posted September 09, 2006 10:36 AM              

"Venus in Cancer or Pisces - he’d want a “sweet, soft, and warm” kinda gal" is what WaterNymph said in one of the other topics. And it brought up a thought that keeps crossing my mind. Do guys ever actually like those type of girls ? Cause I always get the impression that they'd prefer the "one of the boys" type of girl, or the girl that makes everyone laugh and is the center of attention, or something like that. Does anyone know what I mean ? Like, the "sweet, soft and warm" isn't what guys ever go for. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about though.

posted September 09, 2006 11:35 AM              

I got the quote from here http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/idealwomanforaman.html

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If a man's Venus is in Cancer, he may prefer women who come across as sweet, soft, and warm. He is not as inclined to go for women who are model-thin, tomboy-ish, or for the high-profile career type. He often is attracted to more traditionally feminine looks, simply dressed (not gaudy or flashy). Understated but feminine summer dresses, accentuated breasts (natural, not "enhanced"), an aura of innocence or neediness, and the promise of devotedness are usually turn-ons. Venus in Cancer men often go out of their way to avoid feeling rejected, and this is mirrored in their attraction to women who are not too aggressive, loud, or overly confident.

If a man's Venus is in Pisces, he is often impressed with a feminine aura of softness, sweetness, and neediness to a certain degree. She need not be robust or aggressive. Lacking in confidence is just fine, and so is a touch of helplessness.

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One of the boys?

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If a man's Venus is in Aries, he is often attracted to a tomboyish woman, perhaps athletic in appearance, but more importantly, direct, forthright, and straightforward. Ultra sensitive or shy women are not usually the most attractive women to these men, as they tend to prefer strong and independent types.

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Take it with a pinch of salt

posted September 12, 2006 03:31 AM            

I have a prob w a pisces man whose venus and mars are both aries (leo moon, virgo asc).

You said you kinda liked the other person to make the first move? But how do you make it known that you want them to?

Being a pisces as well I'm shy and have trouble doing that. We both only ring each other when we've been drinking and are feeling brave.

He reckons I ignore him, but I think he ignores me.

Can't win. Do you think I should bite the bullet and ring him?

Its been going on for 8 months now but I'm not sure if its just a drunk thing.

posted September 12, 2006 11:34 PM            

1. 12th house Aqu - not necessarily secret but distant (Aqu) plus maybe private/hidden? (12th h)
2. Venus square Neptune - unrealistic expectations maybe?
3. Venus in Aries - independence
4. Pisces - shyness maybe?

I am also an Aqua with Ven Sag and feel the same as you but I am now in a good relationship. I never attracted anyone, just looks and no approaches. I guess we are so independent and want them to come to us. You're young, you still have many years in front of you.

posted September 14, 2006 01:03 AM              

hmm, tough questions.

Rather than liking, I would say I loved her (for first Gem). The relation developed more from very close friendship. At some point, separation made my feelings come out. And second one was a case where my own situation become unbearable as I felt strongly attracted to her and I had no idea about her feelings. (Not sure if all the fire in my chart got me to blurt it out)
I think if he is a Pisces, whatever extra-care (which goes beyond normal friendship) you show for him, should make him realize that you have some softness for him.

However both being Pisces its kinda tough as we tend to disguise our care/feelings for others.

I am not sure how we react if the other person takes the lead, however if you love him you might want to bite the bullet. Derive strength from the things you know about one's self - that we are not of confronting/leading types. Tell yourself that you can take the lead, you can confront. (We might depend on others to push us to do things which we are shy of doing. However use your self to get that support).

Other thing I could think of is, online communication/confrontation/getting to know more about him, emails/chat/telephone, as we might be less shy as compared to face-face communication. The first relation I had developed through such a mechanism, as opening up for us takes time (needs to develop a close relation for that).

posted September 14, 2006 01:47 AM            

You know I was thinking the same thing about using what I know of myself to guess where he's at. I kinda told myself I was being silly though and projecting onto him what I wanted to beleive.

Its interesting what you said about getting to know one another better over the phone/txt/whatever. We talk easily on the phone (although at least one of us is usually drunk lol) but also get along well whenever we're together once those first shy, awkward moments have past.

He's funny cos I was the one who first approached him but then he backed right off so I thought ok this guy just ain't keen! But as soon as I leave him alone he starts ringing me complaining I ignore him.