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GeminiLover75
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posted July 08, 2006 05:51 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I used to have a very firey attitude, I was motivated and had goals... then when my Saturn Return hit just over a year ago I found myself floundering... and what upset me last night is when Mr Gemini said, "you don't have the Sagittarian fire that you should". (Sag is my ascendant). And I realised it's like my fire has "gone out". I feel like I'm just trying to get by day to day, doing my job which I'm not hugely excited by but it's my best option for now for paying off my debts... and in fact I don't see a way out of my situation except to stick with it in my Taurean way until I've done what I have to do. But with things being so slow-moving (which I can't stand), and me feeling like I'm stuck in a situation for now, I'm at a loss as to how to regain my lost "fire"... Any thoughts?

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lioneye68
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posted July 08, 2006 07:22 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hmm. I know of what you speak.

It could be several things

Saturn does make one less spunky and spontaneous, more reserved and cautious.

Maturity, and the realization that long range goals require long term efforts (Saturn returns bring that realization to the forefront)

You may be bored with your job, bored with your life, bored with your self. Bored with your relationship? Probably not, but I thought I'd throw that on the table for consideration anyway.

How to remedy...

Find comedy in life

Start a project that exites you. I don't know you or what you're into, but one that works for me...I go looking at show-homes, and try to pin point what style of home I adore the most. This is free! I love to look at houses & the decorating is superb too. This always inspires me to "push onward", working toward owning my own home again. Or, it inspires me to redecorate, which is refreshing & fun too.

Go to the Love Shop with your sweetie. Laugh about the toys & other apparatuses. Buy or rent a kinky movie. Maybe buy a new toy there. Don't know what your sex life is like, if it supports this kind of thing, but it's fun to do if you two are open that way.


Get out of town. Plan a get-away, even if just a weekend camping trip. Don't forget the new toy.

Bake a cake.

Volunteer at the homeless shelter

Go shoe shopping.

Take a new car for a test drive.

Join a yoga class.

Just do something new, different.

Start a project you can really get behind. Saturn returns are great times to do this.

Good luck. Keep us posted.

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pixelpixie
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posted July 08, 2006 07:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Nice suggestions!

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Kamilla
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posted July 08, 2006 07:48 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I like this list too :. Everything sounds like fun. I would just add one thing - may be you can consider adopting a pet? There are so many animals in the shelters and it's really amazing what a difference a little fuzzy creature can make in your life.

In fact, I just dug out a very convincing info

Woman's Best Friend

If you want someone who will do anything to please you, get a dog.

If you want someone who will bring you the newspaper without tearing through it first for the sports page, get a dog.

If you want someone who'll make a total fool of himself because he's so glad to see you, get a dog.

If you want someone who eats whatever you put in front of him and never says his mother made it better, get a dog.

If you want someone who's always eager to go out any time you ask and anywhere you want to go, get a dog.

If you want someone who can scare away burglars without waving a lethal weapon around, endangering you and all the neighbors, get a dog.

If you want someone who never touches the remote, couldn't care less about Monday Night Football, and watches dramatic movies with you as long as you want, get a dog.

If you want someone who'll be content just to snuggle up and keep you warm in bed, and who you can kick out of bed if he slobbers and snores, get a dog.

If you want someone who never criticizes anything you do, doesn't care how good or bad you look, acts as though every word you say is worth hearing, never complains, and loves you unconditionally all the time, get a dog!

On the other hand... If you want someone who never comes when you call him, totally ignores you when you walk in the room, leaves hair all over the place, walks all over you, prowls around all night and comes home only to eat and sleep all day, and acts as though you are there only to see that HE's happy...

Get a CAT!


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lioneye68
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posted July 08, 2006 07:58 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
funny, Kamilla

One of my favorite things...get a bottle of good wine, some strawberries, a vanilla candle, a nice fluffy blanket, and a porno movie...and have a nice sex picnic on your living room floor.

Good clean fun, kids.

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Kamilla
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posted July 08, 2006 11:07 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mmmmm.............I could go for it right now I just don't know if I can find someone willing to participate on such short note...

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GeminiLover75
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posted July 09, 2006 01:34 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
OMG, such good suggestions!

And yes, I'm definitely bored with myself and my job... hoping getting my hair done soon (yes there's some Leo there in my chart! ) will perk me up. I'm a person who despite being a fixed earth sign, needs adventure and to keep things moving, so getting away on short breaks does help... but then I come back home and everything is the same. Lack of money to do things because Saturn is making me do the 'mature' thing and pay my bills and my debts, leaves me with not much money left over for the sensual and aesthetic pleasures the Taurus in me loves so much... I've never been an OVER-indulger in those things but having to exist so spartanly kind of depresses me I think. And like today, Mr Gemini is coming up with exciting plans for the future that I would normally love, but wait a minute, these things cost money and I have no choice right now but to learn the lessons that Saturn is forcing on me. And it makes me feel boring. It's like I'm struggling between maturity and still wanting to be my old self but it's not coming to me easily. The Sag ascendant, Jupiter in Aries and Leo midheaven have all served me so well in life... I recognised early on (without knowing the astrological reasons) that "fire" is how I need to be to get ahead and to really enjoy my life, and it's just weird to feel like the spark isn't really there in me.

Maybe I do need more sex. In fact, another part of this is that I haven't really felt like having sex much. I've been tired, overworked, and it's just not 'sparking' for me... which for my Taurean self is quite out of character. And it's not as if I don't find Mr Gemini to be amazingly sexy, it's just another area where my fire is lacking... Do you think it could be that I'm vaguely depressed by all this Saturn Return stuff that I have to go through?

The last time we went to the adult shop we got in argument with the guy there because we left and then came back in without realising he had put the 'closed' sign up... he was so uptight about it! So we went to the other shop down the road and found a suitable DVD there instead. Plus some of the scenes were so tacky we had lots to laugh about for days afterwards!

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GeminiLover75
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posted July 09, 2006 01:59 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh and you're right... a project is something I need. I was always into planning things and seeing them through, but I just haven't done that in such a long time... it's like I don't have any long-term goals anymore aside from just paying those debts. I think I need to focus on something that I can achieve in the future...

It was just upsetting to hear it from someone else that I don't have any fire... I felt like crap about it, because it's always been such a big part of me. I told him that today and started crying. (It doesn't help that I'm hormonal right now and also my dog has cancer and might not be alive much longer... it's like, how many more things have to go wrong for me?)

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