intentionally hurt my family/close friends, then there's no holding back..its nothing short of all out war.(be it subtle or overt) IP: Logged
lotusheartone unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 01:58 PM Forgive Forgive Forgive... Love Love Love... can anyone ever really forget?..NO..move on..it's in the past..cannot be changed..what is done is done..let it go...move forward... Sun Taurus Ascending Libra MOon Scorpio Love and Respect for ALL. ... IP: Logged
sue g unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 02:02 PM Wow Lotus You must have it sussed girl.(?).....Taurus sun and Moon in Scorp....I am the other way around...Scorp Sun and Moon in Taurus.... And I aint half as forgiving as you....altho I am getting better.....? Hopefully...? IP: Logged
lotusheartone unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 02:15 PM we're all learning and growing.. lots of Love to you, Sue. ... Love to ALL.. IP: Logged
Venus De Milo Knowflake Posts: 167 From: Registered: Jul 2009	posted May 26, 2006 02:17 PM Aquarius/Capricorn/Libra I could forgive all but the most debilitating betrayals. It really depends on the circumstances. And there are some people I think I could forgive anything or NEVER shut them out of my life, but again, until you go through it, who knows what you can forgive and how you will react and how it actually FEELS. Speaking for myself only, I've learned I can pontificate all day about how I THINK I'll behave in a certain situation, but a lot of times living through it is a completely different experience. IP: Logged
lotusheartone unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 02:20 PM HigherSelf to OverSoul..to GOD..and you just know. ... Love and Respect for ALL... IP: Logged
1scorp unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 02:57 PM "Speaking for myself only, I've learned I can pontificate all day about how I THINK I'll behave in a certain situation, but a lot of times living through it is a completely different experience." Perfectly said. ______________________________________ Scorpio sun, venus, mars, mercury, and uranus Libra moon, pluto, and asc. IP: Logged
lotusheartone unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 03:02 PM hehe..but you see..we've all been through these experiences already..in so many lifetimes.. Forgiveness is a key..to unlocking hearts..especially twinOne's. ... Love and Respect for ALL.. IP: Logged
sue g unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 03:12 PM Venus/1Scorp I get you girls........ And think its all a part of being human.... At least we are trying......!!!!! IP: Logged
Amaranthus unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 03:39 PM Things that's meaningless/mundane to me can slip trought my memory from time to time. But that kind of unfaithfulness I'll never forget. It's that simple. Forgiveness on the other hand is only possible if it's a deep and meaningful relationship. But pride is an issue here, since cheating isn't supposed to happen at all; at least not in my head. That's at least how I feel about it, but I'm glad I haven't experienced true betrayal and hope I never will. Scorpio/Cancer/Aquarius IP: Logged
Aquarius_Lover unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 04:09 PM I can't tell what I would do if betrayted by a partner. This never hapenned to me so far knocks on wood I'm still in my very first love relationship.I think I wouldn't forgive/forget. But who knows? As for lies/betrayals concerning other people like relatives and friends, I can forgive, takes time, a lot of time for me, but I can't never forget. Its always stirring at the bottom of my mind SUN Taurus MOON Gemini ASC Libra The worst thing in both cases is the lost of confidence. There is not a comeback to the time when things was running smooth. In this case I tend to shy away from that person. I compare it to an once perfect object that broken. You can try to restore it, but you know its perfection is lost. IP: Logged
alanabelle86 Knowflake Posts: 40 From: Somewhere over the rainbow Registered: May 2009	posted May 26, 2006 06:10 PM if someone cheated on me. i'd let them think i didnt know and that i was okay with it, but i would plot. and plot. and i may "forgive" but i will never forget and payback will be a ***** . and i'd probably never talk to them again afterwards. scorpio sun/leo moon/libra ascendant IP: Logged
sthenri unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 06:15 PM I have threatened a restraining order, the only time a peson has cheated on me was to threaten me, I am a hard person to truly hurt, so I consider it unforgivable to continuously beat the dead horse. Cheating, or using deception, is unforgivable to me because it requires a continuous ongoing confrontation, and uses another person. Other than that I am forgiving, Natasha Taurus/Cancer Moon IP: Logged
natasoula unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 06:36 PM Sun: Sagittarius Moon: Leo Ascendant: Pisces Simply put, I can always forgive, but never forget. I try to hold on to the one I love for as long as I can, even if they hurt me. Unfortunately, I get my heart broken by the same person time and time again because of that. It really takes A LOT before I give up on someone and tell them to get lost. I might need some time apart, during which I try to sort my thoughts and cut off all contact, but eventually I always go back to them. I always try to find excuses for their actions. But still, if they have hurt me, it would always be somewhere in the back of my mind. I can't erase things like that from my mind and find it really hard to trust them the way I used to. IP: Logged
Lauren unregistered	posted May 26, 2006 07:29 PM Sun: Aries Moon: Capricorn Asc: Gemini/Cancer I find it very hard to forgive someone who isn't sorry and has no understanding of what they're doing (or what they�ve done).. so they could easily go out there and hurt more people. That being said I've forgiven everyone and everything except for one person, who I really just can't forgive. But forgetting.. hmmm naw. I remember things well and I'm always more distrustful and cautious around someone who has hurt me, even if I have forgiven.. It's like that "once a liar/cheat/whatever else, always a ..." I don't think this is always true, but I'm not about to let my guard down and test it. IP: Logged

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