posted June 03, 2006 09:25 PM              

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Okay, they all say men are looking for their mothers, and women are looking for their fathers in the opposite sex...you think this is true? is it true for you guys?

thinking back to the people you dated, did you have the same sign as their mothers/fathers? or same aspects? moon? rising?

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posted June 03, 2006 09:44 PM              

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I think there is some truth to this.

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posted June 04, 2006 12:42 AM              

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what about the people like me who have really messed up relationships with their parents and suspect they were adopted?

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posted June 04, 2006 01:08 AM            

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I've never met my father before, and I seriously doubt that I'm looking for my mother in a guy.

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posted June 04, 2006 05:10 AM            

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I noticed in some men that this is very true.

Actually, one friend of mine told me, that his mother is his example of what the woman should be like (smart, ambitious, gorgeous, good mother, wife, friend and perfect marriage), and he is looking for the same kind of person. No wonder he can't find anyone, as it is not easy to find a person with all these qualities.
I think that subconciously people are attracted to others who remind them of some facet of their parents. This is not on a concious level, they may not be aware of it, but it is not surprising, cosidering that, mothers in particular, are our first (and sometimes longest) experience of womanhood. Perhaps not the exact replica of them, but certain facets that remind them of their mother/father. Especially if they had good relationship with them.
I don't know for sure, but I think there is some truth in it...

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posted June 04, 2006 05:10 AM            

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Why is my computer double posting!!!! Sorry guys

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posted June 04, 2006 09:59 AM            

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I dunno... not in my experience..
though of course, you generally like people who attempt to understand you....
My father and I are quite alike, so technically, it could be that I am after 'myself' ( Though I don't truly think that)
My husbands' chart is so not like either of my parents...
But well..... Both he and I have a Capricorn Moon, and my mom is a cappy sun/scorpio moon.... my dad a scorpio sun, double libra(rising/moon).
Not for me.. though on a psychological level, it is relevent... astrologically? Not always so cut and dried, I expect.

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posted June 04, 2006 09:59 AM              

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I am definitely looking for a parent figure... ever since early 20s I find myself attracted to men a lot older than me. While my family was fine by any common standards being an older child I was treated more like a grown up. My parents, both have moon in Virgo and my ex, who was 15 years older than me btw, has Virgo sun. In prior significant relationship my BF had the same sun sign as my parents, Taurus.

As for being seeing as a mother figure, for some reason it's a biggest turn off for me. I'll drop any man like a hot potato at any slightest hint of that even as a joke.

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posted June 04, 2006 11:34 AM              

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I hope not! The only father I've known is My stepfather, and he has...his issues. Mood changes, verbal abuse, mockery, racist tendencies, untrustworthy, mood swings, slightly depressed, etc. I really hope I won't be looking for a man like him! I know that at the moment, I kind of like this one guy named Joe at school. He's nothing like my dad...I hope. Maybe.

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posted June 04, 2006 12:42 PM              

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It is my understanding that not having enough parental love and attention from either side might make a person try to compensate it by finding someone having the qualities that the parent lack, looking for an "ideal parent" per se, someone who is quite the opposite to the real one.

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posted June 04, 2006 12:50 PM            

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I also hope this isn't the case for me. My father and I are alike just like in Pixie's case. We have the same sun(cancer) and the same moon(virgo). Shoot, our birthdays are 3 days apart. I can understand maybe facets, but I don't want someone exactly like my father

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posted June 04, 2006 01:31 PM            

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I don't have an answer for this. I think if I dated someone like my mom it wouldn't work out. My mom's a Leo, and is very confident that she both knows me and knows what's good for me. I don't find either to be true.

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posted June 05, 2006 06:44 PM            

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I think this is true to a more minor extent than some physiologists would tout. My father was a Leo sun, and he wasn’t a very nice person at all. He was manipulative, controlling, verbally abusive, volatile, and experienced severe mood swings. I’m definitely NOT looking for that in a man, nor have I ever dated anyone that reminded me of my father (thus far I’ve dated a Pisces, a Virgo, a Sag, and currently a Cancer). None of my boyfriends were manipulative, controlling, or prone to volatile mood swings. However, I do find that I’m incredibly attracted to strong, self sufficient men that are handy and adventurous. I think I grew up thinking that a real man was the kind of person that wasn’t afraid to get his hands dirty working on things. I have a soft spot for men with blue color / farm values (even if they work in an office and have never even been on a farm). These are all traits my father had.

I think in our early years we define what it means to be a man or woman by observing our parents. I think as we grow up, if we pay attention, we learn to separate the good from the bad. I quickly learned to dislike my fathers manipulative and controlling tendencies, and even the slightest whiff of something like that in a potential mate sends me running for the hills. However, I did admire my father’s ability to fix just about anything. He’d never call a contractor to do work – he’d hunker down and figure out how to do it himself. My current boyfriend is just like that – and I LOVE it. To me it feels like I’m dating a real “man.”

So I don’t think most people are looking for replicas of their mother or father. Perhaps those that have unresolved issues with either parental figure might find themselves drawn to those with similar personalities, as a means of working out their own inner turmoil. But in general I think we are attracted to people that have elements of our parents in them. We just choose what elements those are though. If we’re smart and well developed souls, we’ll search for men and women that possess the admirable traits of our parents.

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posted June 05, 2006 06:52 PM            

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"My father was a Leo sun, and he wasn’t a very nice person at all. He was manipulative, controlling, verbally abusive, volatile, and experienced severe mood swings."

Isolaede, that was my father too and he was a cancer with lots of leo in his chart.

"I think in our early years we define what it means to be a man or woman by observing our parents. I think as we grow up, if we pay attention, we learn to separate the good from the bad."

This I also agree with. I do tend to be drawn to people who exhibit my father's good traits, like my current bf.

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posted June 05, 2006 07:19 PM              

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I bloody hope not...my dad dragged my mum all over the place while being overly possessive. I don’t have anything against him, just wish he was less…him.

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posted June 05, 2006 11:19 PM            

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Oh my dear God, I certainly hope not. My father is a jerk. :|
He was a Cancer... generally speaking I don't like Cancers. He had a lot of Leo though, just like me.

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