posted June 13, 2006 05:39 AM              

Has anyone else gone through a similar experience?

posted June 13, 2006 07:44 AM              

I contain lots of emotions so from time to time is decluttering/cleaning time. These are my personal approaches.

For sadness/rejection feelings/nostalgia/grief...because I use rationalisation as a defence mechanism too often, I have to find someone else's feelings to release mine. So in my personal case and because I easily feel for others, I use movies. I always have close films such as Cat On A Hot Tin Roof and Bridges of Madison County, they touch sensible points for me and well, I cry and cry...unbelievable ritual...and then I feel like new.

When in need to laugh out loud, movie Groundhog Day works wonders for me.

For anger, well, being more assertive with my relationships (cos I wasnt in the past) helps me reduce mental angry activity overall, but if I need to be aggressive, I beat up my mattress with a pillow for at least five minutes, oh, that does feel good. Seeing some action movies can do sometimes...Dancing to energetic music releases physical and mental tensions too.

Sex is a another good outlet for grief, anger...but wont be giving any details here, hehe.

Writing, yes, definitely helps, either journal writing, articles, poetry...

Taking the initiative in certain occasions helps me deal with anger issues too.

Hope some of this was helpful.

Angie

posted June 13, 2006 07:46 AM            

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Has anyone else gone through a similar experience?

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yes

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What is a good way to release this?

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I work out in a gym

I read more books on spirituality/astrology etc

I spend as much time as I can with people I care about (and vice versa)

If I want to do something, I do it straight away without thinking too much

When someone hurts me or lets me down, I try to keep in mind that there are 6.5 bln people on Earth, so if someone does not love you they way you deserve it, there are LOADS of other people to do it!

posted June 13, 2006 11:15 AM              

yeah the trick is finding them....there can be a billion people you can connect with but i truly believe theres only 2-3 in this world that really can transform you to your core, and be a "soulmate"...

anyways, what i do when i feel like crap is work out i have a lot of energy, so when i dont have an outlet i go insane....

writing in a journal helps...maybe get a livejournal and write what youre feeling?

reading, go to a library you might meet a cute intelligent girl...you never know

traveling always clears my head...maybe go on a roadtrip on a train or bus if time permits it...

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"WHATEVER the soul longs for, WILL be attained by the spirit"

"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation"

posted June 13, 2006 11:24 AM            

Also one more thing write a letter to who you are bitter towards write down everything that he/she has done and how you feel about it how you feel about them. tell them and mean it that you forgive them for whatever it is they did..

posted June 13, 2006 03:53 PM            

swerve,

you know i feel you.

everything.

nothing.

posted June 13, 2006 10:40 PM            

I suggest the same as several above: write it down, then destroy it. I prefer fire. Burn it. Sue G may have some good suggestions.....

When I had a lot of bitterness, rage and hatred to release, I wrote. And wrote. And wrote. The effect is not immediate, but cartharsis does come. I am at peace now and my bitterness has been released. I also suggest you start programming yourself before you go to sleep -- ask for a dream (content is yours to personalize). Ask for the pain and anger to be released from your Cell Memory. And forgive. Do not forget, but forgive (easier said than done).....

posted June 14, 2006 02:57 AM            

I don't know if there's one thing that works to release bitterness. All of the suggestions are good ones, but ultimately you will find your own way to do it...maybe something written here will resonate with you?

I personally talk out loud to myself all the time to release stuff, but then I have my Mercury in Gemini.

Maybe you could just ask the universe to lead you to a way to help release it all. When I am truly frustrated, stumped and bewildered about something (as I have been lately as well) I usually ask the universe to help me out and then I try to forget I asked and go on with life ( while still paying attention to signs) until I get my answer.

posted June 14, 2006 02:01 PM            

Well, me being a fire sign.. I took all the crap he gave me and burned in a huge pot. Then I poured the ashes / water into a hole with Sage and buried the bast*rds memory LOL..

Now he's one of my best joke providing material. Seriously, I get more laughs out of my relationship to him than any other time. LOL...

Oh and here is a bit of sweet irony. After I burned all the stuff up, I had left the pot outside - my current love, Mr. Leo, actually washed it out and up for me

Still.. that isn't always the answer. It's hard when that lump comes to your throat and all disappointed rushes you.

posted June 14, 2006 02:24 PM            

I am more disappointed in my own choices through the years.. as I learned, and yes, you say/do some stupid things, and if someone came to me with these things, I'd tell them straight up..."But you learn from your experiences, and you can't learn until you grab the burning end of the stick, and then heal up.. " My problem lies in releasing it once i've used it up. Once I've healed, the scar is inside, reminding me, and I find it hard to forgive myself. No one else.
I can understand it/analyse it..yep. I can appreciate that things happen sometimes.. yep. I can forgive others for wrongs.. yep. But I never let myself do the same things I expect from others and give to others. It's like these standards that are impossible are the first thing in my head, my first response to myself.. a thousand negatives, with some positives leaking through.
It's tough.
I never really arrived at answers, because the one that feels right.. in theory, is never executed properly or completely inside.
I guess they're like a marking post, to check your progress and fill you with feelings that sting so you don't do that thing again.
Mine are silly.. I don't truly forgive myself for things I did when I was a kid, or learning something...invariably, you make mistakes, some on a grander scale. Those make up the fabric of your life, those and all the good, understanding things. I don't really know how to let go. Like a paper I got the wrong answer on, even though it was a simple misunderstanding... let alone the impossibile dynamics of always harmonious inter-relations.
Try to let it go... as in don't beat yourself over what you'd forgive another for... but remember they are the landmarks of existence. To feel is to be, and to feel means you can be better than you were feeling.... reach higher and believe in yourself.

posted June 14, 2006 02:36 PM              

Thanks for so many wonderful responses. I might be started to take you lot for granted because I knew there would be a lot of wisdom when I came back to this post.

However, I have to tell you, I've been using this Emotional Freedom Technique of late, which is way of tapping acupuncture points and focusing on en emotional issue and it releases the charge and lets you approach the situation afresh and logically.

I'm not sure how it works - but it does!

Lovely jubbly. For anyone interested go to http://www.emofree.com/

Reiki for me next!!!

posted June 14, 2006 03:42 PM            

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I am more disappointed in my own choices through the years.. as I learned, and yes, you say/do some stupid things, and if someone came to me with these things, I'd tell them straight up..."But you learn from your experiences, and you can't learn until you grab the burning end of the stick, and then heal up.. " My problem lies in releasing it once i've used it up. Once I've healed, the scar is inside, reminding me, and I find it hard to forgive myself. No one else.
I can understand it/analyse it..yep. I can appreciate that things happen sometimes.. yep. I can forgive others for wrongs.. yep. But I never let myself do the same things I expect from others and give to others. It's like these standards that are impossible are the first thing in my head, my first response to myself.. a thousand negatives, with some positives leaking through.
It's tough.

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I don't really know how to let go. Like a paper I got the wrong answer on, even though it was a simple misunderstanding... let alone the impossibile dynamics of always harmonious inter-relations.

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posted June 15, 2006 08:19 AM              

Mystical - big x