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Topic: PLEASE HELP - Desperately Need Advice on Cancer Man
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sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 08:46 AM
 
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jupitersgirl
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posted December 19, 2006 09:14 AM
I don't thinking you should consider it as "using you for sex". It seems like there's a strong attraction between you and you just do what you feel like doing and there's nothing wrong about that. I'm also a sag and I had a reltionship with a cancer in the past, and I can tell you that they are very emotional and he's probably afraid of getting hurt when you move away. Cancers immediately get in their shell when they fear something and that explains why he told you that he didnt want anything serious. Probably he wants something with you but he's afraid of getting hurt. The way he acted would be different if you weren't moving away.And also he's right about it,if you start a relationship he will get hurt when you move away (you'll also get hurt) I think you should percieve this guy from this point of view. I don't think that he's using you, because like I said the cancers I know are very emotional.IP: Logged |
thedividedsky
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posted December 19, 2006 09:18 AM
Cancer man, huh? I don't have much experience with them, but I am learning about them as we speak. (i have one in my life) i think that the cancer definitly "likes" you enough to enjoy your company and have a good time with you. And if you also shared that good time, why not continue? My question is......how far away are you moving in the summer? Is it too far to keep in touch? That may be the deciding factor. I think that a cancer guy could start out a relationship with sex only, and then realize that he wants more....like any guy out there might do. Although, I have met one cancer guy that said that if when we first met, I "gave in" and had sex with him, he would have thought I was a **** . (never mind that he would have been one too.....!!) And he would have never contacted me again. He had this double standard kind of thing going on, but i think a lot of men are like that again, sorry to pin on cancer males out there!! I think all you need to do is think about what YOU really want out of it, and do it! IP: Logged |
sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 09:23 AM
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thedividedsky
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posted December 19, 2006 09:23 AM
also, i have had an experience where, upon a very similar situation to yours(we met, were VERY attracted to each other, had a "fling").........and the cancer started in with....."don't call me everyday" I was a little shocked as we had been chatting up to that point almost everyday. But, we decided to be "casual", so I was like, that's fine with me.Well, it turns out HE"S the one calling ME all the time.
So, yes, I think that cancer shell was affecting what he said, but it wasn't actually what he wanted in the end. Good luck to you, and I hope things work out the way you want them to. IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
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posted December 19, 2006 09:24 AM
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I cannot get this guy outta my head and I'm never like that. I have been known to blow guys off but he really got under my skin
Sweetheart, now you're learning about us...never easy to forget about us. 
Naww but for real, if he's introducing you as his "girl" to his friends and such then maybe he really likes you. But he's really sounding contradictory...not wanting anything serious but then doing other things that suggest otherwise. You know what? He kind sounds...like.....ME! 
That's why I almost didn't get my man in the beginning, he thought I played games when I was really being self-protective, thats all. But he can't say he was entirely innocent either. IP: Logged |
sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 09:25 AM
Thanks thedividedsky! :-) That definitely gives me hope. It makes me feel like less of a "ho" too LOL Thanks!IP: Logged |
thedividedsky
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posted December 19, 2006 09:25 AM
oh! you don't have to move!!!! Definitly persue this guy...I would also try to play a little hard to get......that has seemed to work in the past for me!IP: Logged |
sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 09:26 AM
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posted December 19, 2006 09:29 AM
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thedividedsky
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posted December 19, 2006 09:45 AM
sag-that's so funny......i'm in a very similar experience. i was wondering the same thing....should i tell him i want it to be more than casual...should i not????remember, everyone is different. Well, it seems like it's a little of both......at different times. he seems to need freedom (who doesn't) and also the feeling that I am into him (and he doesn't want to hear about me being into anyone else!!) That is fine for me now, i want my freedom, but love to know the fact that someone cares. (and a relationship is the scariest thing for me right now) basically, he wants his cake, and wants to eat it too. but, to tell you the truth, He is such an interesting individual, I am just trying to go with the flow. We are not exclusive, but i wouldn't go chasing anyone else right now. Who knows about him! So.....from my perspective.....at first I was not feeling those "cancer vibes" But, with time, I laugh at him inside all the time, in his little shell, and when he comes out of that dark safe place.........IT"S ALL WORTH IT. IP: Logged |
sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 09:53 AM
thedividedsky - Are you a sag too? Cancer and I will actually get along fine if he fluctuates with what he wants bc I tend to get too close and then sort of freak out and need some freedom. LOL Do you know about comparing charts? Can anyone help me with that? I don't have his birth time, but I have my chart and his birth date. Thanks again everyone! I can't believe how much this one has gotten to me - it's so out of character!!! In fact, it's sort of pi$$ing me off how much I'm thinking about him. LOL IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
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posted December 19, 2006 11:21 AM
sure, goto astro.com IP: Logged |
sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 12:31 PM
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thedividedsky
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posted December 19, 2006 12:52 PM
Hi!Nope, I'm a little shy virgo (NOT!) Just go to astro.com, it's such a great site!!! Click on "free charts" it's off to the left hand side. Then click on "chart drawing-ascendant" off to the right hand side. (if you have your own birthtime) And plug in your info.....it's that easy!
And for him, you do need to know his birthtime for a complete "chart". However, if you know the date and year, you can still find out which sign all of the planets were in at his "first breath", which is all that some people ever know, because no birth time was recorded for one reason or another. IP: Logged |
sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 12:57 PM
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thedividedsky
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posted December 19, 2006 12:57 PM
so, once you have the info you can just google simple things like:"Venus in Virgo"
"mars in Gemini" it will bring up sites that have descriptions of what it may mean to have your venus in virgo, and so on. Most are very general, and astrology, like well, love and attraction and lust, has many layers to it. I have to say though.....it may not be the best idea to look into it too far, or beleieve everything you read. Astrology is a lifelong pursuit to some, there can be a million factors to it. I believe astrology is a template, nothing is set in stone, nothing is "absolutly horrific". Their are things to work with , and signs to look out for.
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sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 01:00 PM
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sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 01:01 PM
I got Venus in Cancer on one, but this shows Venus in Gemini - did I read somewhere to watch out for the Venus in Gemini Cancers????IP: Logged |
thedividedsky
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posted December 19, 2006 01:03 PM
I could see a some cancer people being drawn to you for your fiery mars in aries and sun in sag.Anyone who may be slightly "on the fence" about things(which given cancers "wishy washy moments) could be comfortable with someone who likes to make (and finds it easy) to make decisions. Which I am guessing you may be. IP: Logged |
thedividedsky
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posted December 19, 2006 01:07 PM
sag....you are making me smile.........take a breath!you remind me of me when i first starting learning all this stuff.....very excited!! I am on my lunch break at work, so I can't write much more.....my soup is getting cold!! REMEMBER!!!!! everyone is different. One cancer with a gem side may be completely different than another. What i have done is compared 15 years of knowing people and their charts, and tried to come up with some of my own conclusions. What have I come up with in all that time??? Well, let me tell you, some things yes, although there are no right/wrong answers. IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
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posted December 19, 2006 01:28 PM
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did I read somewhere to watch out for the Venus in Gemini Cancers????
Oh, thats bullsh%t! I'm a cancer with venus in gemini and have been with the same person for a year now. Its all in finding the right person for us...then we'll stay.
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sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 01:36 PM
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Dulce Luna
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posted December 19, 2006 01:50 PM
No, no, no...I was just saying that what those books say about us are bullsh%t. Don't believe what they always say about those with Gemini venuses. Sorry if I came on too strong  IP: Logged |
sag_girl
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posted December 19, 2006 01:51 PM
Okay good - I think maybe my pisces rising got worried? LOL
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