posted November 14, 2006 06:35 PM              

I thought i had learnt from my past relationships. I thought I knew what i wanted. i thought that THIS relationship wud work!

As far as i can make out, we are made for each other. we are supercompatible on everything, i like and respect him immensely, and find him ohh so attractive.

BUT, he doesn't want to take the thing forward bcoz of various reasons. anyways, tht's not the point. the point is, tht thr r very few ppl who have touched me in this way, and i fear tht i am never going to find another person like him. well, i am not looking for a clone...i mean i fear tht i may never feel this way about anyone again.I really want to be in a relationship but not just for the heck of it, whn those kind of feelings are not present.

can anyone have a look at my chart and give me any clues abt wht kind of a person wud be suitable for me, and when, if ever, would he materialize? do i have something in my chart tht makes me go after the wrong guys, or ones tht r not available? or something that points to my deluding myself when in relationships?

birthdata:
16th jan, 1981, 5:30 pm, Lucknow, India

posted November 14, 2006 08:04 PM              

1. i have a loaded 7th house...sun, merc, mars there. I did have this immense yearning to find my soulmate upto like a year back. Now, i don't feel that way. Still need to have people around me, but don't NEED to be in a relationship...don't feel incomplete without one.

2. My N. Node is in leo in the 1st house (biting my nails....tht's supposed to pose a challenge for relnships, rite? )

3. Venus square saturn in capricorn. But i feel tht i have overcome my fear of rejection to a large extent.

4. Uranus in the 5th house

posted December 07, 2006 07:18 PM              

* yeah- yeah *

I don't know,

Which of you two of you wants to be married first?

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skip the light fandango

posted December 07, 2006 08:05 PM              

This is a BIG surprise!!! this post resurfacing after sooo long! how did u fish it out astro-junkie ?? and thanks for replying to it...i was honestly very pleasantly surprised

hehe, i know my ID is quite happy. and tho i wud love some sympathy and attention , truth is i am happy *most* of the times. until my cappy side emerges and i work myself up into a mess

AG, thanks, do cappies mostly marry late? i wonder why....

*edit* or is it the gemini moon which can't keep at one emotion for long....so whn all is going fine suddenly i'll some depressing thought will pop up in my head and i'll be all tears

posted December 07, 2006 08:12 PM              

I have venus/neptune in the 7th and would be happier if i was married to my soulmate by now. but ive also got Saturn in the 5th and Saturn square DC/7th hs cusp which means delays...I have a huge fear of rejection too...a fear of being rejected or having to reject someone else.

I have to keep reasoning to myself that it's better to feel and go through rejection than live a lie to spare feelings. It's important to know and be with someone that feels the same way about the relationship, and loves as much as you do.

posted December 07, 2006 08:38 PM              

its funny tht so many cappies marry late. may be they believe in 'better late than sorry'

i remember the discussion we had on another thread and the similarities in our charts (and life situations)

its just tht with my 3 planets in 7th, it hard sometimes. esp whn i meet someone who is *almost* my mr right. this one was/is. we have religious cultural differences, bcoz of which nothing's gonna happen. it sucks. but yes, we probably dont hv tht depth of feeling. so may be it is for the best.

i am sorry abt the rejection part. i know how it feels to reject/be rejected. it affects me real bad whn i feel 'rejected'. (thankfully with this guy, we continue to be close friends....so it didnt feel like he was rejecting me...just fate )

Astro-junkie....i didnt quite get this:

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Which of you two of you wants to be married first?

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posted December 07, 2006 08:47 PM              

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its funny tht so many cappies marry late. may be they believe in 'better late than sorry'

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i dont know if this is true...but I think they delay it till they're financially, physically and emotionally secure...

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its just tht with my 3 planets in 7th, it hard sometimes. esp whn i meet someone who is *almost* my mr right. this one was/is. we have religious cultural differences, bcoz of which nothing's gonna happen. it sucks. but yes, we probably dont hv tht depth of feeling. so may be it is for the best.

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posted December 07, 2006 09:03 PM              

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Saturn/Cap is also pretty conservative, traditional, and practical....so it's tough when most people are religiously and culturally different from you...yep it sucks...Saturn is looking for longevity and belives things will work better in the long run this way.

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actually, no....i was kinda ok with it (just a wee bit queasy...but willing to give it a try). it was he who was more conservative. he has a stellium in saggi...very religious and conventional. not in a narrow-minded kind of way. (my aquarius mars/merc won't tolerate any narrow-mindedness), but more in a 'i know it is not wrong, but i can't do it'. may be he never felt that strongly about me to want to confront his family about it.

actually the reason these differences dint bother me was bcoz on a personal level they never figured. we r both equally comfortable with english, can eat any kind of food, no hangups abt anything. its like i wudnt mind visiting a church with him, and i never go to a temple anyways. and he happily came to my place on a festival(diwali) and and helped me to light candles. in fact, superificial ritualistic things apart, what brought us together was our very strong belief in God.

posted December 07, 2006 09:29 PM              

u knw wht, he even has his jupiter in saggi....along with moon, uranus, neptune AND ascendant !

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hey dont worry abt it...i hv kinda accepted things as they are. the best thing is, we both believe that 'whatever happens, happens for the best'. helps me to stay 'InLoveWithLife'

posted December 07, 2006 09:38 PM            

I think people have brought up a couple of good points. Caps are cautious, they are NOT usually spontaneous. So, I know that even if I'm crazy about someone after an initial meeting, if they were to ask me to marry them after just one or two dates I'd NEVER say yes. That just seems too risky to me, other people might find it romantic though.

posted December 07, 2006 09:46 PM              

i know all about your pisces guy. i have been following your threads about your pisces, but didnt write anything as i really didnt know wht to say. i am sooo much like you. the part whr u talked abt your reaction, whr u watched TV with unseeing eyes, tht is sooo me. it brought tears to my eyes.

did u talk to him yet? i know it can be very scary...esp with our fear of rejection. but u've gotta believe that u r worth it. that it is possible for a guy to love you enuf to work a way around a problem like that.

and i agree 100% to what you just said here. absolutely everything. i am exactly like that. if this fellow asked me to marry me, i wud be married to him in a DAY. but on the other hand, i tend to take it really slow at the beginning, esp if someone tries to come on too strong. i scare most ppl away, in fact...i am the official guy repellant

posted December 07, 2006 09:49 PM              

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It FREAKED ME THE HE*L OUT!!! I wanted to run screaming out of the room

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tht's me too!!!

posted December 07, 2006 09:50 PM              

CrankyCap

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I absolutely, positively, WILL NOT settle. I will grow into a bitter old maid like the lady in Great Expectations before I will settle. I consider myself a "romantic realist." I believe in true love, but not love at first sight.

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I am the exact same way!

posted December 07, 2006 09:56 PM              

i dont know if u guys have noticed this....i think a few of us here r reeeally reeeally alike. i love you folks!! u make me feel so good about myself. and it is not anything u say abt me...its wht u say about yourself that resonates with me so much.

i love this forum bcoz of ppl like u

posted December 07, 2006 10:09 PM              

u know, we cappies can be quite intimidating sometimes, esp whn we 'freeze' like u did tht day. i think he is really scared at this point of approaching u directly. I can almost picture it in my minds' eye. i think he can sense your anger.

I'll get back with more....

posted December 07, 2006 10:20 PM              

heheh...oh it's one of those love/hate relationships.