posted July 05, 2006 08:44 PM              

I am new to this whole connection thing that's shared between the Virgin and the Scorpion. However, now knowing this, it has made a lot of things make sense to me about a past encounter, but I still need your help...

I had a short and sweet romance with a first time Scorpio father about 2 1/2 years ago. At the time, he had both mom and child living with him as he was trying desperately to build a relationship and "family unit" from what began as sexual encounters between them. Nevertheless, I caught his eye...and his magnatism pulled me deep into his Scorpionic web.

To make a long story short, when Father's Day arrived that year, we had only been involved for about 2 months and knowing how much he loved being a dad, I sent him a text message saying "Happy Father's Day". Well I missed his return call later that day, but I could FEEL the big smile on his face and hear the elation in his voice on my voicemail telling me "thanks", as if the last thing he was expecting was to receive was a well wish for him to have a "Happy Father's Day" from an unrelated woman with whom he had no child with.

Nonetheless, our contact with one another would soon come to an end as several months later I ended up moving and changed my phone number. It left no real way for him contact me (except my job--which I felt that he would never do), and I thought it was for the best because of the strong attachment that I knew he had for her and his child, as well as the tremendous need that he felt to try to make their family work. Plus it seemed to me that I had become the other woman who was always on HIS time and always waiting for HIM to CHOOSE to call me (control). With that being said...I still have not forgotten about him and my feelings today are just as strong as they were the last time I saw him. As a matter of fact, without any real closure on our romance, I feel that some where deep inside of him that he may feel the same way too...and that I have NOT heard the last of him...or him of me.

Speaking of which, this past Father's Day I was tempted to send him a Father's Day card...unsigned and with no return address (just in case he's attached and they're living together). Now with him being a Scorpio and the intuitive person that he is and never forgetting a good deed, I felt that he would instantly know that the card had to have come from me (commemorating the day and the special moment we shared),however, I never sent it...

1) Because I'm not sure, but I am almost certain that the child and mom no longer lives WITH him, although that doesn't mean that they aren't still trying to be together.

2) If they are not together, he's probably taking it pretty hard and wants nothing more but HIS family back...living in HIS house with him...under HIS care and watchful eye...and under HIS control. And lastly, I did not send it because...

3)I didn't want to violate his personal space by knowing his mailing address to send the card to his home. Although I DO know where he lives because he invited me over twice while she was away (he REALLY trusted me).

Either way, I never sent the Father's Day card to him and other holidays coming. What are your thoughts on this method of contact?

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Tanae'

posted July 06, 2006 05:51 AM              

And if he is with her, put yourself in her shoes....would you like another woman coming on to yer man.

Of course he could lie to you....thats the risk I suppose.

I have had affairs in the past, but I was always the married one...and then walked away from the marriage for the other person....but I would be very slow to get involved with another woman's man,

Hope this doesnt sting too much...I am a Scorpio woman, my hubbie is Virgo...

posted July 06, 2006 02:29 PM            

I am a Virgo who knows first hand the connection.. I've been all tangled up in that Web
I think the gesture the first time was sweet. and yes, he would know who it was from. I do believe you will run across each other again someday and you surely cross his mind.. Most Scorpios I know do not clean out the closet very often.. They often do not let go. But.. you are right, he will choose his family.. and wouldn't you want him to?

I can't help but believe that if it was over between the mother and he wanted to try with you that he would find you.. Scorpios are willing to wait a long time for what they want.
Sending a card for a different occasion would not be the same effect with no return info.
I agree with Sue. At this point, if you really want to contact him you'll have to do it with full disclosure and make certain he does the same

posted July 06, 2006 07:03 PM              

You know, I REALLY felt like I was putting the shoe on the other foot by severing ties with him and moving on. I wanted what HE wanted too, and if that meant trying to make his family work, then that's what I wanted him to do, WHOLEHEARTEDLY. Plus, I didn't want to be forever associated as a contributing factor as to why it didn't work out and have him subconciously holding a grudge against me because I remind him of that difficult time and period in his life.

At the end of the day, I know that by him being a new young dad (I'm six years older) and all, both she and the child do have a hold on him...and they should. Nevertheless, I also know that there is some unfinished business between us, as Linda states regarding the 3-11 (Virgo/Scorpio) Sun Sign Pattern..."Even when the association seems to be a closed chapter, it reappears months or years later, to be resumed once more."

Most sincerest,

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Tanae'

posted July 06, 2006 07:28 PM              

But, it was different because I found out about her on my own, and held the door open for him. Actually, I pushed him through it and slammed it behind him.

Because of that experience, of being on the other end of the "other women" scenario, I vowed to never dabble with another woman's man, especially when kids are involved.

You did the right thing. If you two have unfinished karma to work out, know that you WILL work it out eventually. It may not even be in the this lifetime, but you will work it out at some point.

posted July 07, 2006 12:20 PM            

This is true.. I've had one reappear here and there for going on 18 years..
and it's still unfinished..We've never even had a date. Pluto/ venus Conjunct/ sextile Sun...
But we go on...and hold on to all the joy we can find...

lioneye..
I have been in those shoes too.
To inflict what i have endured is just not possible...
Your posts always make me feel better in a healing kind of way..

posted July 15, 2006 11:15 AM              

Tanae -

This thread seems so empty and void of any heart, and I'm thinking it's cuz you are much too detached from your OWN dammn feelings! I mean that in the best way possible, as Virgo energies are like a pliable comfort zone for their said love interest, sometimes at their own expense.

I knew a Virgo dude who got TAKEN by his Scorp bride, and he literally just let it happen. He became that much obsessed.

You may be trying to overcompensate your detachment from your feelings by "becoming one" with HIS feelings instead. That's not the same thing, you know ... and trust me, he does NOT have your best interest in mind over his own and ESPECIALLY his family.

I'm not judging where all that may be coming from, but HELLO LOGICAL VIRGO ??? How DID you

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FEEL the big smile on his face and hear the elation in his voice on my voicemail telling me "thanks", as if the last thing he was expecting was to receive was a well wish for him to have a "Happy Father's Day" from an unrelated woman with whom he had no child with.

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???? you felt ALL this through a Text message ?????

Here's your assignment. Read up on your sister Pisces. She's your Opposite, yet, you are both so prone to romantic haziness. PLUS you are both Mutable's. How did THAT happen?