posted October 15, 2006 06:35 PM              

"They're only planets. You can overcome anything if you love enough!"

posted October 16, 2006 09:11 AM              

However the best advice I had during those times was to put my attention on the positive and live in the 'now' - the more you worry and fret about something that may or may not happen in the future, the more you're inadvertantly creating that outcome now. Whatever you put your attention on, you will manifest!

My guess is he's possibly just as worried as you are that he's going to lose you, hence the displays of affection. Why not talk to him about it?

Or perhaps arrange a date with him and plan to do all the things you both enjoy. You can then make it a priority to just spend some time together and just relax with one another. It'll remind you what you got together for in the first place rather than fretting about why you might split up.

posted October 18, 2006 02:29 PM              

Last night I asked him why our sex life has been so... non-active lately. He said he's depressed about the general direction of his life - he has no job and is disappointed in himself for not being able to get one when he had high hopes, we live in a cramped room (when we are at home), etc. I knew these were issues for him. And I asked him about us... in short, I think he's having a hard time dealing with the fact our relationship has become long-term (16 months now), when he (and as I did) expected it to be a short-term thing. And he said that he misses the freedom of dating. Because it's interesting to him to meet new people. All of this seems to have surfaced in the last month.

But in other parts of the conversation he mentioned things he hoped to do with me in the future, like him taking me overseas with his daughter.

I listened to all of this non-judgementally and didn't get emotional... I felt that it was important to be supportive and listen to his feelings.

He didn't say it in so many words, but I felt as though he sees our relationship as something of a responsibility maybe... I just don't know what do with this information he's given me. If I get emotional he'll regret telling me his feelings. But on one hand I feel sad and somehow betrayed and unappreciated that he would feel this way, and on the other I feel angry that at 35 years old he could be this emotionally immature!

Given that he's depressed overall, this could be colouring his whole attitude towards our relationship and maybe he should just deal with his depression first. In that case I would leave my bruised ego and feelings out of it, and just be supportive.

Or should I do what I'm really NOT ready to do, and just leave him?

posted October 18, 2006 03:16 PM              

(20/10/2006 to 21/11/2006) URANUS SQUARE VENUS

"Expect change, greater freedom, and openness, surprises, unforeseen disruptions, or intrusions, and a spirit of restlessness and discontentment in the romantic and sexual side of your relationship. If your love is strong, and your relationship essentially solid, the two of you will want to love and play in new ways together. There is a hot-and-cold, on-and-off, yes-and-no quality to your relationship now, which can be tantalizing or uncomfortable, depending upon how much certainty you need from a partner. This is definitely not the ideal time to make a decision that will affect the two of you long term - you are just too impulsive now."

So now what?

posted October 18, 2006 03:27 PM              

( from 29/10/2006 to 29/10/2006)
Saturn opposition Venus

"This is a time of withdrawal, seclusion, social isolation, aloneness, or the ending of an important relationship in your life. You are reevaluating the role of other people in your life, reassessing your loyalties and allegiances. You may feel overworked and under appreciated, critical of the people around you, lonely while at the same time wishing for more solitude and time for yourself. You will also be feeling and seeing the effects of your own behavior towards other people - your lovingness or lack of it. If you have been neglecting your loved ones, or your personal and emotional needs, you will begin to notice the barrenness, the coolness, the emptiness, the lovelessness. It is time for some soul-searching reflection on the role of Eros in your life. On another level, money and financial concerns may press heavily upon you, particularly if you have been lax or overly expansive in your spending as of late. This is a period of frugality. However, unless you have been exceptionally foolish or dishonest in your financial affairs, your fears of "losing it all" are most likely only that - fears, not reality.

Positive Potentials:

Eliminating waste, excesses, whatever is nonessential to your life. A greater appreciation for simplicity with a focus on quality rather than quantity. Releasing self-deception and illusions regarding others, particularly intimate others.

Negative Potentials:

Sadness, self-pity, self-isolation, rejection of others based on overly strict and unforgiving standards, miserliness. Joylessness.

Remedies and Suggestions:

Do not force yourself into sociability you do not feel in an effort to avoid the discomfort and loneliness you may be experiencing. Relationships formed at this time tend to have a needy or a profoundly heavy quality attached to them, and probably won't alleviate your inner yearning.

Quiet creative work in solitude can be soothing, as can making whatever circumstances you may find yourself in more beautiful. Take time to do things for yourself that you have neglected and may even feel very awkward at - cooking yourself a wonderful meal, going for a pleasure trip all by yourself.

Make amends to the people in your life you have neglected or been unloving towards. "

posted October 19, 2006 12:24 AM              

You have transiting (planets in the sky) Pluto (transformation) conjuncting (energy is combined with) your planetary energy in the 3rd house (thinking), which could be trasforming the way you think in some way.

He has two major tranits, one is transiting Neptune (spirituality, also confusion) conjuncting his Ascendant (self), which could cause him to be confused. He also has transiting Saturn (duty, also restriction) conjuncting his Descendant, which could cause him to feel restricted in relationships.

Telling,