posted July 02, 2006 03:15 PM              

Has anyone else had an experience like this? Do you think that love really does fade over time, or there are a number of factors that cause that person, or both people, to lose feelings for each other over time?

I am a hopeless romantic (neptune conjunct ascendant, venus sextile neptune ), and it breaks my heart to think that someone you were once so in love with, could slowly become not so important in your life anymore.

I guess my question is, can two people, at a point, just STOP loving each other? Why do you think it happens? Do you think TRUE LOVE can really last forever?

posted July 02, 2006 04:00 PM              

one day he just changed..and so did I..
we began living separate lives..something
was missing..we divorced in 98..
and this is when I truly began my search for me and my twin..
praying and calling my soul pieces back

true LOve forever..is two who are whole
7 for him..7 for me
14

MOvement and challenge from separation..SunSet!

posted July 02, 2006 04:22 PM              

There are always ways to love and if you are a romantic pursue another avenue because your life feeds of loving another.

There are also passions in life to chase, that can give you a better perception on love and life and show you more ways to love. Sports, or arts, or traveling in between love affairs.

Most people aren't that passionate, you'll find out in life, it's like they are not all there, don't worry though there are enough romantics!

Air men I find are particularly bad at keeping an attachment alive, or at least it's only 20% him.

Water men are very passionate and attached and can at least encourage you.

posted July 02, 2006 05:55 PM              

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They felt like they were more like friends who just lived together.

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I know how they feel exactly. I stayed with my Ex for ten years. From the 10 score point, I started 10 years ago with 10. Then it is something like this 10,9,8,7,6,7,6,7,6,7,6,4,3,2,1,0 When it ended at 0, it did not mean that I do not have love anymore. I have love but love change its type to friendship. That's it.

I think to have not only long-term, but long-lasting one, you have to start with, first and foremost, someone you are COMPATABLE with. So, you do not have to change much when you are together.

Secondly, someone you can talk openly after flight. Most of the couples that just hug each other after fight without discussing the root cause of the fight have very high chance to break up one day. If not, one of them have to "tolerate and tolerate”.

Third, do not trust the first-year love. Your physical body would create a hormone to make you crazy about the guy for 3 months to 12 months. When this hormone is gone from your body, you probably are not crazy anymore if you are not actually crazy by your heart. This is the research I read and I think it is true.

posted July 13, 2006 09:50 PM              

Surprised I'd answer to this? You should be cuz I'm the LAST person to know ... it's like "ahhh ... love ... it must be nice"

But sometimes I wonder if we love others in ways which are not overtly romantic. The love SHOULD always be there, and NOT die. Platonic love is just as powerful, and the perfect avenue for long-distance relationships.

I've HEARD that good marriages are a series of falling IN and falling OUT of love. Then they fall back IN, then back OUT. Like a circle. That's an exciting prospect, as it will help prove if you're with the right person, plus makes it more exciting, falling in love over and over ...

Time doesn't exist.

posted July 15, 2006 04:32 AM              

Only my thoughts

posted July 31, 2007 12:20 PM              

I think that as some others,theres lessons to learn with people,and when the lessons are learned,then,naturally they go into their own lifepath - but never forget each other.

posted July 31, 2007 05:12 PM              

For me it died because the guy didn't love me but I loved him. He used me and broke my heart to pieces.

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Love that dies was never love.
Love that dies you never had.

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I totally disagree with that. I know I felt true love even looking back after many years. It's really getting into philosophical terms what "true love" is and if it has to be great love on both sides to count or how long does it have to last to be considered "true" and so on.

I think people, esp romantic ones have a mistaken notion about love. I think love isn't an endless pit that doesn't depend on anything. It's BS to say that. People can kill love the same way they kill everything else.

Also, just because someone ends up being wrong for you and just because you acknowledge it (like I did even a few months after it ended) doesn't mean it wasn't "true love". Although I realized all that shortly after it ended, it took me years to really get over it and I have to say I haven't felt the same since towards anyone (I'm talking about now, 15 years after it ended).

posted July 31, 2007 05:28 PM              

Open up, listen to the universe, and the answer is obviously clear.

So....... how does it relate to the subject at discussion? I believe there are various reasons as why love can cease to exist. Mostly because of unwarranted expectations, lack of proper understanding...... what survives, what remains is unconditional love. The conditions - they change and enslave us.

posted August 01, 2007 12:57 AM            

One of my mom's friends was madly in love in with his wife when they were newlyweds, but after ten 20 years, the love just died. He didn't treat her right and took her for granted.

posted August 01, 2007 01:47 AM            

I used to be really terrified of love ending. That expression "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all" seemed like such bs to me. But I no longer feel that way. Yes, the idea that love can "end" brings insecurity and anxiety, but I think the realization that everything lives in its moment and there really are no guarantees also brings a much deeper appreciation of the moment. I think we can love our deepest when we don't take it for granted, and knowing that love is vulnerable to time gives us that necessary push to really value what we have when we have it. Get it while it's hot.

But like I said, I don't think true love ends. It just changes. I've been in love 3 times in my life. I'm with the third one right now, but I definitely do still love the other two. But it's not the kind of love where I need to share my life with them. I love them deeply though. I wish all the best for them and would be there for them if they ever needed me. It's more of an unconditional love, the kind we should probably feel for all people, not just those we once shared a romantic love with.

posted August 01, 2007 09:07 AM              

What you wrote really struck me. I hope you don't mind that i wrote a little something with your words

True Love