posted July 11, 2006 02:28 AM            

I'm a Cap Sun with three Sag placements and an Aqua MC, and honestly I've always preferred distance relationships. It's easier for me to manage.

posted July 11, 2006 11:31 AM              

I have Sun in Sag as well as four other planets.. so I hear ya in that respect.

I guess the only thing that bothers me is if I'm dating a more clingy sign long-distance it's almost more annoying than being close in proximity. This is because they want you to call them every single day, talk for hours, etc.. sometimes I just want a break but I find they get more paranoid if you do that long-distance..

But yes, I hate being smothered in a relationship! Makes me run very quickly..

posted July 11, 2006 01:15 PM              

For me...

-merc/venus/uranus/neptune all in sag

-sun and pluto in 9th house (sun interpreted as 10 but I feel 9 is better)

-venus and uranus in house 11

-jupiter in capricon house 12

her:

-uranus in sag house 5

-jupiter in aquarius house 7

-mars in house 11

-mercury and venus in house 9

for us (composite):

-sun, mercury and venus in aquarius

-uranus in sag

-mars in house 11

-jupiter and neptune in house 9

-jupiter in cap

-Medium Coeli in aquarius.

posted July 11, 2006 01:32 PM              

My hubbie has a 9th house stellium and Moon in Aqua as well as Saggie rising....he needs LOTS of distance.

I have lots of 7th house stuff, 5 Scorpio placements and 2 Taurus placements....I dont need a lot of distance in a relationship...

I am more hands on A LOT !!!!....

Do many people here have those types of relationships and if so do they work for you, or not?

posted July 11, 2006 08:32 PM            

If the relationship is weak - then the distance will only break them apart sooner.

My ex- Taurus had to go to school in MO for 2.5 months while I stayed in Arizona. I couldn't wait for him to leave and hated when he came back (I ended up leaving a few months after). The relationship was weak.

I then met and fell in love with Mr. Leo. He had to go back to Germany for 3 months. We talked every day, e-mailed, sent texts and two weeks ago we got married. He is now back in Germany and will be coming home in August (if all goes well) or we'll have to wait until December. He may end up being stationed there until 12/08 if our luck doesn't hold out. Then again, Sag and Leo are unusually lucky, so I am optimistic

We still talk every day, e-mail, IM on our Army account and text. I am still here in Arizona but my heart is with him and his is with me

It works because we both know there is no one better out there for us. We know that we have found our soulmate / twinsoul / heart-song... or simply put "love-bug" LOL...

We have no choice but to wait, because it's a part of life that we must go through before we can be together.

When two people are not secure in the relationship or when the communication dwindles to nothing more than a quick "hey, love ya gotta run" - well, it won't work. Humans need that communication, love and knowledge that the other person loves and misses them.

When we are together - we can't keep our hands off each other, even when we sleep. It's not a clingy thing- it's a "I am so happy we are physically together" thing.

But, distance isn't for everyone. Some people simply CANNOT be without physical contact from another person. Cheating doesn't really translate as cheating because they HAVE to have that touch connection. Maybe touch to them is like the need for communication for people like Bear and I?

posted July 11, 2006 09:27 PM              

Me:
sun: cancer
moon: aries
anything in house 7 - which is in Capricorn

What the heck does it mean???

Oh, him...the only thing I know is that he is a sag....

posted July 11, 2006 10:31 PM              

"I guess the only thing that bothers me is if I'm dating a more clingy sign long-distance it's almost more annoying than being close in proximity. This is because they want you to call them every single day, talk for hours, etc.. sometimes I just want a break but I find they get more paranoid if you do that long-distance.."

That is so true...

posted July 12, 2006 12:35 AM              

It's not as significant if someone doesn't live in your city, so that's why there's a "break". That lack of significance can mean many things but it's still not something to tie up the future for.

Of course if you get married it's different but most long distance things never end up that way because face it if you wanted long term you'd pick someone available.

I'd be more optimistic, but in Pidua's and Bear's case they were looking for long term in the first place-when the relationship is not expected, that's when it dissolves.

Anyway I have talked to so many in long distance things, and always there is one who says, it was too much trouble "reminding" the other to be in communication. That's not really nagging it's saying, hello I exist, why else did you pick me up?

To me a relationship, a romantic one is basically about companionship.

Most romantics, who classify themselves that way, have been burned by long distance; It's so easy to play people that way.

I've got a Sag ascendant and Mars too-
I do date in another city but I am honest about being serious.

As in I don't lie and say I am avaiable by phone 24/7 and can meet up every weekend.

So many over commit and it comes off dishonest and cheesy.

As long as there is realism, nobody gets hurt, but its' too easy to lie a bit when there is a distance and I need honesty.

posted July 12, 2006 04:32 AM              

I have talked to many people who have made distance work (including a brother). But I am not naive, there are times it does not work. I do not use personal experience to say for sure if it does work or it does not work.

No one plans to have a long distance relationship. It is an obstacle brought upon them and something they must over come. Every couple has a barrier they must face. distance is one.

Using marriage as an example is a poor one. After all 50% of them fail. You are as likely to survive distance as an unmarried couple as you are a married one. you have no excuse to say with certinity that unmarried distance couples will not suceed for the simple fact that they are not married. Or they will fail for the simple fact that the distance was unplanned. Distance is always unplanned. doesn't mean it can not work.

also, a person can burn you just as easily living in the same town as they can 2000 miles. getting burned has nothing to do with distance.

posted July 15, 2006 09:32 PM              

I'm comfortable believing that we all have a breaking point when it comes to stereotypical detachment. It may be just as important to question to know what that breaking point is, perhaps understand it, nurture it ...

It depends on so much. For some Libra's, mental games like that are a frivolous hobby. But for more Fixed and grounded Libra's, idle chat is boring even as a prospect. I'll take on a possible genuine relationship even if it's long distance, but I may get my answer a little more on the quicker side.

Sometimes they are distant only temporarily ...