posted December 11, 2006 10:15 PM            

Wish there was something to say to make it go away. I do belive that sitting with/feeling pain keeps it from lingering longer than necessary.

posted December 11, 2006 11:17 PM            

I feel for you Nat, I'm not going to tell you to cheer up, just wallow for a while- but not for too long.

posted December 12, 2006 03:39 AM              

Sorry for what you are going through.....

Hope you find a "lover" soon

posted December 12, 2006 03:44 AM              

hope you get into better spirits soon.

posted December 12, 2006 03:59 AM              

The personality is prodded to feel guilty for no fault and to merge with the masses for a greater good, to accept suffering, to downgrade oneself and to throw darts with pinpoint accuracy at oneself in the game of life.

Self pity, excess sympathy and other traits work overtime to absorb sob stories and negative vibes from other auras like a dehydrated sponge.

Try a Fire Sign transformation to break the cycle of sadness. Fry the Fish in your sign with some Leonine heat or sell it as sushi, Aries entrepreneur style.

posted December 12, 2006 07:01 AM              

Lights and plenty of Love,

posted December 12, 2006 10:28 AM            

I just went through that myself---

It has been a long tough journey to let him go as he is as he will be for who he is (hmmm interesting, was a Bull I let go of and I am a Pisces!)

But what relief I finally feel to let him go and love him unconditionally for the man who he is with all of his flaws--that is not to say I will ever go there again with him, but I had to be the bigger person and just let go....Once and for all.

Sending Peace and Love

posted December 12, 2006 08:18 PM              

It's so hard to deal with heartbreak during the Holidays. Are you close to your family? Seems like a good situation to visit your grandmother or may be an aunt, someone who loves you unconditionally and will never stop loving you no matter what.

posted December 12, 2006 10:00 PM            

I had to live with him while he carried on a relationship with another woman. I was a bit of the opposite in that I lost a ridiculous amount of weight during the whole ordeal - people thought I had become anorexic. Every time she called he'd get a low, sexy tone in his voice and leave the room. I'd often run to the bathroom to get sick. He finally chose me after 8 long months of hell, but then a year later I got an email from ANOTHER woman that he was sleeping with.

As deep as my anger was, I still loved the guy for such a long time. I know you're thinking about the "temporary bandaid" of another man's arms, and that's EXACTLY what I did, I have to caution you against it - at least for a little while. The first time I had sex in my attempt at vengeance against the Taurus was terrible. I turned my head and cried through the entire thing. Then I jumped into the first of three terrible relationships. None of the men were right for me, but I just felt I needed SOMETHING to cover the hurt. It didn't work, and may have actually made things worse. They say you should take the same amount of time getting over someone, that you spent with them. That seems to have been true in my instance. I would wait for a while and resist using the band aid method. Let yourself heal for a while, and then just casually date. Try and have fun.

Your story sounds so similar to what I went through. I can relate to not having many girlfriends, I can relate to having to have it rubbed in your face every day...believe me I understand, and it really IS the worst feeling in the world. I remember thinking MANY times that you're better off either not loving anyone at all, or just USING men that you don't love. I STILL battle with those feelings after the scars that the Taurus left...it's a constant battle for me to trust the Pisces I'm with now.

Try and be true to yourself. He's a horse's a*s for not being able to see what he had. His karma will come...as will her's for using "fake" sympathy.

I know hearing these words right now won't do a damn bit of good for you, but deep in your heart you know that time heals. It's the ONLY thing that heals. Give that to yourself. You owe it to yourself to take the time to heal, and that's all you have to do right now.

Best of luck, and God Bless!