posted November 14, 2006 07:08 PM            

For almost two years now, I have been in this crazy push and pull tango with a Sag (surprise?). I know I'm crazy for trying to attach myself to a Sag (and I'm a Cancer!) but perhaps.... I'll post our info before moving on...

Me: June 24, 1988 Oak Park, IL 2:00pm
Cancer Sun 3° in 9th
Scorpio Moon 0° in 1st
Gemini Mercury 18° in 9th
Gemini Venus 15° in 9th
Pisces Mars 20° conj 6th
Taurus Jupiter 24° in 8th
Sag Saturn 28° in 3rd
Sag Uranus 28° in 3rd
Cap Neptune 8° in 3rd
Scorpio Pluto 9° in 1st
Libra Asc 15°

Him: November 26, 1987 Oak Park, IL
Sag Sun 4° in 6th
Aquarius Moon 20° in 9th
Scorpio Mercury 19° in 5th
Sag Venus 28° in 6th
Scorpio Mars 1° in 5th
Aries Jupiter 20° in 11th
Sag Saturn 21° in 6th
Sag Uranus 25° in 6th
Cap Neptune 6° in 7th
Scorpio Pluto 10° in 5th
Cancer Asc 4°

Lately, we've been closer to actually coming out as a couple, but both of us have avoided any serious discussion about such a big step. For years now, we've been best friends and everyone refers to our frequent bickers as lover's spats. We both laugh it off... trying to ignore the sexual tension still [and will always] remain between us.

I guess... I just.. don't know what to do... or if this relationship is worth keeping....

posted November 15, 2006 10:24 AM            

After seeing his natal chart AND your synastry, I am not surprised. I will tell you why.

I noticed that he has Venus-Saturn-Uranus conjunction in Sagittarius. This indicates that his affections,love nature,structure,discipline,and his independence,excitement are merged with each other. It can indicate tension,excitement,instability,unpredictability
restriction,limitations,detachment,separation in love as well as the up and down or bipolar relationship or the roller coaster ride that you said. He could find it very hard to express affection because of the instability,inhibitions that he might feel at times. This guy might be very difficult to be in a relationship with.

I noticed that your Saturn-Uranus conjunction in Sagittarius conjuncts his Venus in Sagittarius with an orb less than 1 degre,and that can be very tough. Your structure,discipline AND your independence merge with his affections,love. It can indicate tension,excitement,instability,unpredictability
restriction,limitations,detachment,separation in love as well as the up and down or bipolar relationship or the roller coaster ride that you said. He could find it very hard to express affection with you because he might even feel that you have an unstable and restricting effect on him. There can be coldness,distance between you two. This pretty much adds to his own love,affection issues of his Venus-Saturn-Uranus conjunction. It also indicates what you said
That indicates
"the sexual tension still [and will always] remain between us." keyword is tension when it comes to Saturn-Uranus stuff.

His Mars conjuncts your Moon in Scorpio,and that indicates that his actions,assertiveness ,passion merge with your emotional nature,feelings,instincts in an intense,passionate,transformational,and even sexual way. This could indicate intense passion,sexual between you two as well as emotionally charged relationship which can also involve impulsiveness,impatience. He could seem a bit brash,aggressive,insensitive at times to you,and you can seem to be too sensitive,emotional at times to him.

That also indicates
"the sexual tension still [and will always] remain between us." The conjunction in Scorpio can be sexual.

You have Mercury square Mars,and that indicates that your communications,thinking are in conflict with your actions,assertiveness,passion. You can be impatient,aggressive in communications.
His Saturn opposes your Mercury and squares your Mars for a t-square, and so his structure and discipline are at odds with your communications,thinking as well as in conflict with your actions,assertiveness,passion that there could be great stress and conflict. This indicates that his restricting and limiting you can aggravate the issues of your Mercury square Mars. This also indicates serious frustration and communication difficulties that can lead to arguments and vice versa as well. There is also potential or violence due your Mars squaring his Saturn. It's a very challenging t-square. Any t-square involving both Mars and Saturn is especially challenging. Your t-square is mutable,and so the challenges also involving being changeable,adaptable,and restlessness. A lot of ups and downs,and this can also indicate that roller coaster ride as well as your statement

"For years now, we've been best friends and everyone refers to our frequent bickers as lover's spats."

This is a very challenging synastry overall...any time a synastry has a t-square,it tends to very challenging including a lot of stress,conflict,and struggles. There is a major effort needed to maximize potential.

I also would like to see at least 2 of the big 3(Sun,Moon,Ascendant)compatible for good basic compatibility.

Your Sun in Cancer is incompatible with his Sun in Sagittarius AND they are in quincunx aspect indicate stress,tension between your egos,self expressions which require need for adjustment.
Your Moon in Scorpio is incompatible with his Moon in Aquarius
Your Libra Ascendant is incompatible with his Cancer Ascendant.

all of the big 3 are incompatible. That doesn't look good for compatibility

Your Mercury in Gemini and his Mercury in Scorpio are incompatible AND they are in quincunx aspect indicate stress and tension between your communications,thinking which require need for adjustment

His freedom-loving,independent Sun-Moon blend could be a problem for your emotional,security-oriented Sun-Moon blend

This can easily turn into a love and hate relationship if you are not careful.
The relationship can work if you both want it badly and work very hard to make it work. If you don't,you will end up breaking up on unfriendly terms.

Free will is the ultimate factor.

posted November 15, 2006 11:41 AM            

You referred to you and him as best friends...so I looked for configurations that indicate best friends stuff.

Indicators:

Your Sun trine his Mars. That indicates that your ego,self expression are in ease with his actions,assertiveness,and passion. This is good for stimulating,direct expression as well as motivating each other.

Your Moon sextiles his Venus. That indicates that your emotional nature,nurturing are supportive with his love nature,affection. This is good for feeling affection as well as caring about each other.

His Mercury trine your Mars. That indicates that his communications,thinking are in ease with your actions,assertiveness,and passions. This is good for stimulating,direct communications as well as motivating each other.

Your Mercury sextiles his Jupiter. That indicates that your communications are supportive with his expansion,philosophy,judgment. This is good for optimistic,enthusiastic communications as well as being each other's cheerleader.

His Jupiter conjuncts AND parallels your descendant. That indicates that his expansion,philosophy,judgment merge with your relationship,partnership outlook. This is good for optimistic,enthusiastic relationship.
This configuration could be the best friend's stuff as it could indicate good stuff between you two. There can be a strong tendency to forgive each other.

His Mars sextiles your Saturn. That indicates that his actions,assertiveness,passion are supportive with your structure,discipline. This is a good aspect for working together on ambitions,goals.

posted November 15, 2006 01:58 PM            

The Sag and I are basically over. We can only be friends and nothing more. No matter how many times we've tried to evolve into lovers (never successfully, as many times as we've tried), we will always just see each other as compatriots and never more.

The other day he told me that he felt trapped by my choice of occupation. I've decided to go into International Journalism (concentration in medical, science and environmental reporting). I don't want to get married until I'm 27ish (That's around my Saturn return actually, funny...) and I definitely don't want children until I'm in my 30s.

He wants to settle down and get married early in his 20s. He wants to have kids in his 30s as well, but he needs someone to come home to. He feels trapped in my schedule, under my terms. But there's nothing I can do about that. It's the life that I want and am meant for. I want him to fit into it, but I don't fit into his hopes and dreams for his future.

I think that he initially saw me as this motherly, home-loving female that he could depend on staying home and taking care of the kids while he pursues his ambitions (he's becoming a surgeon). I guess I surprised him in the end...