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Ingrid
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posted July 21, 2006 03:46 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi!
There is a while Iīve been visiting this site, I am not very colaborative, just keep asking, I am sorry If I didinīt help you enough, maybe I donīt deserve your help because of that, but I really need it now, please, help me, I donīt know what to do. I am getting mad, I am going through very bad relationship problems, my boyfriend is so dissapointed with me, he have been making sacrifices for me over the past two years, he even got sick because of his nerves, because all the problems I and the circumstances coused him, he left his jib, home, family, friends to be with me, He got a job very hard, he hates it, he is suffering a lot, I didnīt support him, I swear I wanted but when it comes to communication I just canīt express him my support I just kept getting mad at him for nothing, I loved him a lot but he doesnīt feel it, we moved together, we kept fighting because of communication and hard circumstances, yesterday was a nightmare, we fought worse than ever, I couldnīt sleep, he have immsomnia because of his unhappiness, he has been a week allmost without sleeping, he told me he didnīt beliebe we can fix it, he doesnīt believe my promises anymore,he left for the weekend alone, next week we would talk, I didnīt go to my office today, I canīt stop crying, He had a anxiety attack, me too. I donīt know If it is too late for me to do anything, I would do wahtever, but he said, time will say, I can do nothing right now.
I told him I donīt want to split up, but neither see him suffering, I told him to think and do the right thing for him, even if that is dumping me.
I am deseperate, my life doesnīt make any sense If he leaves, I love him, I want to help him, to make him belive in me again but I donīt know how, please, help, take a look to our charts, synastry, to give an opinion and a orientation, what can I do, Is there still something that I can do? give me some hope, please, tell me what can I do, I am getting mad, please help me, help me although maybe I donīt deserve it, I didnīt help him, neither the lindaland community, but I want to change, I swear, please,please, help
my chartA http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?nhor=1&nho2=1&btyp=2&mth=gw&hsy=&zod=&sday=21&smon=7&syr=2006&rs=&orbp=&cid=jsifileW4qkZr-u1153466329&lang=e&gm=a1&ast=
his chart O
http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?rs=&zod=&lang=e&ast=&gm=a1&orbp=&btyp=2&sday=21&syr=2006&mth=gw&cid=jsifileW4qkZr-u1153466329&hsy=&smon=7&nhor=3&go.x=17&go.y=9
SYNASTRY http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?btyp=61;mth=gw;hsy=;zod=;sday=21;smon=7;syr=2006;rs=;orbp=;lang=;gm=a1;ast=;cid=jsifileW4qkZr-u1153466329&nhor=1&nho2=3

Please anyone

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GeminiLover75
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posted July 21, 2006 04:09 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi there, I'm so sorry to hear about all your troubles. It must be terrible. I'm not very good at synastry, although I do see a lot of squares there... Can you run a composite chart and a progressed composite?

If you want to stay with your man, please openly communicate with him... communication is so important! I see that you have sun and mercury in Gemini, as well as moon in the 12th house, the same as my man... he sometimes doesn't communicate very well to me about his feelings... it seems like you might be the same - but this can be worked on!

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Divine Goddess
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posted July 21, 2006 04:11 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dear Ingrid

As someone who's just had one of the most terrible break ups ever, let me give you a nice comforting hug to help you feel better and know that i can understand your pain.

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I havent gone into a detailed sstudy of your charts, as you have chosen Placidian Houses, and i always use Equal Houses to analyze the chart.

However, since house systems dont affect aspects, i looked at your synastry, and found something disturbing.

You see, his Mars, conjuncts your Saturn. Sugar coated texts would tell you that its a long karmic bond and the two of you would require allot of patience to heal eachother. However, since i'm not at all the sugar coated type, and have a more blunt way of interpretations worse than Dr. Phil. I just have to say. Dump Him! It's not worth the heart ache. Whenever there's a conjunction or negative aspect between one person's Mars and the other's Saturn, nothing good has ever come out of that relationship. At first the attraction is strong, but then it leads to a deadly coldness, which in the worst case scenario (and i have seen this happen to couples with this combo) develop into sheer severe hatred, and even attempted murder.

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posted July 21, 2006 04:17 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hhmm ingrid, u know what when i read ur post, i thought...she sounds like a gem, so there u r...
i think first of all what u need is-relax, do some breathing exercises. dont make ur mind go into overload, that way no prob can be solved,it only gets worse...k?
yes u r right that there r communication problems with u two. i think the next time u r with him, try to jot down ur thought about him on a piece of paper n them show it to him, maybe u'll be able to communicate better.
ur bf is a very sensitive man, n it looks like he gives maximum importance to his spouse, more than anything else. so he cares for u....but he's got get something in return or he is sure to burn out....
i think u should try n make him see ur side aswell, bcos u keep hiding it so well he'll never realize how much u care.
plus i think u both should start doing yoga or reiki-these techniques relax u n destress u...trust me u'll notice the difference in a week....

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GeminiLover75
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posted July 21, 2006 04:18 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Her Mars and Venus look to be in opposition to his sun... is this also a bad aspect?

He is a Scorpio moon like me, so he has deep-running emotions...

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GeminiLover75
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posted July 21, 2006 04:22 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
In fact I'll give some advice from my point of view in my own relationship because there is a similarity with her sun/mercury/moon to my man, and a similarity with my moon and her man... we are emotional, we care a LOT... and as Scorpio moons in a relationship with Gemini sun/mercury/12th house moon, yes we DO need something in return ... communication about YOUR feelings! This is a problem I've encountered in my relationship but it's not an impossible one. Please try this to help you and your man...

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Ingrid
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posted July 21, 2006 04:36 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you all for your interest, I really appreciate that, thank you so much all
geminilover75, here goes the composite and composite progress, it is based in the midpoint method, do you prefer other one?
thank you again, finally came to my office, I canīt screw up my job also....
composiye http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?nhor=1&nho2=3&btyp=621&mth=gw&hsy=&zod=&sday=21&smon=7&syr=2006&rs=&orbp=&cid=tutfileVeaI21-u1145903242&lang=e&gm=a1&ast=
progress composite http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?nhor=1&nho2=3&btyp=6251&mth=gw&hsy=&zod=&sday=21&smon=7&syr=2006&rs=&orbp=&cid=tutfileVeaI21-u1145903242&lang=e&gm=a1&ast=

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Ingrid
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posted July 21, 2006 04:44 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you all again, Divine godess, I canīt find equal houses in astro.com, where can I find it? I will post it.
Sugar bunds, we started yoga some months ago, it worked well but these two past weeks we didnīt attend....

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Ingrid
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posted July 21, 2006 04:48 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sugar bunds, I did write him last week in our previous fight, I was very angry, but when I wrote him, a lot of good things came, I felt better, and he liked it, but yesterday, we did it again and he told me he didnīt believe my promises anymore, he is not going to read anything at least today....

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posted July 21, 2006 04:53 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
this thread is painful to look at....literally to my eyes...ill try to come back to this tomorrow when im not so tired....

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Miss Saturn
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posted July 21, 2006 10:18 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

This Cancer Moon in the 12th house is the major focus for your emotional problems as others have pointed out as well.

Your a sympathetic caring soul, but you can become uncomfortably needy of others. I think it would be best to put some space between you and your boyfriend for a while. You are going to make your self ill with this unhealthy relating.

You do have a caring ability this is an asset of yours but these needs and feelings of yours may be repressed. Emotional problems that you have are deeply rooted and hard to pin down. You are emotionally wounded or very sensitive or both. You are inclined to cut off from your feelings and anything to do with them. A lot of your being may get clouded or closed off from your conscious mind. This in turn can inhibit emotional relating and maybe some mental functions too.

At the same time you want emotional feeding. If you wish some of the weight be taken from this private cross you bear, you will have to own up to your feelings as painful as this may be.

All this emotional pain will have to be dealt with first before you will ever be able to relate in a happy relationship. It is in your best interest to look after yourself and your needs. You need to be aware of what is good for you and what is not, and this relationship seems to be deeply painful.

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posted July 21, 2006 10:45 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
We have to reach our lowest point sometimes to realize something is not working for us. I know your in pain and I can't even imagine what you may be feeling. You have to be positive, lift yourself out of this. Focus on the good things in your life. If you feel or care too much for what goes on around you this can incapacitate you. With such fragile emotions you need to nurture yourself. Look after your soul your well being pick yourself up sweetie, at the moment don't worry about what you are doing for others be there for yourself first.

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posted July 22, 2006 02:05 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ingrid,

I am sorry to hear your problems and wish you both the best. I use Placidus houses. One major challenge you two have is all of your boyfriend's planets are focused on the right side of the chart, so he focuses on "other". Most of your planets are on the left "self" side of your birth chart, so you focus on yourself. The result is he gives and you take. Unless there is a way for you to give to him he may eventually get tired of always being the giver.

Looking at your chart alone, you have no planets in Libra (relationships), so you do not have relationship energy. You have Taurus (physical, also desires) modifying Venus (relationships). Taurus relationships are about being "physical" and possessive about the things they desire. The challenge here is you also have Uranus (friends) opposite (energy is over-excited by) Venus, indicating you tend to want to be "friends": close but not TOO close. However, you have Saturn (duty, also structure) trine (energy goes very easily with) Venus, indicating you like structured relationships. The need for freedom and the need for structure in relationships may cause an alternating need between wanting friendship and wanting a deeper relationship. In addition, you have transiting (planets in the sky) Saturn conjuncting (energy is combined with) your Ascendant (self), so you may be feeling a STRONG need for structure personally...while you are still wanting to have a friend. It may be this personal stress which is wearing you out. You have no planets focused in the 7th house (relationships), so you do not focus on relationships for the sake of relationships.

He has several energies in Libra (relationships), so he has relationship energy. He also has Libra modifying Pluto (transformation, also control), so he may give up control in his relationships if he does not share control in the relatiosnhip. He has Venus conjunct Neptune (spirituality, also idealization), so he may idealize his relationships...expecting them to be something they are not. He does have energy focused in the 7th house so he focuses on relationships for the sake of relationships. Currently he has transiting Jupiter (expansion) conjuncting his Descendant (other), indicating he is expansive (perhaps in his expectations) about relationships at this time.

Looking at the chart of your relationship interactions, you have easy connections between your Moons and challenging connections between his Sun and your Moon. The aspects indicate a "connection" between you, but the differing types of aspects could cause an "on again, off again" energy in the relationship.

Looking at the interaction of the personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, and Mars), you have 5 challenges between you and 1 easy flow. This indicates that, although things could be exciting, it could cause tension.

More challenging is that there is only one connection to your Venus (including all the planets), indicating he could feel you do not "relate" to him. Similarly, there is only one connection to his Venus (including all the planets), indicating you could feel he does not "relate" to you. Similarly there is only one connection (stressful) to your Mercury (talking), indicating he may not feel his talking "connects" to you. His Pluto (transformation, also power) squares your Moon (emotions), so you may feel he overpowers your emotions.

I think things have gone beyond charts. The potential of the chart has turned into a very real life challenge. And the challenge is to do things for others. Maybe you are already doing this, but, if not...do something for him. Take him to dinner, buy him something special, make him feel like all the sacrifices have been worth it. Yelling at him and getting angry, even if you don't mean it isn't going to help the situation. Once you have eliminated the possibility of verbal communication...there is only non-verbal communication.

Relating,

Tim

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Ingrid
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posted July 24, 2006 04:22 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was out during the weekend, I went to the beach with some old girlfriends I donīt see very often, It was very healing to spend relaxing time and feeling the love of my friends. He was also spending time in the coast with family and friends. We came back home yesterday, everything was calmer and we even smiled several times.
Lets see what time says, as you all say there are a lot of challenges, I hope we could focus on what we have in common, try to be happier, whether together or not. I agree with the non-verbal communication by now.
It was also very nice to feel your interest and help, it was like a grip in a black hole (I hope this is inteligible in english!).
Thank you all of you, you are very kind and I am very grateful to you.

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posted July 25, 2006 04:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for D for Defiant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ingrid,

Sorry about replying to you so late. I haven't had sufficient time to study your charts, nevertheless I had a look at them. At the moment I just want to wish you best of luck (I'm a total stranger to synastry- I'm going to study it, though!) and some people's advice here sound really good. Love and Light to you and your love

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May not be able to get back to you...appreciate your say nevertheless...D

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sue g
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posted July 25, 2006 04:46 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Didnt look at charts, but wanted to send love and {{{{hugs}}}}} to you.

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Ingrid
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posted July 27, 2006 05:40 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for your good energy and love!
I wish you receive at least double of what you give.
Thanks!
Things are getting better!

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posted August 02, 2006 12:17 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wrote a whole long thing for you just now, and lost it ... so I gotta just sum up what I found for right now ...

You have explicit issues between you having to do with his perception of "you in the real world" and "you in HIS world". You have a strong healing theme in your Chart. So you heal him, but at the same time, he's the one providing the malaise in the first place. Very "heroic" on his part to make you feel like he's saving you from yourself.

You have a great capability for applying your healing strengths towards a full-on career. His anxiety ridden cluster of Planets in his 6th House is being constantly aggravated by your Pluto hovering right over it. This doesn't mean you are doing it on purpose, but that his personal perception is that you challenge him on a level he's not comfortable with.

HIS Pluto is right over your IC, or 4th House Cusp, which means that although you'd be really good at healing in the real world, he's going to make sure you are bound to him and your homefront FIRST. He may like to make you think that you need him the most, when in reality, he needs YOU the most.

In terms of the communication you have between you, I picture you maybe going through the motions with little discussion before, during, or after. He may not know where your boundaries are because you have trouble defining them yourself, you are so used to just DOING and taking care of things.

Finally, he may have a lot of anxiety within him which he has no REGULAR and productive outlet for. Bottled up energy he knows you'll be home just waiting to deal with. Does he appear to others to be a very "together" guy with a great relationship, sacrificing needed confrontation for an illusion he can present to the outside world?

If so, this is going to really trigger your valuable 10th House stuff even more.

Let me know.

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Ingrid
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posted August 03, 2006 08:33 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow Astrojunkie! Hard stuff
At first, thank you for your time and interest,
then I want to comment you post, but maybe I havenīt assimilate it yet...
I was very very surprised with your comments about my healing issues, I didn,t know I have healing strenghts and even less that it could be related with my desorientated career so far...I would have to think about it....
then, It is true I hate discussing about my emotions, although lately since I have this relationship I try to do it, but is exhausting, not always understandable and unconfortable...I intend to do it after the big fight but is not that easy altought I would work (I am actually now!)on it because i belive it is worth it....
I also totally agreed with the anxiety thing...it is very difficult for me to deal with it, because I absorb it and then I goes out again later in a bad way normally...
We donīt have much social live so I canīt tell how he appears... but I am quite worry with what you said about the 10 th house trigger ( maybe I have language problems....)because in this very moment I am very worry with it and the way it will turn in future, we are about to decide some changes that I am not sure If they are good for my career....could you explain this a bit, please, this is a important theme for me right now...
This is what comes to my mind now, maybe after readind it I will write you again, thanks again!

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astro junkie
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posted August 08, 2006 12:38 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Ingrid -

Yeah, I had written something a little longer with more explanation, but I lost the post and had to rewrite it - so I don't mind clarifying.

In your response, I still see that struggle you have with knowing yourself, knowing where you boundaries are, and being able to express them. This in NO way is to point out a "weakness" in your character or intellect. I'm relating to certain things I noticed in your Chart, which I had described in more detail before I lost my post. So I'll show you where I think I found these in your Chart.

In my original undeleted post, I started by saying first and foremost that your situation reminded me SOOOOO much of a particular situation I had which proved to be every bit as hellish as what you described. He had disturbing mother issues, and I felt his Moon in Virgo influenced this in him the most. Of course, knowing that doesn't make it any easier to know yourself, which is what you need to concentrate on - NOT HIM ...

So the very first thing I wanted to check was if your guy had any prominent Virgo/6th House influences, and tada!

This dude I speak of also had Scorpio & Sag influences, along with that Taurus Asc, and when I noticed those influences in your dude's Chart, I was immediately concerned for you. When you say "We donīt have much social live so I canīt tell how he appears..." -- well, it's all I can do to not jump through this computer screen to embrace you back to emotional safety. In a way, you answered my question about if he appears together to everyone else, especially co-workers.

Also worries me lots that you haven't been clued in on your healing abilities. VERY worried, which brings me back to my comment, "although you'd be really good at healing in the real world, he's going to make sure you are bound to him and your homefront FIRST".

This man has NO power over you. He treats you this way because YOU are the one with the power over HIM. Guys who are insecure like this USUALLY DO provide the malaise in the first place. Without him, you'll do better and he knows this. What he's doing in return IS NOT LOVE. Love is not making the other person sick so that you can appear to swoop in and save them. This is what's got you fooled right now. This is why you are so quick to look to yourself for blame, and he likes it that way.

There is no talking to someone like this, as in, telling him what I've said here, or trying to show him what I'm showing you. That would be like cutting off your arm and offering to BarBQ it for him to eat. STOP IT !!!!

Trust me when I tell you this, the work you need to do is on YOURSELF and NOT HIM. The work you need to do needs to be done without his knowing, and without you feeling guilty about it. The work you need to do learn more about yourself within the sanctity of your own space, a space you go to WITHOUT HIM. If you live together, this is going to be near impossible. And I'm going to be blunt (even though you might hate me for caring about you more), I have high hopes that in this process, you will get away from him, physically and emotionally.

Start one step at a time. I would suggest starting with you struggle defining your boundaries with other people in general, and again, NOT because you are weak in character or intellect, but because you simply have a blindspot created by your Chart. These are seemingly impossible or elusive goals at first, but there IS a better life after this.

The part I said about "I picture you maybe going through the motions with little discussion before, during, or after. He may not know where your boundaries are because you have trouble defining them yourself, you are so used to just DOING and taking care of things." -- does taking care of things for others without much forethought for yourself sound like a bad thing? I say NO, it's not a bad thing. What is bad is that others may take full advantage of this, so you need to protect yourself so you can do EVEN MORE for others, and NOT at the expense of your inner beauty.

Therefore I'd ask, why are you so used to just doing and taking care of things in a way which comes across as martyrdom? -- As in "a sacrifice or experience which causes intense suffering"? As in, "its positive pole is selflessness; its negative pole is mortification. It is caused by a fear of being unworthy." -- ??

Do you see my dilemma here?

PS: I'm going to stick my neck out and suggest that this type of guy tends to be a bitter martyr to their mother.

I've got to come back to this with you ...


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posted August 08, 2006 01:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Glaucus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't get it. Why is her boyfriend talked about as being the bad guy? This is a guy who made sacrifices for her over the past 2 years including leaving his job,home,family,and friends to be with her. Why does he seem like a terrible guy for wanting support from her. Relationship partners should be supportive of each other. If I was in a relationship and I was doing too much giving and receiving little, I would get out of the relationship myself. There is no talk about he's been asking to be helped and healed by her. She just said that he has anxiety and sleeping problems. He shouldn't be judged for that. People shouldn't be seen as the jerk because he's under stress and has doubts about where the relationship is going even if it is causing the woman stress and making her sick.

It seems like a lot of guys are automatically seen as the jerk and the only wrongdoer in the relationship. That's really messed up. Neither seem like they are in the wrong. They seemed to have problems in their relationship.

I also feel that people can read too much into charts. Like totally judge people's character and actions in the chart.
I remember a gal that I was talking to back in 1999 discussed my chart with her astrology class. They were expressing their concerns about my escapist tendencies because of my Pisces Moon square Neptune. The gal had the nerve to ask me if I drink,and I told her "No" which is the truth. She told me about discussing my chart with people in classroom. I was ****** . I don't smoke,drink,nor use drugs. That aspect is more about my Dyslexia,Dyspraxia for Neptune is in my 3rd house. I was deceptive in that I tried to pretend that I am a normal person and kept my special education past a secret.

Lets not read too much into stuff.


it's interesting that this guy is born exactly 10 yrs after me.

I have Virgo Ascendant along with Moon and Mars in 6th house. So what. Yeah...I can tend to be a worrier,perfectionist,and critical. I do have digestive system issues. I also overcompensate,but that's more due to my Dyslexia and Dyspraxia. Many learning disabled people compensate and hate avoid making mistakes to avoid coming across as stupid.

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posted August 08, 2006 01:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Glaucus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

few or no Venus aspects is not necessarily challenging nor does it mean that they cannot relate to the person. You have to see the overall comparison. Easy aspects involving the Moon and Ascendant can indicate easily relating to each other. It's not just Venus aspects. Midheaven aspects can be the same way too.

Some people have Venus aspects and they can't relate well to each other.


It really depends on the person.

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posted August 08, 2006 05:00 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh astrojunkie, you wonīt belive I wrote such a long post and it was deleted!!!!!!!!!!!!
so, as you did, i summarize, first, hi to you, glaucus and all, I appreciate your caring, and you interest but I was a bit shock with your post, donīt get me wrong I know you do this to try to help me with your best intention but It is surprising for me how he is so guilty of everything, I though maybe because you identify my situation with the one you know and thatīs why you blame hime of the whole situation...
However I agree with most of what you say, I have to work on knowing my boundaries with people, which I īve been doing lately...I have always kept my own space, although we live together, I have much time out than him, to spend alone and alone with my friends, he doesnīt, he just have work and me, I believe he also would need to spend time with himself alone....
Again, I should work with my expression,
I also agree in what you say about making feel bad the person is not love, and that the insecurity makes people act funny but i believe it is posible to work on it, isnīt it?
Actually what worries me more about what you say that about martyrdom....it is a big issue that I have, I had a sad love story, I split up after 5 years and it was very painful, he was so sad and I felt a failure, I felt so bad because I dinīt love him anymore as he expected that I had a depression and psycologist help, this is a really big issue for me, it gave me such a hard time, maybe it is because I live in a catholic country and I was educated with the catholic blame....hard stuff
Astrojunkie, I really apreciate your interest, you can believe it but I canīt belive he is so black an me so white...both of us suffer and I agree we should work on ourselves, altough we wonīt work as a couple we would grow individually, but maybe this can turn healthy, donīt worry that much about me, despite the desperation of that day, I try to take care of myself and I have such a good friends always there for me...
ah! I think I understood your answer about togetherness, he is not a together guy, actually he could be even distant, he doenīt have friends at work...
Thank you again everyone, we would go on holydays next week so I hope withouth the estress everything gets better or at least more clear.
love

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posted August 08, 2006 09:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Glaucus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

I am curious

what did you mean that he is so black and you are so white. Were you referring to disposition or was it having to do with skin color/ethnicity.


I am the offspring of an interracial couple. I am also in an interracial relationship too.

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posted August 08, 2006 11:45 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No, I was refering to disposition
It was an exageration just to explain!

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