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InLoveWithLife
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posted August 30, 2006 12:38 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi all,

I am caught up in a situation whr i dont know wht to do.
Well, being the Mars in Aquarius person that I am, i hv fallen yet again for a good friend. Now, the situation is like this. Whnever I hv fallen for a friend before, they hv kind of acted like scared bunnies and done the disappearing act. But this one doesn't. Either he hasnt guessed as yet (which seems unlikely....i blush soooo much sometimes !!) or he has and likes me back.
Now let me tell u a little about this guy. He is a cancerian, with mars in gemini. I am a capri with moon in gemini and cancer rising. and we get along like a house on fire! no one has ever made me laugh as much as he does. we talk on the phone almost daily. and these days i hv found tht he calls me/comes to see me with the silliest of excuses.
Now with my over-active imagination and tendency towards day-dreaming, this was enuf to convince me that he likes me. BUT, if i ever ask him out (i did once....not directly of course....said tht i wanted to treat him for some help he had given me) he says 'NO' pointblank. And he told me he is going to marry according to his parents wishes (we r both Indians ! )
Now what i dont understand is, wht am i supposed to do with the fluttering in my heart whn he comes to see me with those silly little excuses. i really like him, no one else has ever made me feel this way ! at the same time i dont want to make any moves, since he has already told me so clearly abt his future plans. my friends tell me to forget him and move on. and i tried to, but its difficult bcoz we r so close. we r taking classes together, and bump into each other almost every day.
And he is such a cutie too...so decent, sensitive, FUNNY, and just...cute!! i love to be with him, and he isnt exactly avoiding me either !

Sun, Venus- Capri
Cancer rising
Moon in Gemini

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InLoveWithLife
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posted August 30, 2006 12:57 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
An astrologer once told me that I am going to have an 'arranged' marriage...to those who dont knw wht tht is...we poor indians have a backup if we ca't find tht someone special ourselves- our parents r supposed to know who wud be the Mr/Ms Right and arrange our marriage!
I wonder how he told tht to me...using horary astrology i guess ?! Not sure though. Can anyone help me with this ?

My birth info: 16th January, 1981, 5:30 pm, Lucknow, India

When i look up my chart online, thr r two versions, one with cancer and the other with leo rising. i personally identify with the cancer asc version

I cud post the planetary data too i reqd. I hv tried looking at my chart, but ended up getting all confused

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Jan_A
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posted August 30, 2006 02:28 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
InLoveWithLife
If you like him, i don't see any reason for breaking off contacts with him.

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InLoveWithLife
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posted August 30, 2006 09:57 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I do like him a hell of a lot !

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The Virgin
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posted August 30, 2006 10:15 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi inlovewithlife, because he told you that he has no intention of hooking up with anyone that his parents have not approved of and he's not going out of his way to introduce you to them-I'm assuming since you haven't stated otherwise, yet he still spends time with you I would say, he enjoys your friendship but does not want to take it to another level and his way of telling you this without embarassing or hurting you is to bring up the arranged marriage. That's how I would take the situation if it were me.

If you can do it without being torn apart, you should just enjoy the friendship and look for someone who would like a romantic relationship with you.

Or if you can't adjust your feeling toward the level he apparently is comfortable with, I would be up front about it with him, and then end the friendship.

Now, this is just my impression of the situation as you've presented it, and I could be completly off. Just my input but in the end you have to do what you feel is right.

Take Care

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Sun Virgo, moon Pisces, Libra rising,mercury venus 12th house all conjunct, Mars Leo.

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InLoveWithLife
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posted August 30, 2006 08:07 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi The Virgin,
Your analysis is quite correct i think. except for the fact that he can't introduce me to his parents (they live in Oman). But the part about bringing up the arranged marriage as a polite hint is exactly wht i thought too. And since then I am making en effort to treat him just as a good friend, and not call him too often.

But, at the same time, i think there has recently come an awkwardness between us. Then thr is wht i call his 'weird' behaviour. He comes all the way to my lab to see me one day, and doesn't talk much to me the next day whn he sees me in a class we r taking together! i am perfectly comfortable being friends with him, except for these times whn my stomach ties itself up into knots.

And all this after telling me about the arranged marriage stuff. I really dont knw wht's going on in his mind at all.Ah well, whtever is meant to be will be!

Love

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