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proudarcher
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posted October 26, 2006 10:09 AM
 
I don't know if u guys remember me cause its been a while. I really needed some alone time to think and find a direction in my life. Well its going alright slowly but surely. I have one problem though and it concerns a friend of mine. He has made such an impact on my life , more so then any other friend has , but i don't know if i can be as close cause its hard to deal with our relationship. I feel like im the one who is always giving and he just soaks it all up. He is so much more open and honest and free to speak his mind cause of me. But i feel like all i do is assist him and am always there for him. Im sorta beyond the point of talking to him about my feelings cause we get into serious arguments. More so then with anyone ive ever known. But at the same time we have this really good energy together. So my question is should i keep plugging into this friendship or is it one sided. I feel so confused. If anyone could at least clarify something , anything about our friendship i would really appreciate it. me dec. 18. 1979 at 11:07 pm him july 09 1980 at 9:07 pm please helpIP: Logged |
arcnpi
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posted October 26, 2006 01:44 PM
You forgot to give places of birth . . .-arcnpi IP: Logged |
proudarcher
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posted October 26, 2006 02:20 PM
oops... sorry. we were both born kitchener ontario. IP: Logged |
william
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posted October 26, 2006 04:02 PM
hi archer,
this composite indicates that you met him or were closest to him in jan/06.it seems like the last couple of months have been more draining and bickering than uplifting.you are entering a period of extreme distance from him.if you feel you've been drained then really watch out until the end of nov.
my advice is it is getting worse quickly and stop hanging immediately,as the composite has a mars/saturn conjunction square neptune,which cac show violence and flat out rip off.at least cut it off til middle december.again the near future id very bad.
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proudarcher
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posted October 26, 2006 04:34 PM
Wow , thanks William . I have to say i'm speechless. He is someone so close to me I can't understand why someone can be like that. Not that i'm not believing u it helps. I will definatly keep my guard up. Its just kinda scary. This is someone I communicate with on a daily basis. So will our friendship always feel like this and if I feel like this, how does he percieve our friendship ? Thank u sooo much. I don't like to blabber on but I don't let many people close to me and I let him it. I just don't want to be hurtIP: Logged |
william
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posted October 26, 2006 07:04 PM
hi archer,
the aspects that really alarmed me were a mars/saturn conjunction opposed to the moon and square neptune.saturn/mars = violence and the neptune square can be deception.
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proudarcher
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posted October 26, 2006 08:05 PM
HI William So correct me if i'm wrong cause I don't know much about astrology, but what your saying is that I may be decieved by him?? I'm not to worried about the violence cause he is to passive for that and i'm not really a violent person. Sorry if i'm bothering u but things have been different for a bit now. And I have been trying to distance myself. I guess I just needed some reassurance that I am doing the right thing. Cause no major conflicts have happened recently, i have been keeping my feelings to myselfIP: Logged |
Sharon49
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posted October 26, 2006 09:54 PM
Hello Sag, I am a virgo, but I was married to a sag and had 3 beautiful children with him. We loved each other from childhood days. We would make each other feel loved and secure just to be together. He was the fire sign, and I Virgo, Earth. Even though we loved and fought and broke up and went back, finally we split for good after 20 years. He married 3 more times, yet we always kept up with each other and shared our families with each other on certain events. He was so much fun, jump at the moment and no project was too great for him. I was afraid to venture out and kept a low profile. He was loved by everyone and loved back and I was jealous. He followed his dreams and made all of our lives better. He would come to me and discuss his other wife problems and I would do anything I could to help him. He passed away last Year. I miss him and everyone we knew misses him so much. I had to realize that my earth put his Fire out. Therefore, even though we loved each other, I had to let him go. I think of him everyday and miss him so much. With a water mate (july) it is much the same. Water will put a fire out if it is too much. Maybe this man is suffacating you and you don't realize it. Maybe you should give yourself more time and meet others. You are a dynamatic person and you need to live your life to the fullest. Don't wait too long!!IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
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posted October 26, 2006 10:01 PM
In response to Sharon above, I think that everyone has a chart to be looked at. I'm a cancer and I always get along with sags ( or sag influenced people) as a rule...no fire put out there. (Aries mars here speaking)
Anyways, yes ProudArcher I do remember you.  Maybe you should discuss this with him...tell him how you feel about the firendship. If he agrees to make an effort, than good. If not, then drop him. One question: Do you feel this way about the relationship because of him going into his shell every so often? If so, then he may even be suprised about these feelings you have and may even want to make more of an effort. So just talk to him!!! 
Bye
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wilsontc
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posted October 27, 2006 02:15 AM
archer,Your personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, and Mars) have mostly oppositions (energy is over-excited by) between them, which indicates a continual need to balance out between opposing energies/points of view. If one or the other person refuses to "balance out" then a tug-of-war for attention can result. Over time this many oppositions can make the relationship feel like a war zone. It takes a LOT of patience and understanding from BOTH people in the relation to work out all these issues. Balancing, Tim IP: Logged |
william
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posted October 27, 2006 04:34 PM
yeah there could be deception but not in the immediate future.but i would be careful in late november into december
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proudarcher
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posted October 27, 2006 05:41 PM
thanks everyone for your replies . Everyone had very valuable input and i'm taking it all in. What makes me angry is that I don't understand him. We have been friends for about 3 years and when he first entered my life he was at my side all the time. Then he backs away for awhile . I know this is a cancer trait and he is probably going back in his shell, but its so selfish. Its almost like he expects me to sit around and wait for him. When I make plans he gets upset. He says he doesn't but I can tell. So I feel bad. But he will go and make plans and think nothing of me. For some reason I feel I know him inside and out and the more I get to know him the more angrier I am. He is one of the most inconsiderate person I have ever met. So I still talk to him, just did 10 min ago. But i'm trying to avoid actually seeing him. Its so confusing . A love hate thing. Thanks everyone so much and if u have any other input please respond. Thank u. I just can't help feeling like im a bad friendIP: Logged |
Sharon49
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posted October 28, 2006 08:38 PM
Hon, let him go and find you a mate that is either another fire sign or a Air sign. The air will make the firs grow. Work on getting these signs to help you before you committ to this water sign. Hoey , It will be good for a while, but it doesn't have the lasting requirements for a happy life. I know - I was married to one and loved him desperately. I had to let him go. IP: Logged |
cristiname
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posted October 29, 2006 06:10 AM
hi, william. do you consider transits to the composite chart when you talk about good/bad times in the relationship? or what? thanx,
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Sharon49
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posted October 29, 2006 10:34 PM
Hello Proudarcher, My friend Sag, I know I have written you just above, but I must insist for you that you should really look at what he has brought into your life. My husband that was the Sag was a wonderful man and joy knew no bounds with him. He was an ever seeking adventurer. He loved life and everything to do with it. I feel this is what you are like also. Can't you see that you will always have this crab shuting himself up in his shell from time to time and when it suits him! You are free as the wind and don't need him holding you back. Break free and find you someone that has the same energy as you. Maybe a soft spot will remain in your heart for him always, but he is not what you need for a permanent relationship. You have only one life to live and it should be with someone that shares your values and goals in life. Move on Honey!IP: Logged |
proudarcher
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posted October 30, 2006 06:45 PM
hi sharon49. Thank u for giving me some advice it was really needed.Im going to give u some background info. This cancer is a very special person to me but not in a romantic scense. He is more like a family member then anything. And he is like a family member because he made himself that way. I have never met a friend that would be by yourself basically all the time. So I got used to him. Me and him are also friends with another girl who is a capricorn. He was friends with her and the same thing happened to her except that he pulled away and started clinging to me. We all work together and when I say he is over all the time I mean that. Everyday afterwork, weekends except for one day when he would visit her. I didn't want to get close cause he has that pattern but he doesn't really give u an option. I have been very close to him about 2 years now. But I am pulling away now. I completely get what your saying and your right. I cant take it anymore. Thank u . Sorry I blabbered lol. If u have any questions feel free to ask.IP: Logged |
Sharon49
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posted November 04, 2006 08:34 PM
Proudarcher, you are a dynamatic sign and so full of energy. I am sure you will have much happiness and adventure in your life. How old are you? If you are still young, like in your 20's, then you really need to explore the wonders of the world. Give yourself plenty of education so you can be dependant on yourself. When your right person comes along, he will be acceptable of your style of life and want to share it with you. I know you will always be friends with the Cancer man, but you would be sad to lose your young life and then not ever have the chance to explore the beauty of life while you are beautiful. Make the most of your summer days. They quickly turn to Autumn season in your life. Then we realize what we let slip away. God Bless, SharonIP: Logged |
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