posted July 17, 2006 09:42 AM              

Yes to the second question as well. I think it's easier for some than others, but I have very little trouble getting the friendship back after crossing that line. It's usually the other person who is uncomfortable.

posted July 17, 2006 11:00 AM              

If underneath the physical attraction there is genuine respect between both people than I think it is possible to go back to a platonic relationship. Although, depending on how strong the attraction is, perhaps there may be something that has shifted in the dynamic between them. Admitting a previously unknown truth can make or break a relationship especially when it is mutual.

There have been times when I have questioned whether I am attracted to some of my friends and I agree with shirty- liking someone as a whole includes their physical state and it is the first thing we notice after all. Although saying that, doesn't mean you can't be friends with people you aren't physically attracted to - it just might be a sub-conscious addition to whatever reason you are drawn to them.

posted July 19, 2006 05:13 AM            

I agree with shirty and pisces_girl. But it's odd as I suddenly became so very attracted to this Aquarian guy (and I've got sun in Aqua in my 4th house and my Mercury in Aqua in my 5th house, which probably did the trick), and I suppose he did appreciate my intelligence or whatever that generated my mind and my thinking once, or perhaps he still thinks I'm not a boring person, that he probably isn't truly repelled/appalled with/by me after all...well, I don't know the truth. But the point is we have maintained "platonic" because even if one of us wants the other so badly (maybe it's just me?), the right time has yet to come ( long story), so we have not crossed the line. But, in any event, I guess we both agree and understand that we should do what's best for our mutual benefits, even though that means going against what one really want from the other- for my part, my desires for him, one of which being sexual (but not "pure lust sex", rather, "sexual union that's also "emotional, intellectual and spiritual union"

posted July 19, 2006 02:03 PM              

We are now really good friends even to the point of going on holiday together last August cos neither of us was seeing anyone else.

If either of us does start to see someone new we keep a distance, out of respect for the other person involved and because we have a great deal of respect for one another. I feel we will always be best friends.

The physiacal attraction is still there but that is all.

We have slept together on the odd occasion but no emotional involvement.

He is Sag with Virgo Moon. I am Pisces with Sag Moon.