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Topic: Divorced ,fighting , hoping :Any body
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jani_jean unregistered
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posted August 11, 2006 12:46 AM
Dear all, This is no story and its a real life incidnet and is still hasnt seen any light or end ...My own sister needs a change after all that turbulence turmoil and mental agony ..she was abandoned by her husband in 2004, he dint send her the visa to return to US , destroyed all her educational certificates, snatched away rather cheated us with all the valuables jewellery amounting to 25 lacs INR....abused her , humiliated her not alone but with full support of his mother .. it would be shocking for you all to know as it was for us that she is a parttime prostitute ***** though she works in an university as a socioloigy professor It was teh same for all my family and the past 2 years have been very disturbing like hell ...really tahst wat it was and still prolongs ..I and my family are trying to get over ..be normal and distracting ourselves. However its not easy at all infact its impossible to reamin at peace and be happy when my lovely innocent sister is suffereing ..she is a docile piscean simpleton u know.....Me and she are v attached and emotional , all teh more difficult to digest the fact taht she is missing and being deprived of many things in life and instead running over all kinds of courts. We have filed case for alimony , maintenance in the indian courts ...The courts here are so so snail paced and all the time adjourned for long period. The police are useless too eager only about the bribe they get..He is such a ba*tard he doesnt want to set her free legally by giving divorce ...they are willing to pay just 800 $ (approx 20000 Rs) only as price for damages ... atrocious isnt it..thsi si all a girl gets for having innocently married a man with parents approval, serving him wholeheartedly for 2 years , sleeping with him for his pleasure alone, tolerating all his isnults...????????? I really hope things get better for her ,me and my family . everything seem helpless and ive seriosuly lost faith in GOD and other religious beleifs.We are just waiting hoping fighting despeartely. The chart is in the link: http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?rs=3;btyp=w2gw&nhor=2 Her dob is 13 March 1978 Time of birth : 11.35 AM Place :Bangalore Country: India Future seems frightening for our family ...dad is ageing yet he is on his feet whol eday fighting for this seeing lawyers , cops and reading law books to find a point.. help please
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villy unregistered
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posted August 11, 2006 01:18 AM
Hey JJ,My prayers are with her and your family. There is no scarcity of such people in this world. I can just say Hang on. Her Moon Opp Uranus might explain her divorce. Its a passing phase of life and the bad phase would soon end. I think such moments are the ones where we look for strength through God, though our faith in him might be shaken. As our logical reasoning can't explain such instances and thats where God comes into the picture for support and understanding. Everything will be alright. Villy IP: Logged |
sthenri unregistered
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posted August 12, 2006 10:40 AM
I know this is not the culture in India, to forget, but your sister is well rid of that man! Get her the divorce and forget about the money. Once she is divorced she will be able to hold her head up again and feel good about herself. That will keep her of thinking of herself as married to him, it will be past.Try and get her to focus on the future and tell her he is in the past. Even if it means meeting new people (not romantically) but as friends. Your sister is drowning her sorrows and she needs people around her. The marriage is best forgotten because the man was insignificant. By fighting over the money you make him more important than her. I know it's different in the US but many women here fight for alimony too for years-it doesn't change how they feel about themselves. Women in the US are materialistic and not so interested in freedom-if they are not educated. Don't get walked on-but don't make it your life either. Pisces women make lots of friends easily but they need non romantic friends. If she's not making enough money, she needs another better job. Even in India women can sew, cook, and clean and make extra money that way. Money can always be found, it means being creative. Natasha Taurus/Cancer IP: Logged |
Kamilla unregistered
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posted August 12, 2006 11:35 AM
I did not get anything from my ex. To me, it well worth the fact that I don't have to communicate with him in any ways. Now, year and a half later, I am actually better off financially than he is. Of course, it's a struggle and I have spent many nights in tears over piles of bills trying to figure out which one to pay first. But at the end, it gives you sense of self-worth and conquers your fears like nothing else.IP: Logged |
Belage Knowflake Posts: 435 From: California Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 12, 2006 03:19 PM
I am sorry to hear about your sister. I am Pisces rising, so I understand Pisces.Pisces tend to have big heart and do not like to see evil in people. Even if someone is abusing them, they hold on to the idea that there is good in the abuser and that if they just bear the insults and abuse with dignity, eventually the abuser will be moved by their magnanimous spirit and will change for the better. Then, the real world hits them and Pisces falls into a vat of despair. One thing I wish I could tell your sister is that she needs to learn to stand up for herself. She has allowed someone to walk all over her. Now, she needs to cut her losses and learn from the lesson. I looked briefly at her chart. Things will be looking up for her as Jupiter in Scorpio will trine her sun in a few months, and will be also conjunct her Uranus. Rignt now, Pluto is opposite her natal Jupiter so things seem to be extreme, but this too shall pass. She has Venus and Mercury in Aries, so she can tap into that to stand up for herself and forge ahead in life. She'll be okay. IP: Logged |
ScorpioRising unregistered
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posted August 12, 2006 08:18 PM
Dear JJ-I am so sorry to hear about your sister. I am sending her white light and prayers. I come from an Indian background-so I understand. The best advice I think is for her get a divorce. Forget about the money-the damage done to her will be irreparable if you wait too long. Money can be made and lost just as easily. She needs to get out of this marriage and live with her head held high. PRAYERS ARE MIRACULOUS THINGS. PLEASE PRAY. I am glad she has a loving sister like you to support her. I have a younger sister and I can't explain the pain I would feel if anything happened to her. I wish you and your family ALL THE BEST. IP: Logged |
jani_jean unregistered
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posted August 13, 2006 10:32 PM
dear sweetys Verythankful for ur concern &advises She has nothing but hatred and spite for him..no longer thinks about him except cursing him..the thing is get teh divorce itself seems to be a herculean task..i ve heard so many divorces happening esp in developed countries like USA where they divorce by MUTUAL consent and part as freidns ..atleast behave decntly and civilised ...There the idea is to do away with eachotehr inprder to lead a happy life...her ethe idea seems to put her into utmost misery and trouble by not giving her divorce..H eisnt making any appearnecs in the courts and the judegement needs to be apssed Ex-parte . I perfectly udnerstand picesan behaviour ..its exactly like how you decsribed..she put up with his tortures in a magnanimous way hoping he will change and see her goodness.. Soemtiems i wonder why he never realsied that-is it becoz he isa SAGITARIAN and they are OPPOSITION???? yes we mentally prepared that we arent going to get teh money /valaubles back.. Giving up fighting would mean Wicked ppl like his motehr and he would be scottfree out to ruin so many innocent girls lives
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