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InLoveWithLife
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posted November 15, 2006 03:32 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi everyone,

i am trying to get over someone who i thought, and still think, is perfect for me. lately, i hv begun to feel tht may be thr is something fundamentally wrong with me, and the way i approach relationships. i studied my chart for this, and here is wht i came up with:

Birthdata:16th jan, 1981, 5:30 pm, Lucknow, India

1. i have a loaded 7th house...sun, merc, mars there. I did have this immense yearning to find my soulmate upto like a year back. Now, i don't feel that way. Still need to have people around me, but don't NEED to be in a relationship...don't feel incomplete without one.

2. My N. Node is in leo in the 1st house (biting my nails....tht's supposed to be bad for relnships, rite? )

3. Venus in Capricorn square Saturn in Libra.

4. Uranus in the 5th house, Neptune end of 5th house

How bad is it? can i do something about it? or am i to go without love in this lifetime ? I am simply not interested in having a relationship just for the sake of it, and love seems to elude me.

any kind of help in the form of insights/suggestions would be highly appreciated. Especially would like to hear from people who have similar aspects in their charts, and what effect they think it has had on their relationships.

Thanks a lot
ILWL

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InLoveWithLife
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posted November 16, 2006 12:07 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Arnicka
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posted November 16, 2006 12:33 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I share ALL of points 3 & 4 with you.

On pt 3 I find it strange because altho theyre squared theyre also in mutual reception. Also theres nothing wrong with you but dammit this aspect does screw with your head. Probably would do better with someone older [at least 7 yrs] and you know what young men that we have to deal with [our age] most of them just dont GET IT. This is definitely my opinion and Im sticking with it no matter what. It really is that simple. Who knows what world theyre in but we are wayyy too different from them. Ive read about Venus square Saturn somehow not fitting in to the attractive "ideal" of their age group and I do believe this. There is something timeless about us and very sincere and grounded and it takes a certain DEPTH to appreciate it. Nothing is wrong with you, but yes I had this problem: the others are just not up to speed. And honestly, not many will be -- but when you have this aspect like I do you dont want 10 million people to adore you -- just one good gold SOLID person. Thats all it takes and yes you will see glimpses of whoever that person is in other people but you wont know it until you meet him and then youll be knocked upside your head. This aspect means we get better with age: better looking, more confident, more secure with our value to others and ourselves. DONT FORGET THIS. We are always improving. I have to keep telling myself this sometimes because its so easy to forget. --TIME-- is the key word for this combo.

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can i do something about it?

Of course

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or am i to go without love in this lifetime?

Only if you shut it out

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I am simply not interested in having a relationship just for the sake of it, and love seems to elude me.

This goes with the depth of your love nature because its Capricorn alongside probably the Neptune in 5th. Keep in mind that not everyone deserves what you have to offer, esp with that Neptune in 5th lord knows Ive forgotten that at times, be alert to wanting to SAVE others [I have to worry dbl about this cos Im Pisces] -- but this aspect has the potential for being very creative and romantic. If you feel like your sexual/romantic/love energies have nowehere to go and youre feeling sorry for yourself: go CREATE something, go HELP someone: youll feel 100% refueled.

I mightve sounded preachy in this post but I didnt like the "despair" that I sensed in your post [prob cos it reminded me of mine in the past] and felt that you needed to read this.

Take care

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InLoveWithLife
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posted November 16, 2006 12:52 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks sooo much Arnicka!! you don't know what that reply means to me!! they just dont get it...nobody does : (

hell yes, i am really idealistic when it comes to love. yes, i want DEPTH. people of my generation just dont seem to get it. they are like, wht's wrong with you, he's a nice guy, wht more do u want ?!! I guess i want to connect with my mind, heart and soul....i feel tht if that is not there, then wht is there to hold us together? i am really turned off by people who are interested in me becoz i'm available (yukk!), or 'nice' and 'sweet' (well i am, but i am also a host of other things which they just want to shut their eyes to!).

but thanks for your reply...i wonder sometimes if i shud begin to compromise...but something inside tells doesnt let me. tht's wht i meant whn i asked whether my approach is fundamentally wrong.

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InLoveWithLife
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posted November 16, 2006 01:02 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
you know what Arnicka, one day when i was feeling particularly miserable....about why wht i am looking for should be so hard to find. i mean to me it seems common sense, the only way to be....but thr r so few whom i can respect and like....ppl who r true to themselves in some measure...but they all invariably fall short. its like they are 'glimpses' of who i am looking for, like u put it.
ya, so i digressed frm wht i was going to say. one day i was more than a little depressed, and began to enlist wht i had to offer....and this is wht i came up with. I will quote it exactly:

"I am responsible (don't fall for people with no substance...isn't that something?), steadfastly loyal (didn't leave my ex-boyfriend even after what he did), devoted when in love (the guy who makes me fall in love with him AND loves me back, will be one lucky ******* ! )."

Doesn't it sound like you

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InLoveWithLife
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posted November 16, 2006 01:08 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
ok, now to address the neptune part. yesss!! i have fallen into that trap before....whn i entered into a relationship with someone whom i wanted to literally save....turns out in the end i had a hard time saving my own faith and self esteem
So yeah, i guess i learnt my lesson. but i do like to help others, and feel a deep compassion for ppl struggling to find themselves. but fortunately hv begun to detach myself from these very ppl i wud like to help. and yes, i am creative! it does really help me. gosh! u r so like me, its eerie.........

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Arnicka
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posted November 16, 2006 01:35 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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i am really turned off by people who are interested in me becoz i'm available (yukk!), or 'nice' and 'sweet' (well i am, but i am also a host of other things which they just want to shut their eyes to!).

Yesss! This is so me! I hate it, I definitely want substance in a person, someone REAL and true to themselves, if they dont have it im not interested. And yea sometimes I think maybe my standards are too high maybe too picky but dammit I know what I have to offer and why should I settle?

Glad to know my post helped you at least a lil bit. Take care, hon

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taurean_scorpion
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posted November 22, 2006 01:44 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
*gasp* how did I not see this thread before???

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InLoveWithLife
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posted November 22, 2006 03:53 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am glad u read it now...i thought my reply to you on the moons and emotions thread had gone unnoticed.
there is nothing i love more than to find people who think like me, and many times i find, they also happen to be in the same boat as me. Venus/saturn aspects can be hard...*sigh*
how r u doing now? breakups can be bad....was it serious ?

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