posted June 06, 2006 08:03 AM              

2. What do you love doing? Or, what would you do if you had 20 billion dollars in the bank? Find out and start doing that.

3. Know that Isolation is an illusion ( and that MySpace sucks )
Also, it is tough to be a Piscean. As an immortal Soul with 1000s of lifelines existeing multidimensioanlly in Reality, to even think that you are isolated in a period of a maximum 60 year timeline of this life is utter nonsense and an insult to your intelligence.

4. Read Emerson's "Law of Compensation".

posted June 06, 2006 12:34 PM              

I have had the same problem as you for years. I too am a fish and like IQ said it is definately not easy. Everything looks so much better with our glasses on. But as you grow and change, you realize that the glasses do serve a purpose: It gives you a vision to reach for. Finding a way for our "illusions" to become our reality is difficult, but obtainable. The first thing you must do is TRUST YOURSELF, your judgement, your hopes, your wishes, and find a way to put some action behind them. Have confidence in your value and what you share with others.

It's hard believing that there is good when you are surrounded by so many negative things. But your own self-imposed isolation does nothing for your spiritual growth. You must embrace it.

Before I really got out into the world I felt exactly as you. I abhored the animosity and vulgarity of people in general and hated giving myself to anyone that didn't want something meaningful, as friendship, relationships, etc.

But once I was placed in a setting where I was forced to stand on my own feet, value my own independence, and trust my gut, I learned to filter things much easier. Seeing people that were deceptive and bitter was a thing I grew used to, but not happy about. I learned self-protection very quickly, while still being my typical dreamy self.

Don't rob yourself of happiness for fear of how everyone else is or acts. Not everyone is after sex, Myspace is just notorious for idiots. I've had to ward off quite a few myself. But in addition, I have also met some really great people with different perspectives and sincerity. Filtering things is the key.

Maybe find a way to place yourself in a setting that you feel more comfortable with. Volunteer your time at a local charity or food pantry, something for you to give part of yourself to others without being so vunerable. Slowly with time, your tendency to hide will fade, you just have to have a day in the sun to enjoy its warmth.

Good luck to you! Add me as a friend on myspace if you'd like. I promise I'm not after sex. LOL. Just remember you are not alone.
http://www.myspace.com/freak_24_seven (I'm not really a freak, my friend made this name up for me.)

posted June 06, 2006 02:00 PM            

Fellow Fish chick here. Spellbound and IQ have very good advice and I agree it is not easy being us and the rose colored glasses "technicolored lenses" as I call it is just our way of dealing with the ugliness of the world. I keep mine on and take them off for occasional cleaning!

I came to realize in my early 20's (am 44 now) that largely the negativity that I felt on a day to day basis was coming from negative people who I had come in contact with, even on a very transient level. As Spellbound said, you must learn to filter those lower energies and discriminate who you will let your into your energy space. Rid yourself of "toxic" people in your personal environment (friends, family), allow, (atleast until you are able to deal with and recognize what is going on)only uplifting people to enter your energy space.

And, learn to clear yourself of all negative energies picked up during the course of a day. I have to constantly remind myself that if I am feeling funky to figure out if it is me or something that this psychic sponge has drawn into me unconciously. Water in all forms is excellent for us. I sleep on a water bed, shower or bathe atleast twice daily, drink pure spring water, float and sit in my hottub frequently. I love the beach and frequent the Texas gulf coast as my spirit feels so free near the water.

For me LL and myspace is a goodthing. I can relate to other human beings without the unwanted emotions that others often cast our way and we pick up on and absorbe because that is what we do!

Sending Peace, Love and Light,

posted June 06, 2006 04:14 PM              

All good things said here. I had/have a hard time with wanting to isolate, being afraid of the 'real world'.

I posted a thread in FFA "Iqhunk What are Aura colors?" In that thread he gives a meditation outline to help with negitivity.

I am finding it useful, even though I only meditate once a day. I am starting to feel a little stronger.

Also water signs are very intuative. You can choose, for the most part, the people you have in your life. If they give me bad vibes I don't count them amoung the friends catagory. If you have no choice, like family gatherings, IQ covers that in the forementioned thread.

posted June 06, 2006 04:58 PM              

I agree on finding a hobby and stuff your interested in doing - gets you out and socializing some more.

I have done this back in April - started taking ballroom dance lessons and singing karaoke at a private club. I hope to embark upon some more new stuff.

All the best

posted June 06, 2006 10:03 PM            

Know yourself and you will know others. You can not love another until you love yourself.

But....herein lies the clincher....to know yourself you must first relate to others, experience relationships, learn, love and feel. God, The Source, whatever you may call the Divine Intelligence did not put us here with company for no reason!!!

Give yourself a break. Given your age, you have lots of experiencing to do out there/here! Go out, have fun! And most of all, follow your heart, there is where God speaks to you in that still, small voice.

Sending Peace, Love and Light,

Terri

posted June 07, 2006 04:20 AM              

I somehow got feelings for someone recently (didn’t have intimate conversation), however that again is going no where …

I think you go for an intimate relationship only if you are sure (damn sure) you are not going to get hurt. Always keep telling yourself that until the other person measures up to your standards in all respects, you shouldn’t give your full self. We Pisces are so full of emotions that we lower our standards and later on if something goes wrong way its we who get hurt (its our own emotions causing us hurt )

posted June 07, 2006 04:53 AM              

When you fall down, you dont need help from others to get up, you have to do so on your own. If you were pushed down, there will certainly be others to push you back up higher (corollary of the Law of Compensation)

How many Worlds do you know of that you feel sensitive about the ills of this world?

There 100s of civilizations in our own galaxy. 100s in the Astral Plane, eons ahead and evolved where there is only happiness and bliss. Trillions of souls are always happy. And they are so boring they stagnate for millenia.

Earth is the challenge. Earth is Asylum, Adrenalin and Aspirin all together. Here you cannot use any coloured lenses, only objectivity. Without the appalling conditions on Earth, the galaxy would never have evolved. Earth is Reality 101, to master the negatives and escape negativity.
You were not meant to make it a better place, just to try learning how you can make it better and experiencing the process of success/failure and emotions.

Accept the challenge and enjoy it. On Earth, if you Exist, then you have already won. Everything else is a bonus.

posted June 07, 2006 09:41 AM            

I like what you said, especially about not giving yourself fully until the other person "measures up", I give too much too soon time and time again always to a hurtful end. But I do not think that we should wait until we are sure we are not going to get hurt, I do not know if that is ever a realistic option. There is always a potential for hurt.

IQ

Wow, that is deep! I would have to agree with you, though! You truely have been to "the dark side of the moon," and back!

posted June 07, 2006 12:42 PM              

I've always believed in soulmates... and I can't help but keep dreaming that someone will take me away on a beautiful horse and ride off into the sunset, and there will be a happily ever after.... But I don't know anymore. I don't know if I can go out and look, if I can put myself out there without being hurt or disappointed. I just don't know. One of my friends told me I should try going onto match.com or something .... But how dangerous would that be for my well-being?
Life is such a challenge, especially lately, that I don't think I want to even try anymore. I'm so emotionally exhausted, I feel I should be out of tears to cry and yet they still seem to bubble up. I keep telling myself I'm ready to give up, but I'm a glutton for punishment and I get up just far enough to be pushed back down. I can't find it in me to stay on two feet anymore. What's worse is that I'm still so young, because I still have a whole lifetime of this to go! It seems like things never change, even when I try. Where's the point in living anymore?

posted June 07, 2006 02:13 PM              

You should not go to Match.com with this mentality. Try Shaadi.com where the percentage of decent guys is very high.

Why dont you describe in writing why Life is a challenge? Why should life be not worth it?

I have not breathed proper air for 4 months due to a major pollution problem in my area. I am sure the air aint that bad where you stay
Want to swap souls for a few days?

Life is ALWAYS worth it.

posted June 08, 2006 11:43 AM            

Sorry you are hurt at the moment, me too, but am letting it go.

I think all the pain and hurt is for learning, I think I would get bored with a relationship that was too easy. Pain in all forms, emotional, physical is for a reason, to be aware.

"Love" turned me on to a great book that I have taken much away from, 'Zen and the Art of Falling in Love.' Brenda Shoshanna PHD. I would recommend this book to anyone who is in love, wants to be or has been.

Sending Peace, Love and Light