posted September 23, 2006 06:08 AM            

He hasn't. He never will.

I need to know if theres a chance to fix this and possibly build something deeper because of it. Are there any excellent communication days coming up for us?

posted September 23, 2006 12:16 PM              

Looking only at Mercury (thinking, also talking) connections between you...your Jupiter (expansion) squares (energy needs to be combined with) his Mercury, so be careful not to exaggerate what he says. His Saturn (duty, also restriction, structure, authority) squares your Mercury, so let him know when his attempt to structure his speech toward you gets too restrictive or "talking down to"-like.

Mercurially,

posted September 23, 2006 06:20 PM            

I do feel we have problems with communication sometimes, thats how this mess started. I've never felt on such a level playing field with anyone before and that scares me. Usually I think I'm stronger or admit that they obviously are.

posted September 24, 2006 12:32 AM              

If you have been "avoiding these conversations" then it is time to HAVE these conversations about what each person wants out of the relationship. If BOTH people want to work things out between them, they can. But first you have to make sure that you are both "on the same page" with this relationsip.

Relating,

posted September 24, 2006 03:48 AM            

He seems to expect me to drop everything whenever HE wants to see me. I was getting sick of that actually, and I guess him trying desperately to reach me the other night was a control thing. He probably wanted to see if I'd come running.

Oh dear!!! I'm just assuming he's the one with control issues. Hope thats what came up anyway!

We've been off and on for 8 months now, my crushes have never lasted this long before. I usually get distracted. Lol. Guess thats kinda short term in the scheme of things though.

posted September 24, 2006 12:05 PM            

I found myself being honorably pursued by a lovely man who I've been attracted to for years and all I wanted to do was run away! It made me feel extra strongly for the pisces lover, but now I'm not sure if thats real or not. My heart says yes, but my brain says 'no way, unhealthy, forget about him'

Are the transits all wrong for me to be starting anything with someone or is there something in my chart that stops me forming healthy relationships?

I've seen all the charts I just have no idea what they mean or how to interpret them.

posted September 24, 2006 12:53 PM              

Control issues in a chart synastry are indicated by stressful connections to Pluto. The Pluto person will tend to be the controlling one and the other person's planet will indicate what energy in the other is being controlled. In your chart synastry, your Pluto opposes (stresses) his Venus (relationships) and Mars (being, also action), indicating YOU may be controlling the relationship with him and his actions in some way.

As to "unhealthy relationships", you have Venus (relationships) square (energy needs to be combined with) Neptune (spirituality, also illusion), indicating you may be seeing in relationships what you WANT to see...not what is really there. The challenge is to take the time to wait until you can see clearly what the other person is like. They WILL reveal their "true selves"...eventually. Give it time and you will know. Since Pisces energy is about "breaking down barriers" to get to the true energy underneath...if you feel a person is "unhealthy" for you, you are probably right!

Relating,

posted September 24, 2006 06:31 PM            

This little game has gone on with pisces boy for 8 months, as I said. We seem to do the same things to each other so its probably true that I'm trying to control him in some way. I don't mean to I just have no confidence when it comes to people I really like, he's like that too apparently although I'm not sure if he likes me or not.

During this time the more I know him the more I like him. The little things thrill me and there are sides to his personality I definately don't like but they just make the good seem better for some reason.

Usually my little crushes fizzle out after a few weeks. I'm just seriously impatient with the whole situation although what you said about my venus/neptune aspect really makes sense.

I usually dive into relationships only to find out the person I'm with just ain't who I thought he was!

This is the first time I've ever casually seen anyone for so long without getting bored and moving on. Its at a cross roads now I guess.

I've had people post me loads of lovely things about our synastry (and a few bad bits) but I guess I need to really hear the bad and the ugly.

Its not that I feel he's unhealthy for me (my ex was really damaging but I'm past that), just that my fear and the way I'm not dealing with it is.

posted September 25, 2006 05:07 AM              

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But first you have to make sure that you are both "on the same page" with this relationsip.

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OzMeg222, this might be the part you keep skipping.

posted September 25, 2006 05:33 AM            

Decided I've spent enough time waiting for him anyway, he's had ages to work out what he wants, he can't keep giving me mixed messages.

I'm just going to move on with my life. Feel like a bit of a goose for getting so worked up about the whole thing actually.